Don't comment on their words and actions with your own ideas and angles. Take their perspective into their world. You can see each other's hearts in the same world, and only through communication can you trust and understand each other. Everything comes from love. For example, a child has his own secret, and maybe no one has it, so when you are alone, tell him one of your own secrets and then exchange it with him. Know his mind through this game, but don't forget not to judge with your own thoughts, so no matter what he says, he can only answer: I understand. If he admits in these games, such as fighting or stealing, if you still calmly answer that you understand him, you can gain mutual trust and understanding, and then educate these events in the future, such as substituting him into a role and a different role with the same story, and educating him to understand his own mentality and thoughts, so don't force ideas into their hearts, so it is easy to copy your consciousness. There must be a reason for their poor academic performance, and the reason can be learned from them. If they don't like some subjects, even if they can get good grades, they may deliberately not tell you their favorite subjects, which is very important for their free development of potential. Therefore, don't think that scolding can get good grades, and grades will never represent their true wisdom. That's just a social misunderstanding! Therefore, never mind that they are the most important concepts. Don't really care, but don't put your emotions and thoughts on them, don't inhibit their potential development, and let them feel that their families understand them, understand them and know their feelings. Will such children be disobedient? So listen to your words and just become another parent according to your parents' consciousness, not a new life to experience the life you want! True obedience is that they listen to their own hearts, let themselves find the meaning and mission of life and live happily!