Share it with your parents? Five correct ways to educate children 1. Parents are the most important and irreplaceable educators in a child's life.
0-6 years old is the key period for children to form quality and good habits. The first two years of a child's life is a crucial period for establishing a strong emotional bond with his parents, and it is the basis for children's future psychological growth and building a relationship of trust and love with others.
All the knowledge about life, 50% is learned in the first year of life, and 25% is learned in the second year of life. The knowledge of life here mainly refers to the ability of love and the development of emotion.
2. If you want to change your child's behavior, parents must first change themselves.
Educating children is the process of educating yourself. Children's bad behavior is often directly inherited by the environment or parents. Education by example is the most reliable way to cultivate children's moral behavior.
Cultivating children's spiritual quality is far more important than intellectual development.
Spirit is a tree, mind is a fruit; Spirit is a lamp, and thought is light. Human intelligence is a reflection of spiritual quality. If we only pay attention to the cultivation of skills (such as various early intellectual development interest classes) and ignore the cultivation of children's spiritual quality, we can only put the cart before the horse. When children grow up, their personality will be flawed and their moral development will be hindered.
4. Reasonable control
Disciplining children is to tell them the standard of behavior, that is, what can and can't be done. Control must have authority: when children may make mistakes, we must have authority when we want to control them. Let your children know that you are serious, and your request will be accompanied by punishment or reward. Restricting children beneficially can cultivate their discipline. Of course, the control of children must be responsible. And tell your child the reason for your request. Consistency with the child's father: Parents have the same control over the child, so that the child can establish a unified standard of behavior. Even if you don't agree with dad's control, you'd better discuss it with him when the child is not present in the future. Doing so can also establish the authority of both parents. Don't over-punish: don't abuse children physically and psychologically. The best way to manage a child is to reward him for his good behavior.
5. Encourage children to establish good self-values in a positive way.
Parents need to actively teach their children basic values and behaviors. Let children grow up in society. Of course, in this respect, example is better than words, and we can be good examples for children. It is very important to create a good family atmosphere. Therefore, we can't let our children do what we don't want to do, and we can't do one thing by ourselves and let our children do another. Only by setting an example and paying attention to the cultivation of children's values and etiquette can we educate the next generation with noble morality.
Parents share advice on educating their children. First, teach children to love and learn to be human.
A famous Japanese thinker said: Education is a way to teach people independence and self-esteem, to explore and practice. ? Explain that to be a person in advance, personality charm is better than any position and money. Therefore, the first thing to pay attention to is the cultivation of children's character. To be a man with a big atmosphere, don't care too much about interests, but care about people, be good at being lenient with others and be a man with rich emotional intelligence. Don't be proud of your achievements, don't be discouraged when you encounter difficulties, and establish a personality of being kind to others, winning with sincerity and being optimistic.
Second, start with small things and cultivate good habits.
Someone said:? Excellence is a habit. ? Because if you have good study habits, it will be easier to learn and the learning effect will be good, so I ask my children to play after finishing their homework, do it carefully when writing homework, and be happy when playing; Having a good living habit will benefit you for life. If you think it's good, others like it. Therefore, I have trained my children to learn to do what they can from an early age, and at the same time pay attention to cultivating their interpersonal skills and hygiene habits.
Third, provide opportunities for exercise and enhance self-confidence.
Don't always think that the child is still young, too many things can't be done well, or don't trust him to do it. When encountering difficulties, children can be prompted to use their brains or encouraged to practice. Through exercise, children can gain self-confidence and enhance their willpower to overcome difficulties. Sometimes it is necessary to set up some small obstacles for children to solve by themselves and cultivate their ability to do things independently and deal with problems. The cultivation of ability is of great help to children in the future. I will always remember my son crossing the street for the first time, which was last semester, although he is over 8 years old. I'll never forget his trembling and cautious appearance when crossing the road. My heart pounded when I saw the car driving to him from the balcony on the sixth floor. I'll never forget my son proudly saying when he came home. Mom, I'm home. I can cross the street by myself! ? My eyes are full of self-confidence, and of course I can't forget that I hugged him excitedly and said, son, you are great! You've really grown up. Thank you. ? Because that time, my son taught me to let go, so that I could fly higher.
Fourth, set an example and seize the opportunity.
In the process of children's growth, many words and deeds are actually imitated by parents, so parents should pay attention to their words and deeds in front of their children. Always encourage and help children, affirm progress, give guidance when encountering setbacks, help them analyze the truth and find out the problems, thus exercising their psychological endurance and psychological balance, as well as their strong will and character in the face of difficulties. When educating children, we should also look at the time and occasion, seize the opportunity, and don't hurt children's self-esteem. This year, my son is in grade three. Like others, English has become the most troublesome subject. The first time I came back from class, the teacher asked me to recite the text. Because I didn't read the words well and couldn't keep up with the speed of the tape recorder, I was a little lost. I am anxious to cry. It's getting late. It's time to go to bed. I want to give up. I encourage my children to say:? Don't be afraid, son. I study with you with my mother. ? So I read words with him, teach him to read the text, tell him the content of the text, and often communicate with English teachers. After a while, my son finally entered the door and was not afraid of English. This success not only makes children no longer worry about learning English, but also cultivates their confidence and courage to overcome difficulties.
Fifth, let go of your mood and leave some room for your play.
Children are childlike, playing is their nature, playing is also exercise, playing can also play wisdom, playing can also cultivate children's social skills and quality, and leave some time for children to play. During the holidays, I will take my children to travel in the suburbs, or take a long trip, or go to a nearby park, or climb mountains, or do sports, so that they can relax, increase their knowledge, reduce their pressure and innovate their thinking. A happy mood will bring more benefits to children in life and study.
Growth is an ardent expectation, and growth is a good mood.
Parents teach their children how to solve problems. 1. Don't take drastic measures.
Some parents think? Jade can't be cut into tools? ,? It's not easy for a child not to beat and scold. . Therefore, whenever a child makes a mistake, it is not a calm reason, but a slap in the face. Treating children rudely like this will not only make them realize their mistakes, but also leave a shadow in their hearts, and their personality will easily become extreme.
Second, we should set an example.
Children can see what parents say and do. Their imitation ability is very strong, and empty preaching is far less influential than actual action. Isn't there such a public service advertisement? The mother washed his grandmother's feet, and the younger son saw it and learned to wash his mother's feet. The same,? Fish start to stink on their heads? If parents don't behave well, it's hard to say that an educated child is not a copy of failure. It can be seen that the words and deeds of adults are really important.
Third, pay attention to the role of emotions.
Different emotions have different effects on people's psychology. Positive emotions make people happy, confident and comfortable; Negative emotions make people depressed, lack self-confidence and depressed. Similarly, different emotions have different effects on parents' psychology and behavior. Positive emotions can inspire parents to take the initiative to understand their children in a loving way, care about their growth, and educate and cultivate their children in a democratic and scientific way, thus making the parent-child relationship closely coordinated and the family atmosphere harmonious and warm. Parents should attach importance to the role of their emotions in family education, strive to cultivate and maintain positive emotions, and overcome and eliminate negative emotions.
Fourth, the opinions of adults should be unified.
Sometimes parents need to communicate, agree on the same thing and have a unified attitude. You are forbidden to gossip. You play the white face and I play the red face. Don't scold each other in front of the children. Otherwise, children often can't agree and don't know who to listen to. Over time, the status and prestige of adults in children's minds will disappear, and it will be more difficult to discipline children.
5. Don't stifle children's interest.
Learning is important, but interest is the source of stimulating children's creativity. What society needs now is not a reading machine, but an all-round generalist. Therefore, if the child shows a certain hobby, don't interfere, but encourage him, maybe this will become a skill of the child.
Sixth, it is best for children to answer.
Sometimes parents will tell their children something several times, especially mothers, for fear that their children will not understand and do what they want. This is what people often say. For most children, the last thing they want to hear and dislike is their parents' nagging. The more unwilling they are to listen, the more worried their parents are. On the contrary, double nagging, which has become a vicious circle. Parents often feel sad and worried: nagging is not for children. How can you be sensible if you don't tell them? ? It seems that only by endlessly telling children one truth after another is the best family education method.
When nagging, try a new method: turn nagging into asking questions. When you find a problem, turn what you want to say into asking a question and let the children speak. Maybe children speak better and more vividly than their parents. Don't put on airs when asking questions, be sincere and enthusiastic, and listen carefully to the children's answers. If the child is not completely right, don't rush to nag. You can ask again. Even if it is wrong, there is no need to publish an authoritative answer. Instead, he can subtly use questions to hint at his mistakes and make the child rethink.
Seven, compulsory punishment is better than encouragement.
When the inner anger finally broke through the bottom line of patience, from verbal criticism to physical criticism, military punishment appeared! Punishment by force can't solve any problems, it will only intensify the contradictions between the two sides and make the study that might have continued run aground halfway; Under the fist of parents, the child's self-esteem is also shattered, which is easy to form the psychology of breaking the jar and breaking the fall, and even invulnerability to all criticisms. It is really a lose-lose situation.
Therefore, when the mother wants to punish by force, it is better to use encouragement instead, so that the child can accept criticism happily. Children need to find their own gap in comparison and real praise. When parents affirm their children's achievements, they will have the confidence to correct their mistakes. On the contrary, parents take a rude attitude towards their children's mistakes, and he is likely to become more rebellious. In fact, children's fragile hearts especially want to be affirmed by their parents, give them confidence and let them accept criticism happily.
The art of criticism lies in positive reinforcement rather than negative reinforcement. Instead of strengthening children's weaknesses, or denying them completely, it is better to look at their small achievements and good signs, keep them in mind, strengthen their good side, give necessary guidance, let children see their potential and enhance their self-confidence.