Translation:
Confucius said, "There are three kinds of beneficial friends and three kinds of harmful friends. It is beneficial to make honest friends, honest friends and knowledgeable friends.
It is harmful to make friends with flatterers, people who flatter others on the surface and slander others behind their backs, and people who are good at rhetoric. "
2. Confucius said: "The winner has three pleasures, and the loser has three pleasures. Music festivals, rituals and music, the kindness of Taoist people, and more virtuous friends are beneficial. Happy and arrogant, happy and swimming, happy and happy, painful. "
Translation:
Confucius said: "There are three kinds of beneficial happiness and three kinds of harmful happiness. It is beneficial to take pleasure in restraint in rites and music, to show the advantages of others and to make good friends.
It is harmful to take pride and wanton enjoyment as happiness, extravagance and waste as happiness, and debauchery and debauchery as happiness. "
3. Confucius said: "A gentleman has three precepts; When you are young, your blood gas is uncertain, so quit it; It is also strong and bloody, and it is fighting. I am very old, my blood gas is declining, and I have to quit. "
Translation:
Confucius said: "A gentleman has three precepts: when he is young, his blood gas is uncertain, so he should abstain from womanhood; When you are in your prime, you should stop fighting. When you are old, your blood is weak, so you should abstain from greed. "
4. Confucius said: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of adults, and fear of the words of saints. I don't know my fate, but I'm not afraid of it. I am insulting adults and saints. "
Translation:
Confucius said: "A gentleman has three fears: fear of destiny, fear of high-ranking people, and fear of the words of saints. I don't know justice, I'm not afraid, I ignore people in high places and laugh at the words of saints. "
5. Confucius said: "Serve the third child: if you don't say anything, you will be impetuous. If you don't say anything, you will be hidden. If you don't see it, you will be embarrassed."
Translation:
When you really make friends with a gentleman, you should have three principles. When to live and when not to talk, there should be a scale. First, if you don't say it, it's called mania.
Words haven't said there, you come out and say, this is called Mao Mao mania, reflecting a person's impatience. Second, words without words are hidden. At this point, you are coy and secretive, and don't tell everyone the truth.
Third, in terms of color, it's called ugliness. "You" means blind. A person, when talking, does not look at other people's faces, but comes over and says. This is sheer nonsense.
6. Confucius said: "A gentleman has Jiu Si: the wisdom of thinking, the warmth of looking, the respect of looking, the loyalty of speaking, the respect of thinking, the questioning of doubt, and the difficulty of thinking."
Translation:
Confucius said: "A gentleman has nine points to consider: whether he understands what he sees, whether he hears clearly, whether the color on his face is gentle, whether Rong Zhi is modest, and whether his language is sincere;
We should consider whether we are cautious when doing things, how to ask people for advice when we are in doubt, whether we are painful when we are troubled, and whether we forget our righteousness when we get benefits. "
Extended data:
As an important representative of Confucianism, Confucius has always been a figure we relish. His words recorded in The Analects of Confucius taught us a lot about being a man. Some people even take some sentences as their life creed and pursue them all their lives. The most beneficial thing in The Analects of Confucius is Confucius' way of making friends.
There is a cloud in The Analects: "Zi does not speak profitably, but lives with life and benevolence." In today's words, Confucius hardly talks about utility, but agrees with benevolence and believes in destiny.
What is "benevolence"? Kindness and justice are benevolence and morality. The highest embodiment of politics. Confucius once said, "What is an unkind ceremony? People are heartless, so what are you happy about? " Here is enough to see how important it is for a person to talk about "benevolence".
People pay more and more attention to their own personal interests and pay more and more attention to the pursuit of personal interests. Many people have long forgotten "benevolence" in this process, so how can we talk about "benevolence" in the process of making friends and getting along with others? "The gentleman is figurative, and the villain is figurative.
The first one is called "knowing" Make friends with honest people. This friend's character is the first. He is straightforward and doesn't need too much effort.
The second is called "friendship and forgiveness". Make friends with sincere and trustworthy people. Usually dull as water, but when I am down and out, I help you silently. This is a true friend.
There is a story in history called "white wine", which is a very humble wine given by a senior official to a poor celebrity. This is called a true friend.
The third kind is called "friends learn more". It is beneficial to make friends with knowledgeable and well-informed friends. Choosing friends is a science. Stay away from bad friends and walk with good friends, and your life will be more exciting.