Few parents get married now. As a child, we all hope that our parents can recognize and accept our lover. However, in real life, many people are worried because their parents don't approve of their choices. What if my blogger can't get his parents? "My mother denies my boyfriend. I don't want me to marry this field. I am in pain. What should I do? " In the face of the closest, you can't support your choice, even the strongest opponent, we often feel more painful and confused, and don't know how to choose your future. In fact, when we suffer from the pain of our parents, there is always a belief in our hearts that the object of communication must be recognized and supported by our parents. If you don't get the approval and support of your parents, it means that our choice is wrong. But is this belief correct? Can parents in the world recognize the object of their children? The fact is: not all parents will be recognized.

Maybe it's because I don't like my boyfriend, maybe I think this person can't afford to raise children, or maybe I think material things are the most important thing. But no matter what they do, they can't support their children's choices. They are their own business, their own decisions! If we can't accept the facts, we have to confront them, and we will lose, 100% will fail. The fact here is that it is impossible for the father (or mother) to support and identify with the child's object every time. Moreover, what kind of person are you when you hold the idea that "when I associate with my partner, you must get the approval and support of your parents"? You are with your parents. What is your behavior when you are with your boyfriend (girlfriend)? As you can imagine, when you master this belief, your pressure is very unhappy. When you are with your boyfriend, I think my parents have been cheated. When I am with my parents, I feel that my boyfriend is very sad. I even miss my boyfriend because your parents don't like him.

When we understand our belief that "the communication object must be recognized and supported by parents", it is not necessarily correct, and we will feel that it is easy to get rid of it, and it must be recognized and supported by parents. Please close your eyes and feel good. Feel it. If you don't have this idea, can you accept what your parents can't accept? Can you be calm in front of your boyfriend? We are all adults and should be responsible for our actions. Parents can't understand their affairs, and they blame us. We have children. Is it possible to pay attention to our parents when observing your position? Can we not move, stick to ourselves and love, but still love and respect our parents? When parents put pressure on us, we can listen and say, "I know you are good for me, but will I make the best choice?" Parents are not always right. Their decision is not 100%. Parents need education.

They need to know that children are very old, they must be respected and their freedom cannot be restricted. How to educate parents? Stand your ground, but still like them. Blindness does not mean filial piety. You listen to your parents' results and make yourself very unhappy. These emotions happen once a day. When you break out, what you do, what you say and do will hurt your parents. Because you choose your parents' decision, you will feel powerless. If you don't have the ability to like what you like best, then there are even evil parents! More importantly, your life will be a mess and it will really make you miserable. Unhappiness is not your parents' behavior or position, but your thoughts. Obviously, when you think like this, you are in pain. When you don't have this idea, you are free.