First of all, understand the meaning of "family meeting"
1. Equal exchange platform
In the family, the roles of different family members often affect the right to speak in family communication. In most families, parents have absolute right to speak, which leads to inequality in family communication or parent-child communication. The premise of the success of "family meeting" is that all members participate and have equal status. Therefore, in the field of "family meeting", all participants should adhere to the principle of equal communication. Naturally, children can also "bravely" express their inner thoughts. The equal communication platform built by family meetings allows each family member to be brave enough to be himself.
2. Balance between speaking and listening
In family relations, there are always people who play the role of "talking". One-way high-frequency communication will tilt the balance of the family, which will lead to "false listening" and "selective listening". These two wrong ways of listening are often the fuse of family conflicts. The convening of the "family meeting" has balanced the role of each family member and achieved a balance in which everyone speaks and everyone listens. When the "inertia speaker" switches identities and listens to family members' words peacefully and intently, the distance between hearts will gradually narrow.
3. The main location of the flow
When the balance of equal communication and listening and speaking is guaranteed, "family meeting" will produce its greatest function-flow. When family members get along, the most taboo place is the common life of personal division. Family members are not closely related by blood, but live in a common physical space. At this time, if there are members in the family who are in urgent need of care or feel insecure, not only family conflicts will occur, but even family members' mental health will also have problems. The existence of "family meeting" can narrow the distance between family members and realize the flow of emotions. In the field of "family meeting", family can transcend the concept of physical space and realize the psychological intimacy distance of "as long as there is family"
Two, a clear division of responsibilities of the "family meeting"
Before holding a "family meeting", there must be a clear division of responsibilities so that every family member in the meeting can really participate in the meeting instead of being a bystander. This is also a great guarantee for the success of the "family meeting".
There are two posts mentioned in Zhengfeng Suji, namely "Chairman" and "Secretary". The duties of the "chairman" include calling a meeting of family members, taking the lead in thanking them, starting to solve problems, being the first to speak with a stick, supervising the delivery of speeches, and ensuring that every family member has a chance to speak. The responsibility of the "secretary" is to record the contents discussed and the decisions made at the meeting. In view of the responsibilities mentioned above, I further refined and supplemented the division of labor among family members in the "family meeting".
The specific division of labor can be adjusted according to the number of family members, and the "post rotation" system is implemented. The purpose of adding the post of "photography" is to leave a better impression and increase the sense of ceremony of "family meeting".
Third, sort out the process of "family meeting"
Generally speaking, based on the time axis of "family meeting", its operation process can be divided into the following specific links. What needs special explanation is that not every link is fixed and necessary, but it can be adjusted according to the specific situation.
A family meeting must have closed-loop thinking. The weekly thank-you meeting can share and thank the warm things done by family members, and also share and affirm the implementation of the results of last week's discussion. After the family meeting, we should follow up the discussion and record it in time to avoid the misunderstanding of "an armchair strategist".
Fourth, the ritual sense of "family meeting"
Ritual sense can make "family meeting" go deeper into the hearts of each family member, and at the same time add interest to it, so you can also try to establish your own sense of family meeting ceremony. In the aspect of positive discipline, the author provides us with specific suggestions, such as family training, gratitude paper, family entertainment table, family dinner plan and so on. , with related table tools, for direct use. In addition, I also want to share some of my suggestions.
"family meeting" lucky thing
Materialize "family meetings". For example, lighting a special aromatherapy candle at a family gathering can not only give the family gathering a symbolic object, but also bring a pleasant mood experience.
Record book of "family meeting"
Every time a family meeting is held, the "secretary" uses the same notebook to record. When the stages are repeated, the notebook will become very important information, and its feelings for family members will be very shocking.
"family meeting" photo wall
Open a small place at home. After each family meeting, print out the photos and post them on the photo wall. Photos can be dated, and you can talk about the story behind them in your spare time. This will be a wonderful experience.
Summary: From a long time ago, I read the book Positive Discipline. At that time, I was not a teacher. More often, I use this book to understand the love my parents gave me. This holiday, I read this book again, and this time I got some new gains. At the same time, I also reviewed my class management during the holiday, and found that many contents of positive discipline played a very positive role in my class management. Taking advantage of the gap between online classes, I also want to share the treasure of positive discipline with my parents and partners. Family meetings provide opportunities for every family member to grow up, build a field of "love", make equality, respect and communication the main theme of the family, and let every family member hug each other in the gentle breeze and drizzle.