We know that most parents can't accept crying children. Whenever a child cries, parents become helpless. There is always a mother facing such a problem: "Why does my child cry so much? It's really a word of tearing, cursing and beating. What should I do? " Actually, crying is an expression of emotion. Maybe everyone has a different expression. Some children are silent, some children shout, some children feel inferior, some children are sad ... For children, crying may be closer to the most essential performance of a child.

In fact, when children cry, they want to get attention, sympathy and understanding. They also release their inner pressure when they cry and become stronger in the process of crying. Crying, for children, is the growth process of developing emotional intelligence and getting along with others in the future.

However, many parents often make a serious mistake: when their children cry, they either beat and scold them, severely reprimand them, or make them stop crying in an infinite way. Anyway, the ultimate goal is that it doesn't matter what the child does as long as he doesn't cry. It is parents who aim to make their children stop crying.

Eventually, slowly, we will find that things are not that simple. In order to stop the children from crying, we have no principles, no bottom line and unlimited compromise. In fact, what we should do is to let children vent their inner feelings by crying when they are not satisfied.

Sometimes crying is not just unreasonable:

For example, when children are young, if they have negative emotions, they are often ignored by adults. We often think that crying is a wrong emotional way and a negative emotion to retaliate against adults. Therefore, when a child cries, adults will feel annoyed and feel that the child is unreasonable.

"Why are you crying? When you are so old, you just cry. What else can you do? "

"For the last time, if you cry again, I won't want you right away."

"I warn you for the last time. If you cry again, I'll see how I can clean you up! "

This is what we often say. We forget that crying is a child's nature and an instinct. If a child can't lose his temper, just like a gentle little sheep, will you really be happy? Crying, at the age of children, is a proper performance and the most straightforward way for children to vent.

When children cry, we should guide them, not stop them;

In supermarkets or shopping malls, we often see mothers say to crying children, "I'll leave if you cry again." You can cry here alone ... "At this time, the child will cry even more, because he is really afraid that his mother will leave. Or the child stopped crying, but the actual problem has not been solved.

We will also hear a mother say, "If you cry again, your mother won't like you ..." This will make children more afraid and force them to suppress their inner emotions. In the long run, children will become more and more worried, lose confidence and be cautious.

It is a good thing for children to be strong, but we hope that children can be happy inside, cry loudly if they want to cry, and laugh loudly if they want to, so that children can know that even if they cry sadly, their mothers still love me. Encourage children and guide them to express their emotions, so that their hearts will be stronger.

To understand children and "share" their feelings:

Xiaohua is a very competent mother. Once, a child stepped on the watermelon skin, then accidentally fell down and broke his arm. Xiaohua immediately went to the child and said to the child, "My arm is skinned. It must be very painful. If you feel pain, cry, and you will feel better when you cry. " Mom accidentally fell down when she was a child and cried ... "

Then Xiaohua pretended to step on the watermelon skin and said, "Watermelon skin can't be thrown around. If mom accidentally steps on it, she will definitely fall down, which hurts as much as you do. Let's pick it up and throw it in the trash can. Don't let other children step on it. " After a few minutes of persuasion, Xiaohua's child stopped crying and his mood was stable.

Crying is the right way for children to express their feelings. As long as we can face it correctly and guide it correctly, every cry of a child will become a process of growth.