What we don't like is not the education of our elders, but the feeling of being denied. The elders summed up a set of their own life experiences with their own life experiences. Except for the extreme parts, most of the contents are the mainstream thoughts of an era. Every era will see different scenery, but the elders just see more than us. Just like when we were in our twenties, we couldn't understand the idea of being 42. Elders are not philosophers, they can tell the conclusions brought by experience, but it is difficult to explain. Or the answer given is too far-fetched for you to accept and be satisfied.
The elder said to put career first, but didn't tell us why. Obviously, love is also rare. The elder said he would get married and have children, but he didn't tell us why. It's good to be single. There is no answer, just like Pandora's box, which tempts our rebellion and always feels that our elders are making things difficult for themselves. Life is a gobbledygook without words, and you can understand it without words. Elders especially like to say this sentence: You will understand when you reach my age. In our view, this is a demonstration of age experience, but it is a helpless move for the elders.
The elders' education of our initial intentions is not only for our own good, but also for our hope that we will not add chaos. I once filmed a Xiong Haizi. He is lazy, with raw eggs in his hand, and wants to throw them directly into the bowl on the table. I said it would break. You have to walk over there and put it there. He wouldn't listen, but insisted on throwing it. Finally, he asked me to clean the table and floor.
What if his behavior determines not the fate of the egg, but life? One person is glad that the whole family is happy, and one person is bitter that the whole family is sad. Because I love you very much, I don't want you to get hurt, otherwise I will be very sad. But at this time, what we feel is that the umbrella is too thick, which hinders our progress and is selfish to our emotions. But it is love that touches people's hearts.
We hate the elders pointing out life, as if our future had been seen at the end. What we don't like is that our elders deny our infinite possibilities. We don't like the authoritative tone of our elders, as if all our choices were wrong answers. What we don't like is that our elders have hit our self-confidence. We don't like our elders to follow the script, as if our lives are just following in the footsteps of others.
What we don't like is that our elders deprived us of our free will. Many of the truths said by elders are based on personal experience, and most of them are accurate. Because we are not old enough to understand the old people's ideas on many issues, and now young people have young people's ideas, and the old people feel that children's ideas cannot be understood. One thing elders like to say is that they don't listen to the old man and suffer in front of him. In other words, old people have the experience of old people, and young people don't know how to live without experience and experience, so old people will feel that their experience will be more insightful. You didn't listen to the old man, and then you suffered, so you know what the old man said is right. That's what they mean. Therefore, the older generation likes to educate the younger generation by educating people. Their original intention is to preach for the benefit of the younger generation.