As a new father, inexperience is inevitable. However, this is a very serious problem, and it is a very serious problem. I will never forgive myself for this reason in the future. How to educate children is really a very complicated science.
Recalling the first time I saw him, I didn't feel happy or sad. He lay safely in the nurse's arms, his hair was dark and dense, his face was a little swollen because of long-term immersion in amniotic fluid, his eyes were closed and he didn't seem to cry. The nurse hugged him and told me the details of the baby born by caesarean section, telling me that it was a boy. I was unusually calm and felt a little relieved. The little guy made his mother suffer for two days and nights, but she was born by caesarean section, safe and sound, and everything was fine in the end.
It is said that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Although parents and children are not lovers, their children are always so beautiful in the eyes of parents. Although I have been preventing my wife from praising my son for his good looks, I always feel the same way in my heart. Although I told myself not to ask too much of my child, I still longed for him to get ahead in the future.
I grew up under difficult conditions, and I received a traditional education. In terms of educational philosophy, I am nothing more than a "loyal minister heirloom, and poetry and books are handed down from generation to generation." At first, I imagined that the growth of children was a very simple matter and didn't need too much trouble. Obviously, I misunderstood.
Looking back, in the process of raising for more than two years, my son's care and love for us is extraordinary. One is sleep problems. From the initial sleepless night to the late night, I fell asleep too late, and several adults in my family were tossed around by him. I can't forget the feeling of staying up with him for nearly a night and then going to work. Really dizzy and refreshed. And I still keep the habit of being held or carried around on my shoulders to fall asleep. It takes at least 50 calories to fall asleep at a time. The second is the problem of diet. It's one thing to be picky about food, but it's another to be unable to eat independently when you are over two years old. The third problem is ADHD. Children are full of energy and need more activities to fully release them. My son seems to be more energetic in this respect, always running around. The old people who look after children in the whole community know that my son runs fast and grandparents can't catch up. Now, his activities have developed to throwing toys.
For these problems, at present, I am still at a loss.
I don't know how much responsibility I should take on these issues, but at least I am responsible. If you ask me what parenting experience I have, I can only tell you these failed experiences. Because my son makes me depressed.
Looking back on my efforts, there are mainly: 1. Angry corporal punishment. This should be an act of adding mistakes to mistakes. I am also deeply aware that this is completely useless. Don't say that my son's "corporal punishment" was besieged by the whole family, and he won an all-round spiritual victory, which had no positive effect at all, not to mention that I myself held a negative attitude towards it, especially afterwards. The second is to unite family members and unify their understanding. There is no doubt that I failed again. From beginning to end, I stood on the opposite side of the whole family in many details of raising children, including my wife, who did not reach a consensus with me. There may be a brief consensus for a few minutes, but sadly, she soon forgot the consensus. After the failure of the above two points, I can only choose to let go, hope for the future, hope for the tree to attract the wind and hope for the people's wishes.
At present, I have also realized something. A child's nature cannot be erased. Many times, my parents' rude words and deeds will leave a haze on their pure hearts, so I learned to restrain myself. For example, my son threw things around and even hit people with hard objects. I had no choice but to tell him orally that it was wrong and not to break out.
Of course, I also have some uncontrollable moments. I hope I won't leave a psychological shadow on my son.
In the final analysis, my failed father just wants his son to become a mentally sound person, and does not require him to achieve much or study hard. As long as he is a positive person, I am satisfied.