12 the steps of "stepping on the road to goals" can be summarized into six words: "awakening, action and support".
1. Wake up.
Inspired by people other than relatives, observe how people with a sense of purpose work. "Cultivation of Outlook on Life" points out that a person will be inspired twice on the way to finding a goal. The first time is to realize that some important things in the world can be modified. The second time is to understand that I can make a difference in the world. Just like the idea conveyed in Grandpa Mammoth, in the course of history, everyone, big or small, will contribute a little to the world.
action
With inspiration and feeling, the second step is action. Without action support, all waking up is just inspiration in the brain. The specific action is to upgrade the monster at the first level. It is only a preliminary attempt at first, and then it will be further practiced. See what skills are needed to achieve the goal, and the necessary skills need to be cultivated to achieve the effect. When you have this ability, you should learn how to transfer your ability in different fields. From the beginning to the goal, it is accompanied by the cultivation of positive and optimistic mentality and the improvement of personal self-confidence.
For example, Chaplin liked acting since he was a child. Even if he lives on the street, he still believes that he is the best actor in the world. He looks for every opportunity to perform on stage and finally achieves himself.
support
Support comes from two aspects, one is the support of family members and the other is their own support. Family support is to provide necessary help when there is a goal; Self-support refers to a long-term commitment to a goal.
Ada lovelace, born in 18 15, was the first person to write programs for computers. In her time, girls were not allowed to learn mathematics related knowledge, but her mother, no matter how secular, worked hard to cultivate her daughter's rational thinking and invited the best tutor for ada lovelace. Later, ada lovelace's research notes inspired alan turing, the father of computers. In memory of ada lovelace, people named this programming language "ADA". Ada lovelace can't grow up without her mother's support.
Rudolf nureyev was one of the greatest dancers in the 20th century. He liked dancing since he was a child, but his father opposed it. No matter how poor he was, he kept dancing and eventually became a famous dancer. Rudolf nureyev's success is inseparable from his long-term commitment to himself.
On the way to the goal, someone needs to wake up the star in the child's heart; What is more important is action, otherwise ideas are just ideas; In addition, on the way to action, you can't do without the support of your family and yourself.
The Cultivation of Sense of Purpose in the Family William Damon made a survey on the source of teenagers' sense of purpose in the book Cultivation of Outlook on Life. The results show that the top three sources of teenagers' sense of purpose are family, career and academic achievement, among which family ranks first.
So, in the family, what should parents do to guide their children to become people with a sense of purpose? In the cultivation of outlook on life, nine methods are mentioned, which can be summarized as the following three points.
1. Find the spark and provide support. In daily life, through dialogue, find out what children are interested in and support their initial ideas. It would be great if you could provide support, such as introducing them to potential mentors, which is actually a test of parents' connections.
If parents have that ability, it will be easier to cultivate. For example, Elizabeth was born in 1755. Because her father was a painter, when she discovered that her daughter was talented in painting, her father became his tutor.
Finding the place that children are interested in and providing corresponding help is the first step to help children build a sense of purpose.
2. convey a sense of purpose at work. parents need to convey a sense of purpose to their children whether they like it or not. You can't always complain about the difficulty of work in front of the children.
When a teacher's child sees his parents' industry, he will have an expectation of being a teacher; When a doctor's child grows up, he may have a desire to be a doctor. There is a girl because her mother works in a bank. She hopes to work in a bank like her mother when she grows up. Can have such an idea, can not do without the girl's mother, usually love their work ideas.
3. Build soft power. What soft power? Positive attitude towards life and entrepreneurial spirit, such as endurance, patience and creativity. There is also the cultivation of children's sense of responsibility in daily life.
A person's road to success is inseparable from these soft powers. Tommy smith, born in 1944, was always excluded at that time because of racial discrimination. His father once said to him, "People can see your pain, but no one can guess your reaction." At the age of 23, tommy smith became the world record holder of 13. This is inseparable from his father's cultivation of his character.
Discover children's exposed ideas, guide them to practice and provide necessary help; Pass on one's love for work; Building soft power in daily life. These can provide some help for the establishment of children's sense of purpose. But for the guidance of children's sense of purpose, we should know that parents are only leaders, not decision makers. After all, it is up to the children to decide what they want to do and what kind of person they will become. Parents' guidance of children's sense of purpose in the family is like the process of finding seeds. If you are lucky enough to find them, provide nutrients and wait for them to bloom.