Educate children not to "combine punishment for several crimes"
"Combined punishment for several crimes" first shows that parents usually spend too little time with their children and care too little. Secondly, it also shows that parents like to turn over old accounts. Sometimes it's not that your words are unreasonable, but that your way is wrong and education will be ineffective. As parents, all power means responsibility, and such responsibility forces us to change.
You can't educate when you are angry.
In education, restraint is more important than catharsis. When children make us angry, we must not get angry in a hurry. For parents, the so-called restraint is to treat their children with "truth and justice, benevolence and righteousness". Strict discipline means strict principles, strict mind and as sincere, gentle and patient as possible.
Unexpectedly, before education.
Educating children must be persistent, and educating children must not ignore the details of their growth. If you don't always remember the responsibility of educating children and miss the critical period of their growth, it will be difficult to think about education in the future.
You can't turn conversation into education.
The less you communicate with your children, the less you know how to communicate with them, and of course, the less you know about them. Parents gradually fade out or even miss their children's emotional world, and conversations with children are more likely to become preaching, criticism and reprimand. After the child reaches the age of 13, even the opportunity to criticize will not be left to you.
Children can't be educated in public.
Even if the child does the worst thing, he should take it home for education. The most important thing in education is to respect human dignity and protect children's hearts. Without this, there will be no real education. Praise and criticism of children are emotional interactions. Parents are too strong, and children are often worthless. Parents are too rough and children are often manic. Wise parents will not severely reprimand their children, but they can realize that educating their children cannot pursue immediate results.
Avoid educating children while eating and sleeping.
Eating is a pleasure. Some children eat with trepidation and eat very fast, just to let their parents have no time to criticize him. Eating too fast is not good for the absorption of stomach and food, not to mention table manners. Education before going to bed is not only ineffective, but also affects children's sleep. So, let the children eat well and sleep well. Even if he makes a mistake, you should find a more suitable time to educate him.
Avoid negative education
People are used to criticism, negation and negative suggestion. Before you try something, someone will remind you that you can't do it well. If something doesn't meet your parents' wishes, you are likely to be sarcastic. As parents, if you want to change yourself, you should start from restraining the desire to criticize, not turning a blind eye to your children's shortcomings, but helping them when they have the courage to try and change.
Don't compare other people's children.
Every child is very different, and every child has such a reason. The best way to educate a child is to aim at his "like this". For children, simple comparison can't solve the problem. We might as well patiently analyze with him, so that children will neither feel inferior nor be jealous and hostile to others.