Children will encounter many setbacks and difficulties in the process of growing up, and whether they can actively deal with these things has become the most worrying thing for parents.
"Praise education" began to be respected by parents, and more emerging educational concepts were gradually accepted and accepted by the public. Compared with the "beating and cursing" education, parents should give their children some moderate education, but it is best to spoil them too much and let them suffer.
Only when you have no money can you appreciate it.
My best friend Xiaoyu's son has gone to primary school. Because the family loves him too much on weekdays, the child can't do his own thing independently. Seeing the child like this, Xiaoyu is very anxious and wants to change completely.
Children always have no scruples about spending money on weekdays, and Xiaoyu began to educate children from then on. Xiaoyu limits children's expenses and tells them that if they want pocket money, they must earn it through labor.
Do daily housework every day, and it will pay off if you do it well. Sometimes, for fear of being scolded by the teacher, some things will eventually be bought, and children will gradually become diligent.
Xiaoyu also found that children no longer began to know how to save money and avoid excessive waste as before. Besides buying necessities, they also learned to save money. Eating without money, let children know how to save and cherish.
Children's ability to handle things is getting weaker and weaker, which parents have to pay attention to.
1) Parents "turn a blind eye" and children are still unable to be independent.
Parents believe that proper "letting go" education can make children face problems in life. Without dependence, children will naturally learn to deal with problems independently.
Parents always feel that no matter what, the children will solve their own problems. In fact, some children will not become independent, but have a stronger sense of dependence. What is missing here is "hardship education", and it is very important to cultivate children's hardship ability from an early age.
2) The ability to resist setbacks is gradually declining.
Children's psychology is different from that of their parents. They always want to avoid setbacks, not face them. Children will not directly face and confront setbacks in adversity, and most of them will only choose comfort.
Nowadays, the standard of living is gradually improving. Besides the academic burden, parents don't want their children to suffer any more. They all hope that they can bear the burden for their children.
Children have been growing up in the greenhouse, so naturally they can't stand the wind and rain, and they can't resist in adversity, so they just choose to escape.
The correct way of education, parents should let their children "suffer"
1) Change children's attitudes
"Suffering hardships" makes children understand that when encountering setbacks, they cannot choose to escape. They should face it with a positive attitude and do it bravely. This is the best choice.
When children encounter setbacks, parents should not rush to help, but should observe how children should solve them.
For example, when a child falls down on the stairs, he won't dare to take half a step again. At this time, parents should let their children learn to face bravely, even if they cry, they should learn to change. Temporary changes may benefit them for life.
2) Start from a little bit of life.
Parents should start with the little things around them. "Hardship education" is not to let children do heavy work, but to let children learn to bear when they encounter difficulties.
Little things in life can make children feel difficult and achieve educational results.
Parents can let their children learn to organize stationery and clean clothes and do what they can. Children may complain a lot, but parents should not give up easily, try to let their children learn to do it, and firmly believe that children can do it better.
3) Develop reading habits
Children can have fun and broaden their horizons from books. Parents should cultivate their children's interest in reading and educate them not only to enjoy the happiness brought by material things.
Compared with more attractive online pictures, reading is more boring, and children who can withstand boredom are bound to gain a lot.
"Hardship education" has many benefits in practice, but parents must pay attention to moderation. Every child's endurance is different, and his natural ability to bear hardships is different.