If you don't study hard for your children, you won't achieve anything when you grow up. This kind of education is very bad. Children hate it when parents tell them that if you don't study hard, you will accomplish nothing. This is a degradation of children and a blow to their self-confidence. Children will feel that their parents look down on them, and many parents often use sarcasm to motivate their children. This is a negative incentive. It can only be counterproductive. The most taboo of family education is negative motivation.
The best way to educate children is to use positive incentives. First of all, be sure of the child. Tell the child that dad believes in your strength. As long as you study hard, you will become a successful person. This probability will increase children's self-confidence and make them feel that they are a capable person. Some parents always think that children's poor study leads to anxiety and often criticize their children. This is an impatient way of education. Regardless of their academic performance, parents should continue to encourage their children, affirm their children and let them make progress slowly. This is the main thing.
It's okay to talk about it once in a while. Talking too much is definitely not good. I am very opposed to letting children reason in a negative way. Finally, when educating children, be specific and don't say too much. If you have to say it, start with specific small things and small truths, and then give your child a "high". In fact, generally speaking, at this level, children basically don't like to listen!
Parents say this to their children and inadvertently label them as "not enterprising", and children will think that they are really not enterprising, so they don't study hard and have a rebellious attitude towards their parents. Every parent comes from the age of their children. I believe that every parent has heard this sentence more or less when he was a child. Can empathy hurt children's self-esteem and self-confidence?
Every child has his own development law and value. It is an inevitable law that some children develop fast and some slow. Parents artificially break this rule and directly deny their children, which affects their development. Moreover, the value of life is not measured by the quality of reading. Only a child's heart is kind, then he is a talent. Every child's development potential is unlimited, and no one can deny it.