In fact, children are the same.
I remember when I was a child, my relatives visited my house. Mom always likes to make fun of her own feces.
Whenever I hear my mother talk about her disgrace, I always hide in my room, covering my ears, and my head is buzzing with anger and shame.
From then on, I made up my mind that if I have a child, I will protect the dignity of the child and never be a mother.
However, the experience of taking the high-speed rail is still worrying.
On this high-speed train, sitting next to the seat is a boy like a primary school student and his fashionable mother.
Along the way, the boy didn't make any noise. He is watching an anime video on his mother's mobile phone.
However, there may be something urgent. The boy's mother tried to get his mobile phone back, but the boy who was immersed in the wonderful video obviously didn't like it and decided not to give it to him.
At this time, the boy's mother appeared excited expression on her face, loudly reprimanding the child for "knowing nothing".
The boy quietly touched a few words and immediately angered his mother.
At this time, this fashionable mother seems to have begun to scold her children loudly regardless of her image. Reprimand is too much. The passengers around nodded, and the boy bowed his head, afraid to speak again.
Passengers often advise: "The child is still young, so there is no need to educate the child like this."
However, this fashionable mother doesn't seem to accept other people's advice. "How can I educate my children so that you can't reach them?"
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In this way, even if she has found her mobile phone, the mother can't stop humiliating her children. The more she scolded, the more explicit she became.
And I sat in the seat next to them, all the way on pins and needles, sweating like a boy who was scolded in public, feeling uncomfortable and unable to get into a hole.
The experience of that road made me seem to have returned to my childhood and turned into a heartbroken child who was laughed at in public.
Nowadays, parents attach great importance to the education of their children, but their education methods often have no effect on their children, and sometimes they hurt their children in a reactionary way.
Some wrong educational methods will have a negative impact on children. Parents should try to avoid it in the process of educating their children.
Three common wrong education methods have negative effects on children. Please don't educate children like this. Many parents who like to "teach their children face to face" like to educate their children in front of others or even strangers.
They believe that children "have memories" by making their mistakes public.
But in fact, "teaching children face to face" has many negative effects on children, especially on their self-esteem.
Many parents don't care about their children's self-esteem and think that their children are too young and have no self-esteem.
However, in fact, children's self-esteem began to sprout at the age of 2.
In other words, parents must have a sense of protecting self-esteem when educating their 2-year-old children.
How important is a child's self-esteem? Self-esteem is often associated with self-confidence. Children whose self-esteem is often hit are often children with no self-confidence and inferiority.
It is natural for parents to attach importance to their children's academic performance. Because children's grades are related to their future.
However, in the process of children's growth, learning is not just a problem, and children's "bright spots" do not only appear on the report card.
Therefore, if parents pay too much attention to their children's grades, their children will smile if they do well in the exam, and they will become depressed if they do badly in the exam, which will have a bad influence on their children.
Children don't want perfect parents. Similarly, parents should not expect their children to be perfect.
Parents' "learning-only" teaching method is not only a huge pressure source for children with poor academic performance, but also for children with good academic performance.
The famous 14-year-old "top student" wrote a suicide note full of three papers, telling his parents that they were too strict with themselves and could not breathe.
The child's parents are very strict with their children's grades. There is a standard for each exam class, grade and even the ranking of the whole province.
So many parents should not educate their children like this.
What about parents whose parents are too autocratic? A common saying of authoritarian parents is: "I did it for you. You should have listened to me.
Just like the sentence "I do it for you" in the eyes of "authoritarian" parents, everything they do is based on the interests of their children.
If children don't do what they want, they may get angry, lose control of their emotions and even scold them.
Children raised by authoritarian parents are often timid and have no opinions.
On the surface, these children look obedient and smart, but in fact, they are sensible not from the heart, but because they are afraid of their parents.
Children who grow up in an authoritarian environment are not only prone to problems in personality and outlook on life, but also have a bad parent-child relationship with their parents.
Conclusion It seems simple to educate children, but in fact it is very challenging for parents.
Because every child is a different individual and has a personality. However, no matter how parents educate their children, they must take respect as the premise.
Don't be happy because the child has temporarily succumbed to his authority. Such education will actually harm children. Parents and children should actually be equal.
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