Oilfield no.18 high school
"Don't lose in family education" is a good book. The footer of every page of this book says "Only parents who don't know how to teach, no children who don't teach well", which makes me deeply touched.
In the past, every time we found a child's bad habits, we always thought that the child was disobedient and never reviewed the parents' own shortcomings from ourselves. In fact, family is the first living base for children's healthy growth. Parents are pioneers in family education and influencing children's behavior. Good parents are learned, good children are taught, good habits are cultivated, and good grades are helpful. Good communication is heard. There are no parents who are naturally successful, and there are no parents who don't need to learn. Successful parents are the result of continuous learning and improvement. Only by playing the role of parents can we basically ensure the healthy growth of children. There are no parents who don't know how to teach, and there are no children who can't teach well. We just need to start from ourselves and pay attention to children's character education, habit formation and ability training. Good behavior is an important part of children's education. With the growth of children, the world outlook and morality are gradually formed. We should start from daily life and cultivate children to be independent, confident, responsible and caring. Practice is better than precept. Give your seat to the elderly when you take the bus, unite and care for your classmates, respect your teachers and care for small animals, frankly admit your responsibility when you do something wrong, and start from yourself when you encounter difficulties, so as to shape your child's excellent character of honesty, openness, love, self-reliance and self-reliance. In fact, many children's habits are influenced by adults, so our parents should restrain their daily life behaviors, such as forming a good habit of going to bed early and getting up early, working and sleeping regularly, loving labor, being polite and being hygienic. My son has obviously made great progress in this respect this summer vacation. He basically does his own thing, but also helps his mother wash dishes, mop the floor and take care of his sister. During the summer vacation, sometimes I come back late after working overtime, and my son will cook dinner for us. When he was in the third grade this year, he was more sensible and basically didn't annoy his parents. When he is on duty on weekends, his son will take the initiative to help me wash clothes. I used to feel a little reluctant, and boys always let him do housework, but I am very pleased to see my son's little progress. Good habits and bad habits are formed intentionally or unintentionally in the family environment, so family education should combine love with strictness, consistently and persistently.
From the book "Don't lose in family education", we can learn about children's psychology in the process of growing up, master the method of timely communication with children in combination with reality, and guide many problems in the process of children's growth in time, so that children can really get healthy. In fact, when we communicate with our children, our parents have made a common fault, that is, criticizing their children for not talking about ways and occasions. Sometimes the criticism is sharp, but it is not completely correct, and even hurts their self-esteem, which is gradually caused. Pay attention to the tone of criticism, and it is best to have one-on-one occasions and ways to avoid hurting children's self-esteem. Other parents, including myself, always compare their children with other children in front of other children and parents, and inadvertently say things that children don't like to hear, which hurts their self-esteem. Although the speaker is unintentional, the child has a heart, so our parents must praise the child more and build self-confidence for the child in all aspects.
We have repeatedly stressed that family education is the core of children's education. From real life examples, it is not difficult to see that children's academic performance and character cultivation have a great relationship with the family humanistic environment. Generally speaking, in a loving family, children's academic performance is better, especially in spiritual cultivation. We should use human nature to moderately restrain nature, that is, to cultivate children's love. In the family, parents should respect and care for each other first, so that children will be moved and naturally become a kind and caring person over time. As the old saying goes, only parents who don't know how to teach and children who don't teach well are eternal. Only by constantly learning and mastering the knowledge and methods of parental education can parents play their role and let their children grow up healthily!
We firmly believe that with the joint efforts and careful cultivation of family education and study education, our children will grow sturdily and become useful talents for society and the country in the future!
Reflections on "Family Education Can't Lose"
During this time, through the study of "Don't lose in family education", I felt the importance and particularity of family education, and also learned that as a parent, I have many shortcomings in educating my children, which has a great guiding role for their future growth. There are also some feelings from it.
First, let children learn to respect others.
As parents in China, we generally educate our children to listen to their parents. Only in this way can we be good children and get rewards. But now I've changed my mind. I think it is true that the child is underage, but he is also an independent and thoughtful person who needs respect and understanding. So now, whenever he has anything, I will ask his opinion. Because he is too young, I will ask him selectively.
Second, treat children calmly.
In the past, we asked our child to do something. If he refused or ignored it, we would shout at him impatiently or threaten him, so that he would do the same to us and could not solve the fundamental problem at all. Now, if this happens, we will calmly ask him why and try to persuade him to act according to our wishes. In this way, the child will discuss with you calmly and will not make trouble without reason.
Third, praise children to be specific and encourage persistence.
Children nowadays like to listen to praise. When you praise something they don't want to do, such as: you are great, good and smart, they will be happy to do it. After doing it well, they don't forget to talk in front of you, which makes everything his best consciousness, and he has no habit of learning from others' strengths with an open mind. Now if I praise children, I will analyze what I have done well in this matter and put forward higher requirements.
Fourth, let children study happily.
Parents nowadays don't let too young children do things. Even if children want to, parents don't want them to intervene, for fear of making things worse. I personally don't think so. Nowadays, children do things not as burdens, but as games, such as washing clothes. There are many bubbles, and children will find it particularly fun. In addition, doing things can exercise his practical ability. Why not agree? When eating, my son tried to set the bowl himself, but he broke one the second time. From then on, he reminded himself to be careful every time he served the bowl. So, don't let him touch anything, don't touch it, there are too many restrictions. Encourage children to practice more, so as to be organized and responsible.
Family and school are two environments in which children grow up. School education is the same for everyone, so how can children be better than others? To strengthen family education, the influence of family environment on people is all-round. So family education is particularly important.