Question 1: What should middle school students do if they don't listen? Perhaps many parents will ask: What if the child is disobedient? The following ten tips are considered to be very effective. I suggest you try them.

1. Friendly attitude-If you talk to your child in a normal tone and kind attitude, it will be easier for your child to listen to you carefully.

2. Pause-When your child can't accept your request for a while, or even have an argument with your child, you must restrain your emotions. You can say, "I don't want to deal with this problem now. Let's talk about it later. "

3. Teach the child the truth-when the child makes a mistake or behaves rudely, don't punish him immediately, but teach him to pay attention to his behavior in a friendly tone. "Your toys should not be thrown around. Next time, please put them where they belong. Your toy shelf is the home of toys. The finished toys should be sent back to your home, just like you. When you're finished outside, I'll leave you in the street and won't let you go home. Do you think it's right? "

Your starting point should be positive-don't say to your child, "How many times do I have to say before you brush your teeth?" Instead, you should say, "Go brush your teeth. I wonder when you can finish it. I want to see if you can brush it clean. "

5. Explain to the child instead of threatening him-when the child tells you why he wants to do this, you should give him the right to briefly explain why he needs to do it, and then explain to him what is wrong with it, whether he has any reason to do it, and the correct way to do it.

6. Cherish every opportunity-you shouldn't focus all your attention on your child's misconduct. In fact, every conflict is an opportunity for us to educate our children. Don't miss it, make good use of this opportunity to educate children according to the situation.

7. Give encouragement-You can encourage your child to make progress through a few words and cooperation. Similar words include: "Look, other children can do it. You are not worse than them at all, and you can do it better than them, right?"

8. Be flexible-if your child asks, "Can I finish this performance before we go back?" If you still have time, you should spare some time for your children. You should respect children's right to ask questions.

9. Get rid of the threat of force-when there is a problem, don't say, "If you do this again, you will be beaten soon!" ""Do you remember why I hit you last time? "This threat of force is all wet, especially not to mention the pain caused to children in the past. The threat of force can only make children think that you are an authoritarian and rude parent, and the more they refuse to cooperate with you.

10. Make the best use of the situation-the ways and means of education should be diversified. When you find that your child has made a mistake, don't use a face every time. It's a way of reasoning, and your child will get bored. You can completely change some tricks, adapt to local conditions, and try various ways that children can accept. For example, if there is a problem, simply deal with it first. Then when you have time, you can tell him the truth by telling stories, playing games, going to the zoo, visiting museums and going out for an outing. Combine what you have seen and heard. In times of conflict, it is often difficult for children to accept criticism, but after such patient education, children will easily accept it.

Question 2: What should students do if they don't obey in education and teaching? First, understand and respect students. First of all, teachers should not think that students are against themselves if they don't do as required for a while; Don't take it to heart just because a student contradicts you, thinks that he doesn't respect you, or is worried that he will degenerate. If you overdo it, students will not accept it. The more you suppress, the more he resists, which will worsen the relationship between teachers and students and affect normal work. I have witnessed such a thing. A teacher found a student in this class without a red scarf and slippers on his feet. She ignored the willy-nilly and shut her students out. When she came out of the last class, the student had disappeared. Later, I heard that the student accidentally fell into a ditch on his way home, but fortunately he was rescued, which almost caused uncontrollable consequences. In fact, there are no absolute standard students in the world. Red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple are the true colors of the world. As long as you know the students accurately and seize the favorable opportunity to help them, the students will listen to the teacher. Second, adopt the method of accepting criticism. Students are disobedient and make mistakes. Teachers should criticize them, but sharp criticism and rude criticism often backfire. In this way, it is more important for students to adopt an acceptable criticism method, which is nothing more than replacing criticism with praise, indirect reminding, euphemistic prompting, positive heart-to-heart, and comparison with examples ... Students' shortcomings are exposed in public, and unfriendly criticism may hurt students' self-esteem and lead to deadlock. Teachers should have a good sense of proportion and help students go down the stairs. In the composition class, a student was prone on the desk and didn't write a composition. A student told the teacher, "He didn't write anything." Then I said politely; "Write a composition with your heart, maybe when he matures." At this time, the students slowly raised their heads, picked up a pen, looked at the teacher gratefully, and then wrote a composition. It can be seen that the teacher is suggesting that the students walk down the steps skillfully. Therefore, if students are willing to accept criticism, they can get unexpected results. Third, always calm down and give more guidance. Sometimes students make unexpected mistakes by teachers, which makes people very angry. If this time, regardless of the willy-nilly, loudly reprimanded, it will not be effective. Because when people are excited, they will say things that hurt their self-esteem that they don't want to say beforehand, which will not only help, but will be counterproductive. At this time, it is best to remind yourself in one sentence-never forget that you were a child. In fact, when children grow up, there are no people who have never done stupid things. When we get along with the people around us, we can keep a restrained and calm attitude, so should we treat students. I took over the most chaotic class in a school. In Chinese class, a student moves his chair back and forth. Several other students saw this and began to move together. The chairs moved loudly. At that time, the classroom echoed with the sound of "take, take", which completely drowned the teacher's lecture. I tried to restrain myself, just sitting on the podium seriously and peacefully without saying a word. After a while, the classroom quieted down, and the teacher pointed out the harm of doing so in soft language, and the students were completely convinced. Fourth, using humor to ease contradictions and stopping wrong humor is often a good medicine to ease contradictions. When the contradiction is more dramatic, please use humorous language to resolve the contradiction, which will certainly receive good results. Once, students folded planes with paper and let them fly from the balcony of the teaching building on the playground of the campus, which was very unsightly. The teacher repeated the order and the application. When I was in Chinese class, I was learning "airplane". I restrained my inner anger and praised the beauty of the paper plane with a smile, which eased the tension of my classmates. Then I pointed out that "it is naturally very comfortable for students to fold planes in a stressful and monotonous study life." However, have you ever thought that these "airplane" remains left on the playground look like a face of Zhang Xiuqing with white plaster? Who wants to put that thing on their face? A few words made the students laugh and cry. Then I pointed out: "This not only wastes paper, but also affects environmental sanitation. It is really an unknown move! " Since then, the students' folding "airplane" wind has been silent. Fifth, analyze the reasons, prescribe the right medicine for the mistakes made by students, and analyze the specific situation, instead of generalizing. Sometimes students are late and they slam the door. Who should they rush at? Not necessarily for you. Maybe there is something wrong with him at home or somewhere else. Teachers should be cool-headed, ask the same fate and prescribe the right medicine. There is a student who is depressed in class many times and fails to finish his homework on time ... >>

Question 3: What should parents do to reason with disobedient and rebellious middle school students? Hard doesn't make sense. It's not a fight. It's a threat to wipe Ta's face in front of classmates. This is what scares me most.

Question 4: Why don't middle school students listen to you now? There are two kinds: some are disobedient and some are obedient.

Question 5: How to discipline the children of disobedient junior high school students? This problem is very common among children nowadays. Social environment and education have deeply influenced children today. This problem can't be solved in one or two sentences. First of all, he is now in a rebellious period. The more you tell him to go east, the more he goes west. Only when he has to go against you will he be happy. Therefore, this period must not be confronted with children. Secondly, when children are older, parents should always communicate with their children to understand their thoughts. It is necessary to analyze the interests of truth. When communicating, don't just talk to the parents themselves, but guide the children to talk. Everyone makes mistakes, especially children. Personally, do you think it is possible to transfer the attraction of luxury scenes in society to children with the warmth of family? The above is just a personal idea, and of course there are mistakes. Say it and everyone will discuss it. This problem does exist in most children today. It is worth pondering.

Question 6: What should junior high school students do if they are rebellious and disobedient? Every adolescent rebellious person is different, so there is no good way. Just try it.

1. In order to know what she really thinks,

2. Have a heart-to-heart talk with her, and sometimes consider problems from her standpoint.

3. To guide people, you can solve problems without thinking.

4. Communicate more and communicate more. Sometimes she knows what she is doing is wrong, but in order to show that she has grown up, she should have her own ideas and do some publicity.

Question 7: What should junior high school students do if they don't obey? In fact, many parents have similar views when talking about their children. These little guys are children who don't want to study hard in the eyes of parents, but students who don't want to study hard in the eyes of teachers. For these children, is there a magnet to attract them to learn?

As long as there is a question, there will be an answer. In fact, parents can do this completely, so that children can feel that every progress in learning can bring happiness to their parents. If the child realizes that he studies hard and gets good grades, he can also get comfort from his parents' mood. He is willing to bring joy to his parents by studying hard. Therefore, parents should show pride and gratification for their children's every progress, no matter how small, so that children feel that their efforts are worthwhile and should work harder.

Some anxious parents, after seeing their children's report cards, always compare the children next door with their own children, and even violently criticize their own children, which makes them very miserable. Doing so will make children have no sense of happiness and pride after mental work. In severe cases, they will have the idea that there is no way out, and all kinds of unexpected things will happen. In fact, this should not happen. As a child with poor self-control, mistakes are inevitable, but as an adult parent, it is a big mistake to take irrational behavior on some issues.

As parents, we should treat our children's academic performance correctly. At present, there are still many parents who equate the score of academic performance with the quality, morality and quality of students. When they talk about a child's poor grades, they will think that he is not as good as others and is a poor student. In fact, parents should know that the evaluation of academic performance can not fully reflect a child, nor can they simply conclude that a good grade is a good student, let alone simply think that not getting the "deserved" score means that the student is "unqualified". Parents should clearly realize this: not all children have the same ability. It is a great achievement that one child can easily get an A and another child can get a C. Therefore, don't take children's grades too seriously, and parents should recognize and encourage every little progress.

Children don't like learning, which is not necessarily caused by poor intelligence. Parents' incorrect attitude towards children's learning, improper guidance to children's learning, and bad learning attitudes and habits developed by children in their early years are all reasons. Among them, parents' attitude towards their children's learning is incorrect, including expecting too much from their children, not providing a suitable learning environment, only paying attention to exam results, and even letting themselves go.

The bad learning attitude and habits developed by children in their early years have the greatest influence on learning, because it will directly affect the learning attitude of the day after tomorrow. Generally speaking, procrastination, dependence, luck and lack of perseverance are all bad habits. Parents should pay attention to prevent their children from catching these bad habits.

In addition, an important reason why children don't like learning is that they lose their confidence and interest in learning because of their poor grades. To this end, the primary task of parents is to try to stimulate their children's learning motivation. Power comes from demand. In the process of learning, children will have three needs, including interest, sense of accomplishment and appreciation. When children have even met their needs, they will have a good impression on learning, and then gradually fall in love with learning. In the face of children who don't like learning, it is most taboo to act too hastily, such as scolding and flogging children, so as to avoid self-defeating and increase their dislike of learning.

When faced with the problem that children don't like learning, many parents always blame or scold their children first, but fail to find out the real reason why children don't like learning and help them cultivate their interest in learning. This is a failure of education. Therefore, many children who can be trained the day after tomorrow have become a group that cannot progress under such circumstances. Parents should encourage and reward their children from time to time, and let them know and correct their mistakes through clear rewards and punishments. It should be emphasized that when children do not study well and do not like learning, parents should not only pay attention to their grades, but also pay attention to their consciousness, find the reasons from the root causes and find ways to solve their children's problems. The exam is only to evaluate the child's learning level. Even if it is not ideal, don't be too nervous.

Question 8: What should junior high school students do if they don't obey? Education should pay attention to methods, especially for junior high school students with rebellious psychology.

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Question 9: How to educate high school students who are disobedient? It is normal to show disobedience during the rebellious period. On the one hand, children in a rebellious period will show disgust at their parents' orders. Try to talk to your child in a consultative tone.

On the other hand, we should consider whether parents' demands are reasonable. Don't force children to do things they don't want to do. If others force you to do something they don't want to do, you will also show disobedience.

The treatment against life should also be divided into different situations:

If it is a general problem, you can do it according to the child's wishes, otherwise too many restrictions will inhibit the child's natural development.

For safety and conduct issues, we should set rules for him and pay attention to principles, so that he can know what he can't do and what the consequences are. Discipline him not to make mistakes, but to let him know that he is responsible for his actions.

Pay attention to your parents' words and deeds and set an example. Many children's behaviors are reflected by their parents. Parents' conduct is correct, and the children they come into contact with must be correct.

Question 10: Children are "disobedient" from junior high school. What should I do? In the process of children's growth, perhaps the most maddening thing for parents is the three years of children's junior high school, which happens to be the "rebellious period" of children. Family education in this period is well done, and children's lives will be smoother. In the face of "rebellious" children, parents need to adjust their attitude and change the way of discipline in order to enhance the parent-child relationship and solve the existing problems together.

Why do children become different at the age of thirteen or fourteen when they reach the second day of the first grade? The former good boy and girl seem to have suddenly changed and become a strange, mysterious guy who likes to be against his parents? In fact, the reason is very simple: because children are growing up, they begin to find their own independent self and do things according to their own ideas. Psychologically, this period of children's growth is called "rebellious period".

To establish a positive parent-child relationship, parents should first make it clear that the purpose of education is to train their children into real people, not to satisfy their vanity or to continue their parents' will; Secondly, we should understand that the only way to cultivate is to stimulate the child's own growth and let him grow up consciously, not for his parents or anything else.

In the establishment of parent-child relationship, parents should pay special attention to "three high-voltage lines" and "two traps". The "three high-voltage lines" are destructive criticisms and compulsions that ignore children's existence, which will greatly hurt children's self-esteem, self-confidence and sense of independence and destroy parent-child relationship. The "two traps" are "conditional love" and "mentality that can't afford to lose".

Never use material rewards to motivate children to do something. This is a deal, not love. Under this condition, no matter what you do, the child will not feel your love and he will not appreciate you. He thinks this is a conditional exchange.

Eight tools to help you build a positive parent-child relationship

The purpose of education is to train children to become real people. Specifically, it is to cultivate children's six spiritual personalities: self-esteem, self-confidence, responsibility, enterprising spirit, interest in learning and good habits. Dr. Dong Jinyu, a famous expert in parenting education and a famous life motivation tutor, said: "Among them, if a child has the first three personalities, he will certainly have no problems and grow up healthily. If he still has the latter personality, he will become an excellent person. "

In order to cultivate children's six personalities, positive parent-child relationship is very important. How to establish a positive parent-child relationship? Try the "eight tools": love, praise, encouragement, confirmation, understanding, companionship, making rules and criticism. As long as parents can make good use of these tools, they can establish a good parent-child relationship.

Every parent will say that they love their children, but can children feel your love? Only by listening, speaking, watching and doing well and using the tool of' love' well can children feel love. Listen to your child like a leader; If you have something to say directly to your child, never say anything that hurts your child's self-esteem. Look at the child lovingly, not at the child's report card; What you do for your children should be appropriate, neither too much nor too little.

Praise is a good tool to build children's self-esteem, but nearly one-third of parents think that praise will make their children proud. As long as the way of praise is proper, it can play a very positive role, including praising children's advantages and immediate praise. The specific steps are: state the facts, confirm the reasons worthy of praise, express the happy mood and expect him (her) to keep it, and finally have physical contact, such as hugging the child, patting the shoulder and holding the child's hand.

Parents should encourage their children no matter whether they fail or succeed, and give them the courage to start over and the confidence to make persistent efforts. If parents want their children to do something, or what qualities they want their children to have, then when they find that their children have done something, they will say it out loud to confirm it, which will make their children remember it deeply. After a few times, their children will form good habits.

Parents should spend as much time with their children as possible. Only together can parents know how to communicate with them. When making rules, be sure to consult with your children. Only the rules that the child agrees with can he abide by and be useful. When criticizing children after discovering their mistakes, we should tell the facts, state the facts and point out the consequences, pay attention to protecting children's self-esteem and express positive hopes.

Focusing only on the report card will destroy the parent-child relationship.

Parents should not just stare at their children's report cards. If you only stare at the report card, you will ignore the child's learning status and psychological growth, which is very unfavorable to the child's growth and will also destroy the parent-child relationship between you and your child. According to the survey data, more than three ... >>