Many parents think that beating children is domestic violence. In fact, in modern society, many parents often use "soft violence" against their children under the heavy economic pressure, under the influence of the concept of "don't let their children lose at the starting line" and under the pressure of exam-oriented education in schools. Among them, verbal violence against children can be seen everywhere in many families. Many parents may disagree: what should I do if my child is disobedient and scolds, and it will not affect my child's health, so why make a fuss?

However, if children live in an unequal and disrespectful environment for a long time, language violence will bring serious harm to children. Most parents really love their children, but they often inadvertently use verbal violence against their children. Parents want their children to succeed, but their behavior can't meet their parents' expectations. In desperation, parents may "casually" say that their children are "how stupid?" Can't you do your homework well? "But, have you ever thought that parents' casual words of belittling and laughing at their children can produce a strong tremor in their hearts?

Some children are extreme and stubborn, and they will magnify their parents' casual words infinitely, thinking that their parents have hurt their self-esteem, which will lead to rebellious psychology and affect their children's treatment of people. In the future, children may become a cynical or even vicious person.

However, some children are introverted and obedient Once they are subjected to verbal violence by the most trusted person, it may become a psychological hint, making them feel that I am a stupid person and I am a useless person ... Slowly, children begin to deny themselves and have negative emotions. Over time, children may suffer from mental illness such as depression.

Psychologists believe that small psychological changes of educators, if manifested in their faces, tone, or even ridicule and abuse, will invisibly form a negative psychological field, and the strong radiation of this psychological field will change children's cognition of the world. Therefore, some parents think that it is irrelevant and casual, which may cause "lethality" to children. Therefore, when criticizing and educating their children, parents should put themselves in their own shoes and keep sincere communication with their children, so as to achieve the original purpose of education and maintain a good parent-child relationship.