For children, mother is the most important person, for the first time? Coming? Baby of the world, it takes ten months to build deep feelings with your mother, in a word? I choose my mother in heaven? Many precious mothers' hearts have been softened, but not every mother has fulfilled her responsibilities as a mother.
Some time ago, a 2-year-old baby girl died in Japan. In the afternoon, the girl's mother called the hospital and said that the girl fell to the ground after taking a shower. When the medical staff arrived, they found traces of vomiting around her. He died after being rescued. The medical staff said that the girl only weighed 12 kg, and there were bruises everywhere, even traces of suspected cigarette burns. After forensic identification, the girl is due to long-term malnutrition.
According to neighbors, girls often cry and kick the wall. Once, the police came to understand the situation, but their mother said that the child was crying because he didn't like taking a bath. The terrible thing is that the girl's mother has been playing online? A loving mother? Image, until the incident happened, the truth was all made public.
In daily life, there may not be such an extreme mother, but sometimes, the reaction shown by mothers in educating their children is likely to have a serious impact on their children, and even affect their lives, especially these mothers.
1, violent mother
There is an old saying in China called? A dutiful son is born under the stick? In the face of disobedient children, parents' first reaction is to reprimand or even beat them in a harsh tone. Usually, this impulsive mother will not give her children a chance to explain, and everything will only be done according to her own ideas, so that she has wronged her children.
Children who live in this environment for a long time will feel inferior and dare not express their opinions easily. Children will feel that they can't do anything well, so it's easy to look back and forth, lest they accidentally do something that makes their mother angry. In addition, some children will become like their mothers, always thinking about solving problems with violence, which will eventually lead to serious consequences.
Parents should know that besides being? Parents? What's more, it is the person that children trust most. Therefore, parents must control their emotions and deal with their children's problems with a calm and gentle attitude. I believe that children will be better than you think.
2. A strong mother
Some parents are always used to arranging everything for their children, from what socks to wear today to what interest classes to enroll their children in. They don't ask their opinions at all. In parents' minds, they eat more salt than their children, and their choice is the best. Even their children grow up, get married and grow up, and their parents want it. Step in? .
Children who are used to their parents doing everything at an early age will have poor self-care ability. What is the first reaction to the question? Ask mom? In the long run, children will not make up their own minds and will easily become small partners? Laughter? . Moreover, children who live in depressed conditions for a long time are more likely to germinate? Run away from home, run away from home? This idea.
Parents should know that children are also independent individuals. They have their own ideas and attitudes towards the world. What parents should do is not to choose the right path for him, but to teach him the ability to distinguish between right and wrong and black and white, and to move towards a higher and farther life by virtue of his own ability.
3. Mother who loves to compare with others
Look at others, you got 100. Look at you, you won the second place! ?
Hum, mother xx praised her children again, which really pissed me off! ?
A mother who always wants to be better than others is easy to teach bad children and is influenced by her parents for a long time? Cultivate? Children will become as competitive as their parents. As long as others are better than themselves, they will be jealous of others. When they grow up, such people are likely to do whatever it takes to get what they want.
Parents should learn to accept everything about their children, whether it is good or bad, and firmly believe that every child is the best and they will have a more wonderful life. Don't put too much pressure on children, physical and mental health is the real health.
Mothers play an irreplaceable role in children's lives. In order to make our children grow up better, the first thing parents should do is to change themselves and influence their children subtly. Only by constantly correcting your mistakes and passing on the best side to your children will your children become better and better.