The ability to resist setbacks depends more on the individual's mentality. I have mentioned a fact in many speeches-suppose you have an accident and there is only 100 yuan in your pocket, and nothing else. If you are a positive person, then you will think, "It's a good thing I still have 100 yuan in my pocket. I'll keep 10 yuan as today's living expenses, and invest the rest in 90 yuan (or keep it as a backup, and hurry to find a job. I really can't find a job for the time being, at least I can scavenge. . "After that, you can use this 100 yuan to create a bright future. On the contrary, if you are a very pessimistic person, you will think like this: "That's it, except this 100 yuan, I have nothing. Two days later, I don't even have any food, but I will die. How did I become like this? " So, in such a sigh, you completely collapsed.

A particularly neglected part of frustration education is to cultivate children's positive mentality. No matter what happens, if parents can guide him to see the positive significance behind it, and then try to solve the problem, but this method doesn't work, and then try other methods, then the child will grow up under such guidance, and he will naturally grow into a strong soldier who dares to face all difficulties. Frustration education should not be rushed. Some parents will take their babies to some training camps under the banner of "frustration education" and receive the so-called "frustration education".

Then let's take a look at how psychologists explain frustration: "frustration is a negative emotional state in which individuals can't meet their needs because of obstacles and interference when they are engaged in purposeful activities." So I think setbacks should be all kinds of life problems that I face unexpectedly without preparation. If you are ready, then this kind of frustration education will partially lose its meaning. These training camps are undoubtedly prepared, so I don't think they can really play a role.

Many setbacks in life often happen inadvertently. Only by enduring the test of those sudden setbacks can we say that "frustration education" is successful. Therefore, the baby's "frustration education" should be carried out imperceptibly in daily life, not by some activities.

2. Frustration education is not without any help.

Suffering from some failures and setbacks and relying on your own ability to overcome them will lay the foundation for your baby to overcome greater difficulties in the future. For babies, some setbacks may seem trivial to adults, but they are a psychological test. For example, after a baby falls, it is a tempering process for him to get up by himself. But everything has two sides. If the baby falls down and we don't help him without any warning, then he may become indifferent in the future.

Therefore, when encountering similar problems, we don't have to stand idly by, but we need to give them some ways to get rid of difficulties, solve contradictions and overcome difficulties in an appropriate way.

For example, watching him fall, we can judge whether we need to help him according to the degree of his fall, and we can't treat him coldly. Sometimes, he doesn't take wrestling seriously, so we don't have to emphasize that he fell. Sometimes, he is obviously in pain, so we might as well give him a hand and help him feel the pain. But don't make a fuss when helping him, just show our concern. This kind of help will bring him a kind of psychological support, so he will get enough psychological energy from his parents, and he will face all kinds of setbacks more bravely in the future and learn to care for others in the same way.

If the baby can complete some activities and accumulate some experience through his own strength, he can objectively understand his own abilities, thus generating a desire and confidence. In this way, when experiencing setbacks, the baby will not be intimidated by the difficulties encountered.

3. It's not that the more setbacks the baby experiences, the better.

Who doesn't want children to live a smooth life? But the ups and downs of life can't be as we wish. Children never lack setbacks in their growth-they want to do something, but they can't reach it, so they need to rely on the help of adults (the simplest thing is that children can't even solve the problems of cold, warmth and hunger when they are young); Playing with friends, their toys were taken away by more powerful babies for no reason; Going to kindergarten, being criticized or not doing well by the teacher after school, being praised by other students, being "ignored" by the teacher … all these will bring frustration to children. Therefore, opportunities for frustration education abound, and we no longer need to artificially create opportunities for children to endure "hardships."

On the other hand, frustration is a negative emotional experience anyway. Too many setbacks will make the baby lose self-confidence, become inferior and cowardly, produce serious frustration and fear, and finally lose interest in the goal, and even lead to a mental illness.

4. A baby will also make him suffer some setbacks.

Many parents think that frustration education is something after the baby grows up, and they don't want to let the baby suffer a little injustice. In fact, frustration education should start at an early age. In this way, the baby will gain the ability to bear setbacks in the long-term subtle education. For example, don't blindly focus on the baby, because once the environment changes, he may change from the protagonist to a supporting role, or even get no attention at all.

Therefore, let the baby learn to adapt to the transformation of various roles, adjust his mentality to adapt to the environment and so on are all essential training contents in his growth process. In addition, delaying satisfaction and letting the baby do some housework within his power are all effective ways of frustration education.

It should be emphasized that frustration education does not ignore children's feelings and emotions. On the contrary, we should pay more attention to children's feelings and emotions. Once he feels frustrated, he should communicate with his baby in time to express his understanding of his frustration. For example, when a baby is sad because a certain requirement is not met, we can express our understanding in simple language, then hold him tightly and pat him on the back until he calms down. This is equivalent to giving him a kind of psychological energy, and his negative emotions will soon calm down.

5. Frustration education cannot be closed.

To improve the baby's ability to resist setbacks, it is best to take him out and get in touch with his friends more. Communicating with peers can help the baby find a different point of view from himself, so as to better understand others and himself. This kind of training helps to improve the baby's frustration tolerance. As long as he associates with friends, the baby will inevitably experience some setbacks, such as disagreement and submission to the position of being led, so that he will learn how to get along and cooperate with friends through constant tempering, thus better safeguarding his position among peers. On the other hand, mutual communication and guidance between peers can also help the baby overcome difficulties and solve problems better, thus improving the baby's ability to resist setbacks.