Zhong Sijia, Ph.D. in Educational Psychology, University of Oregon, USA, is an outstanding expert in parenting education in the Chinese-speaking world. He is currently a professor at Zhejiang Normal University's Teacher Education College and the chief consultant of Doudou Mama Studio. She has more than 30 years of experience in education and psychological research.
Wang hong, a bachelor's and master's degree in psychology from Beijing Normal University, is a national second-class psychological counselor, the chief expert of Doudou Mama Studio, and a family education expert specially invited by many primary and secondary schools, kindergartens and enterprises.
Li Fei and Yulu are national second-level psychological counselors, senior experts in parenting education, certified lecturers in parent effectiveness training, and experts in Doudou Mom Studio.
About this book
This book is a time management method manual with rich cases and strong practicability, which can effectively guide parents to solve their children's time management problems. This book puts forward a 30-day time management training plan for children aged 4 ~ 18, so that parents and children can start from the basics and gradually establish the concept of time, so that children can complete their learning tasks independently and efficiently, and at the same time get sufficient leisure and entertainment, killing two birds with one stone.
Core content
By recording and analyzing children's time logs, all the things that need to be arranged are graded according to their importance, and the primary and secondary importance and the required time are reasonably allocated; Quantify the time required to complete the task and improve the sense of accomplishment through the task list and star list; Through the goal decomposition method, we can improve the efficiency of learning and doing things in an all-round way, and supervise the behavior of parents through the black star list, and finally establish a good concept of time for children.
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First, how to help children establish the concept of time
As parents, we can first help our children to establish and clarify their own time concept by setting up their children's time logs and collecting and recording the time they need to complete tasks. The process of establishing and recording should be as detailed and systematic as possible, so as to provide accurate data for your future training. It should be noted that it is necessary to make a summary in the course of a week's recording, so as to have a clear idea and be targeted.
Secondly, through a week's record and observation, it is necessary to evaluate and divide children's daily activities. Then we can sort the divided daily activities, in a word, determine the importance of different things. This is a very crucial step, because the recognition of the importance of things is the main basis for children to manage time, and it is also an important step for children to establish a concept of time. According to this timetable, parents can analyze all children's behaviors and determine the order of doing things, so that children can be targeted. With children, prioritize time and do the right things at the right time to get better benefits.
Second, how to improve the speed of children's homework
One of the essences of time management is to make full use of every minute. The faster the speed per unit time, the higher the efficiency. Therefore, if parents want their children to manage their time effectively, it is imperative to improve the speed of doing things.
Parents can help their children make a task list. This task list includes four aspects: first, the tasks that children have to complete; The second is the time actually used to complete the task; Third, the standard time needed to complete the task is obtained after summary; The fourth is the time saved after the child completes the task. The focus here is how to use the time saved. If the child can finish the task ahead of time at a faster speed than usual, the time saved is the child's independent time. This time should be left to the children to decide for themselves.
Third, how to improve the accuracy of children's homework
In order to help children improve the accuracy of doing things. A practical operation method: target decomposition method is given in the book.
The goal decomposition method is to break down the big goal into small goals, just like climbing stairs, taking children step by step, giving them a chance to succeed and experience the sense of accomplishment of each small step, so as to achieve the big goal of reaching the top in the future. To put it simply, if you let your children dig a mountain, the goal will certainly seem out of reach, but if you turn the mountain into baskets of soil and move it a little every day, over time, you will certainly achieve your goal. This is actually the essence of "a drop of water wears a stone, a fool removes the mountain".
Fourth, how to improve time management methods and ultimately improve children's learning efficiency.
Improve children's ability to manage time by training them in the first three weeks. At this time, parents should review and summarize with their children and improve and perfect the training content in the first three weeks. In this week's time, what parents have to do is to improve and refine all the tasks. The specific method given in the book is that parents can make a black star list corresponding to the red star list with disciplinary nature. This practice is very necessary, because the role of the black star list is not only to spur and warn children, but also to summarize our parents in time, which can be said to be self-examination and anti-virus of the whole time management method.
For children, this black list is to cultivate them to abide by the rules and take responsibility. When some behaviors of children can't be accepted by society, and your criticism is not only ineffective but also intensifies the contradiction with children, a black star list will play a role in warning children, which is a very effective way to enhance children's sense of responsibility. Moreover, the black star list can warn children of some bad behaviors in advance and tell them what will happen if they choose a certain behavior, which will automatically establish an insurmountable warning line in their hearts. At the same time, these black stars can also give parents an outlet to vent their emotions, which is more rational, peaceful and effective than beating and cursing in a rage.
For parents, the role of black directories is even more prominent. In this black star list, if we don't control our emotions well, lose our temper or beat and scold our children when they manage and guide them to complete the task, then we will add black stars to ourselves. According to Mr. Doudou's experimental requirements, every time parents get a black star, children will add 5 ~ 30 red stars accordingly, which can be said to be very effective! In a positive sense, the black star list is to let parents control their emotions, learn to introspect, review mistakes and correct them, and set an example.
Through the guidance of this book, children will benefit from the following aspects: first, knowing what is the concept of time is to use time effectively to complete everything. Second, to help children improve the speed of doing things, parents should record the time their children spend and prioritize things. Third, by improving the speed and accuracy of children's homework, help children finally improve their learning efficiency and manage their time scientifically.
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1. Children have no life experience. They are born with a "perceptual inertia" to time. In their eyes, time seems to be nonexistent.
2. Make a table, which is a quantifiable and real task management system, which can let children intuitively know what he spends time doing and what he can do every day.
One of the essences of time management is to make full use of every minute. The faster the speed per unit time, the higher the efficiency.
4. When some behaviors of children can't be accepted by society, and your criticism is not only ineffective but also intensifies the contradiction with children, a black star list will play a role in warning children, which is a very effective way to enhance children's sense of responsibility.
Author: Liangzhou
Report: Gu Yifei
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