The British BBC Company conducted a 56-year follow-up survey of 14 children, and found that the children's life trajectory would be affected by their parents' own class problems.

We strive to create wealth, improve the class and give our children a better educational environment. But apart from class problems, what other factors can change the trajectory of children's lives?

Meet children, meet better yourself.

★ "We often educate children not because of love, but because of fear."

★ "We educate our children more to satisfy themselves than to meet their needs."

Educating children does not require us to write about their lives, but to purify our hearts and let us completely change ourselves.

★ Meet children and meet yourself better.

Meeting children and meeting yourself better is a spiritual growth course written by three American education experts for parents all over the world.

1. Challenge-Do you really love him for him?

2. Traditional values-affecting children's minds

3. I can't get out of parenting life.

We are worried that our children will lose at the starting line, so all kinds of nutrition, interest classes and early education classes rush headlong into action, but forget that every child has different talents, just like every seed has different flowering time;

We are afraid that children will go astray in life, so we concentrate on guiding children, teaching them skills and correcting their mistakes, but forget that the most important element of parent-child relationship is to share happy time with children, laugh with them and grow up together.

Many people are the parents of their childhood dreams and dedicate what they wanted to have in childhood to their children now, so educating children is more about healing childhood pain;

When parents were childish, did they ever ask themselves whether they were depressed because their children did something wrong or because they were bored? Because people often confuse these two emotions!

Raising children has given us an unprecedented advantage. We are willing to do our best for someone and do many things beyond ordinary people. But on the other hand, we also find ourselves more selfish than ever before, and even have some thoughts that make us extremely afraid.

Parents should dare to expose their cowardice and show their children the essence of growth with their words and deeds-a complete, flesh-and-blood life.

Ceci? Goff, doctor of education, psychological counselor, practicing counselor, director of the youth counseling department of "Star of Tomorrow". He has been invited to be a guest on the radio for many times and is a popular spokesperson in various parent-child activities and teacher training programs. Five monographs have been published.

David? Thomas, Ph.D. in Sociology, has been writing for Parents' Life magazine for a long time and has been invited as a guest by national TV and radio stations for many times. Now I work in the Star of Tomorrow, and I am in charge of the consulting department of Men and Boys.

Melissa. Chevatsan, doctor of education, founder and executive director of "Star of Tomorrow", has taught postgraduate courses, given lectures in various communities and schools in China, and been invited as a guest on several TV stations and radio stations in the United States and Canada. His lectures are very popular with parents, teachers and children of different ages.

We all know that children are resisting their parents. There are reasons for children's resistance, and parents themselves are one aspect of the problem. Indeed, to solve children's problems, we must first solve parents' problems-perhaps the latter is the more important link.

We often educate children not because of love, but because of fear.

It is these fears and love in parents' hearts that make family education fall into a misunderstanding. For example, many people are the parents they dreamed of when they were young, and they dedicate what they wanted to have when they were young to their children now. Therefore, educating children is more about meeting the needs of parents than children.

For another example, most parents focus on guiding their children, teaching them skills and correcting their mistakes, but forget the most important element of parent-child relationship, that is, sharing happy time with their children, laughing with them and growing up together.

Based on decades of experience in psychological counseling and educating children, the author points out that to solve women's problems, we must first solve parents' problems-the latter is the most important.

As the book says: "The reason why we become parents is not to write about children's lives, but to purify our hearts and let us completely change ourselves. Only by understanding this can we have the opportunity to progress, grow and mature. "

Your child is not your child.

They are children born of life's desire for themselves.

They came into this world with your help, not because of you.

They are by your side, but they don't belong to you.

What you can give them is your love, not your thoughts.

Because they have their own ideas.

You can shelter their bodies, but not their souls.

Because their souls belong to tomorrow, which you can't reach in your dreams.

-Ji Bolun is a prophet.

"Understanding children makes us more powerful."

-Sears Encyclopedia of Intimate Parenting

There is a wonderful fate between parents and children, and raising a child is a long journey. Might as well be tolerant of yourself and become a better self in the process of raising children.

Parents, make mistakes? God is kind, even if parents sometimes make mistakes, they can be forgiven, just like teaching children to ride a bike-get up when they fall, pat the dirt on their bodies and try again.