If you don't cultivate your child's ability during the development period, your child's potential will decrease. This is the fundamental reason why early education brings up talents.
Law of diminishing talent
Few parents can know that there is a strange law in the cultivation of children's potential-the law of decreasing talent, that is, the child's talent decreases with age, and the later he is educated, the less his innate potential is exerted.
Early education is one of the necessary ways to develop children's potential, and it is easier to create a genius. If an oak tree can grow to 30 meters, it may grow to 30 meters high. But in fact, there are very few oak trees that can grow to 30 meters, generally only 12 meters to 15 meters, and even 6 to 9 meters in poor growth environment; If the fertilizer is sufficient and carefully cultivated, it can grow to 18 m to 2 1 m, or even 24 m to 26 m.
Similarly, if a child can give full play to his talent and finally have the ability of 100, then 100 is the child's potential. If left unchecked, he can only become a person with 30 points of ability, and his potential has only played a small part; If properly educated, his ability can reach 60 points, 70 points or even 80 points. Experts' educational research shows that if children start education at the age of 5, even if it is a very ideal education, they will only get 80 points in the future; If 10 starts education, you can only get 60 points. This is the concrete embodiment of the law of diminishing talent.
Because children's abilities have different development periods, and each development period is basically unchanged. Although some capabilities may have a long development cycle, some capabilities have a short development cycle. If all abilities are not developed during the development period, they will never be developed again.
Today, with the rapid economic development, there are fewer and fewer excellent craftsmen, which is also a manifestation of the law of diminishing talent. The experienced fisherman said that there are no people who are good at swimming, rowing and casting nets as in the past, because children are all at school at the age of eleven or twelve, and water kungfu must be practiced from the age of ten or so.
The same is true of children's foreign language learning. /kloc-If you don't learn to use a foreign language before the age of 0/0, it will be difficult to master an authentic foreign accent, and the accent will always be a bit "weird". Even many experts believe that it is impossible to reach a high level without practicing the piano at the age of 5 and the violin at the age of 3. In other words, children's abilities, if not cultivated in the development period. There will be a phenomenon that children's potential decreases, which is the fundamental reason why early education can cultivate talents.
Many people think that early education is bad for children's health and deprives them of their normal childhood life. As far as the existing successful examples are concerned, Carl Witt has been accused in this way, the father of the Thomson brothers has been accused in this way, and the father of Muller has been accused in this way.
But in fact, Witt was a very healthy and lively child in childhood, as were the Thomson brothers and Goethe. Although Mill's physique is weak, whether his poor health is caused by early education remains to be discussed. Pete's constitution is not good either, but he was born like this and has nothing to do with early education. The children of Dr. Cedez, Dr. Burleigh and Dr. Weiner are all healthy and lively. Moreover, in terms of longevity, Witt, Lord William and Goethe all lived to 83 years old, while James lived to 70 years old and Lord westbury lived to 73 years old, all of which were called longevity.
So it is wrong to say that early education will affect the normal development of children's personality and body. Our parents should know that the earlier they educate their children and develop their potential, the greater their chances of success.
Three Harvard prodigies
19 14, an American boy who was only 15 years old graduated from Harvard University. His name is william james Cedell, and he is the son of Boris Cedell, a famous psychologist. William James Cedell's educational background is very peculiar: he began to receive education before he was two years old, and by the age of three, he was able to read and write fluently in his mother tongue. At the age of five, he saw bone specimens at home and became interested in the human body, so he began to study physiology and soon reached the level of a practicing doctor. In the spring when he was 6 years old, he began to go to primary school like other children. On the morning of admission, he was placed in Grade One, but by noon, when his mother came to pick him up from school, he was already a Grade Three student. During this year, he completed all the courses in primary school. The next year, when he was seven years old, he planned to go to middle school. Because he was not old enough, the school refused to accept him, so he had to teach himself at home, mainly studying advanced mathematics because he had already studied linguistics.
A year later, he was eight years old. I was finally admitted to middle school. He got excellent grades in all subjects, especially math, so before long, the school agreed that he would stop taking math classes and let him help the teacher correct other students' math homework. Not only that, he also wrote textbooks on astronomy, English grammar and Latin grammar during his middle school. Soon, he dropped out of school because he no longer needed middle school courses.
The little prodigy soon became famous, and many people came from all over the world to test him. As a result, his performance was even more surprising than the legend. For example. A professor at MIT gave him a headache when he was a Ph.D. student in Germany. I didn't expect him to answer it quickly. This year, he was only 9 years old.
In the next two years, he still taught himself at home. 1 1 years old, was admitted to Harvard university. Soon after he entered school, he was able to explain mathematical problems such as four-dimensional space, which surprised the professors greatly. His father, Dr. Cedell, once described his situation when he was 12 years old in the book Genius and Vulgarity:
He is only 12 years old this year, but he is good at advanced mathematics and astronomy, which are headaches for many scholars. He can also recite the Iliad, Odyssey and other famous works in Greek. He is proficient in ancient Greek, and when reading the works of Aeschylus, Sophocles, euripides and aristophanes, he is as relaxed as other children who read Robinson Crusoe. He is also proficient in comparative linguistics and theology, and is also familiar with books such as logic, ancient history and American history. Familiar with American politics and constitution.
19 14. Cedell graduated from Harvard University with honors, and then went to the graduate school to study for a doctorate. This year, Harvard University also produced two young graduates like Cedell. One is Adolf Burleigh, the son of Dr. Burleigh, a professor of theology at Taft University. He/Kloc-entered Harvard University at the age of 0/3 and a half, a little later than Cedell, but it only took him three years to complete the four-year course, and he studied law at the school after graduation.
The other is Norbert Weiner, the son of Dr. Weiner, a Slavic professor at Harvard University. He went to college before Cedell. /kloc-admitted to taft university at the age of 0/0,/kloc-graduated from university at the age of 0/4, and then entered the graduate school of Harvard university. Also in 19 14, Weiner, who was only 18 years old, successfully obtained a doctorate in philosophy.
After reading the above example, you may think that this is what people call a prodigy. However, as the old saying goes, 10 is a child prodigy, 15 is a genius, and after 20, he is a mortal. These young people are in their prime. Will you become an ordinary person in a few years? In fact, this idea is unfounded. Their extraordinary talents never happened by accident, but benefited from early science education. It is a fact that Weiner and Burleigh's brothers and sisters received the same education, so their academic qualifications are the same. Burleigh's sister Lena 15 was admitted to Radcliffe Women's University. 19 14 graduated from burleigh. His sister Milham and his brother Rudolf were admitted to the university at the age of 14 and 15 respectively. Weiner's two sisters, constance and Bert, were admitted to Radcliffe Women's University at the age of 14.
There will be no such coincidence in the world. These geniuses are entirely the result of early education.
Moral education should be grasped early.
Confucius said, "The character developed as a teenager will naturally become accustomed to it." As the saying goes, "Educate your daughter-in-law early: educate your children early."
Many parents neglect the early cultivation of their children's good moral character, and some parents pay insufficient attention to correcting their children's bad behaviors and wrong ideas, thinking that their children are still young. It's natural to grow up and understand. In fact, this idea of "building a big tree attracts the wind and the people's congress is good" is extremely harmful.
Children are young and plastic. Strong imitation ability is a good opportunity for parents to cultivate their children's good moral character. However, if parents' education is unreasonable, children will form some bad thoughts and behavior habits, and if they don't pay attention to helping children correct them in time, it will bring several times and dozens of times of difficulties to future education. Seriously endanger the healthy growth of children. For example, children often take small things like books and toys home. Some of these things were given by others, some were picked by themselves, and some were taken from others. Although children don't have much knowledge and don't know that it is immoral to take other people's things, if parents ignore this and don't correct it in time, they will develop the habit of taking other people's things. Today's petty theft is likely to develop into tomorrow's petty theft. As the saying goes, "thieves steal needles and thieves steal gold." According to the investigation of juvenile delinquents in juvenile detention centers, an important reason for many juvenile delinquents is that their bad thoughts and behavior habits have not been corrected in time. "The embankment of a thousand miles, collapsed in the ant nest". If parents want to cultivate their children's good moral character, they must never tolerate any slight wrong behavior of their children, and they must resolutely eliminate their bad thoughts and wrong behaviors in the bud. Parents should make their children realize that it is wrong to take other people's things in time, so that children will have a sense of fault, guilt and shame. Realize that it is disgraceful to take other people's things. Under the strict requirements of parents. Children will gradually clarify the boundaries between good and bad, right and wrong, raise awareness, restrain wrong thoughts, standardize behavior, and develop good behavior habits and moral quality from an early age.
Rome was not built in a day. The formation of children's good moral character and behavior habits is not a one-off event, and it needs long-term and careful cultivation by parents. Therefore, parents should attach importance to their children's early moral education, both early and strict; We should not only correct children's bad thoughts and behaviors, but also let them understand some truths and gradually master the standards of right and wrong, good and evil.
Children's physical and mental development is a complete and unified process, which cannot be cultivated one by one in isolation, nor can one aspect be cultivated first and then the other. Parents should establish a holistic concept, overcome the idea of one-sided development, cultivate their children in an all-round way from physical, intellectual, moral and aesthetic aspects, promote their healthy and harmonious development, lay a good foundation for their all-round development in the future, and pave the way for success.
Tragedy caused by neglecting children's moral development is everywhere in real life, and every parent should be alert. The cultivation of children's character can not be ignored.
There is such a parent who doesn't care about his children at all. When the school found him and told him that the child was detained, he even said: It is an exercise for him to have the child in the detention center. Parents who have this idea are extremely irresponsible to their children, junior high school students in a school. The head teacher found him sleeping on the ground during his home visit. It turns out that parents often go out to play mahjong. I don't care about the child's life. Another parent watches pornographic videos and never avoids children. As a result, parents broke the law and their children were detained.
Some families have divorced parents, their children can't get timely and effective education, and some parents are self-employed. Too busy to take care of children, these special environments will be branded with affection in children's hearts. Self-employed people are busy making money all day and seldom care about the growth of their children. Maybe because I have money. Buying a lot of high-end toys for children, hiring a nanny and hiring a tutor for children can't replace parents' care and education.
As the saying goes: jade is not cut, it is not a tool; Unless you learn, you will become an animal. A child is like an uncut jade. If you carve it carefully, it will become a beautiful work of art. On the other hand, if you take a laissez-faire attitude, children can't become everyone's favorite "crafts". When I was a child, my father always compared saplings. Children are saplings, parents and teachers are gardeners, and saplings have to be pruned many times to grow into big trees. If they are not pruned or pruned in time, they will not grow well and become useful. Educating people is the same as planting trees. Isn't it often said that "it takes ten years to plant trees and a hundred years to cultivate people"? I often hear some parents say, "Some managers and chairmen I know all graduated from junior high school. Therefore, children need not be so demanding and will naturally grow up. " Parents who hold this view are short-sighted Our present era is full of competition, and people in the future will be eliminated if they don't have enough strength.
Good habits cannot be formed overnight. If children don't form good habits from childhood, they will inevitably form bad habits. Once a bad habit is formed, it is difficult to change it. There is a good saying, "Look at the old at three, look at the old at five". We should educate our children early and get them used to it. If the child's face is dirty, I will let him look in the mirror, let him see his big face, and then let him wash it himself, so that he can understand what is clean and how clean it is. If the child's nails grow, let him trim them in time and wash his hair on time. For the requirements of manners, you don't have to "stand like a pine and cypress, walk like the wind, sit like a bell, lie like a bow", but you must have spirit. Walk with your head held high. Parents should always remind him to get used to it. Don't let him swear, don't be silent, be a boring person, don't be a talkative person. When exercising his courage, teach him enough is enough and remind him in many ways. Be polite to people, greet acquaintances actively, and don't litter, which will damage the environment. There are many things that can be done and many things that can't be done, which need our attention and careful observation as parents. Of course, the most basic thing is to honor your parents. Only caring people can care about other people and things. Therefore, parents should pay attention to this education, let their children know the hardships of being parents, let him feel the warmth and care of their loved ones, let him know how to accept and pay, and be a caring person.
Everyone has different methods to educate their children, and there are as many methods as people have, but no matter how many methods there are, there is only one purpose, that is, to make our children grow up healthily, safely, uprightly and do things in a down-to-earth manner.
Education starts from the day a child is born.
How can we put an end to the decline of children's potential ability? Early education, of course. But when will this "as soon as possible" arrive early?
Children's education must begin at the same time as children's intelligence appears. Education starts from the day a child is born.
Children's education must begin as soon as possible. The earlier you start, the more obvious the effect, and the more likely your child will grow into a nearly perfect person. The later education begins, the less children realize their abilities. This is the law of decreasing children's potential ability.
What should children be "hard-irrigated" during the model period before the age of 3? There are roughly two aspects: on the one hand, it is the so-called brain activity mode that lays the intellectual foundation by instilling language, characters, music and graphics; On the other hand, it is to input the basic principles and attitudes of life.
The most important thing in educating children is to give them the opportunity to develop their abilities, that is, to let them develop their abilities as soon as possible.
In fact, from birth to 3 years old is the most important period. Because during this period, the child's brain accepts things in a completely different way from the future.
Newborn babies have no ability to distinguish faces. After three or four months, or five or six months, they can distinguish their mother's face from others and know how to be "shy". But he didn't remember it after analyzing the facial features, but after repeated observation, he made the "pattern" of his mother's whole face intact and printed it into his brain.
Babies' pattern recognition ability is far beyond our imagination. Education for babies before the age of 3 is "model education". Babies are not tired of repeating things many times, so it is also a period of "hard irrigation" before the age of 3. Babies rely on animal intuition and have the ability to instantly master the whole pattern recognition, which is far from being achieved by adults. His brain is still blank, and he can't analyze and judge like an adult. So it can be said that he has an absorption ability that does not need to be understood or understood. If you don't put the model you think is correct into the brain of a child who has not been able to distinguish between good and bad independently, he will indiscriminately absorb a lot of bad things, thus forming human qualities.
As the old saying goes, "You can see yourself as an adult from an early age." By the time the child is 3 years old, he has formed some basic personality qualities when he grows up. If we carefully analyze all people, we can see from them the environment before the age of 3 and the influence of this environment on his character formation and quality. Therefore, the mode period determines a person's life.
Generally speaking, having a strong child is only the first step for parents. The road will be longer, things will be more trivial and responsibilities will be greater. Because, from the day the child is born, parents have to shoulder the burden of educators.