Affect the formation of children's right and wrong concepts. Parents play different "faces" in family education, make different judgments and adopt different attitudes towards the same thing their children do. It is easy for children to confuse right and wrong. Without knowing who to listen to, they simply treat their mistakes with indifference. This is not conducive to the formation of children's concept of right and wrong. It is not conducive to the all-round development of children's personality. If parents "divide their work" in tutoring, one side will punish the other vertically, one side will be strict and the other will be relaxed. It is easy for children to be afraid of one person at home, only listen to one person, and let children divide their parents into good and bad, those who like to spoil and protect themselves, and stay away from the other. "A mother's love is like the sea, and a father's love is like a mountain." The absence of either parent is not conducive to the all-round development of children's personality. When children make mistakes, parents need to educate them immediately and tell them where they are wrong. Why is it wrong? How to correct it later? Timely education is not only effective, but also children will be convinced. If it is tolerant to sing "Good Police" when children make mistakes, regardless of whether they ask or not, and then "bring up the past" when "Good Police" comes back, its educational effect will be greatly reduced. The "red and white face" education that affects children's mental health allows children to learn to take advantage of loopholes. Whoever can agree to his request will be ground, and even hide his mistakes and lies because he escapes punishment or caters to praise. The survey shows that among children with psychological problems, the proportion of parents adopting "inconsistent attitude" is 17. 3%, significantly higher than the proportion of parents of normal children who adopt this kind of education. 24%。 For a family, children's education should be said to come from a kind of joint force, that is, the overall effect of parents, and the best joint force formed by both sides learning from each other's strengths. What is needed is not "strict father's loving mother" or "strict mother's loving father", but that every family member should be consistent, strict when necessary, and truly kind, strict and kind when necessary. Such tacit cooperation can gain children's trust and respect, and it is also the most favorable environment for children's growth. To this end, parents should do the following: jointly study the problems existing in their children, so as to be aware of them, especially in the cultivation of personality and quality, and reach an agreement. Cooperate with each other in the process of education. When a child makes a mistake, when one side criticizes and educates the child, the other side should not be partial, especially not to blame the other side in front of the child, and should cooperate and coordinate with each other. The requirements for children are the same. Be consistent with your feelings for your children. One moment you don't love enough, the other you beat and scold. This will aggravate and prolong the child's resistance period, which is unscientific. Parents need not be strict with their children. You just need to let them know that life is his own and what he wants is his own choice. What parents can give him is only temporary, and the quality of life ultimately depends on him. Everything he does today is for his own future, not for his parents' future, but to cultivate children's consciousness. What parents should do is to put forward some views and opinions in time when their children are in trouble to help them through these troubled times. He is considerate and should be friends with your children, not give orders. Educating children is really a deep knowledge, and there are as many educational methods as there are children. My thoughts are for reference only.