The correct way to educate children at home is to correct their naughty behavior in time.
I think naughty children are smart and easy to become talents. It is difficult to become a talent in practice. Naughty children are often inattentive, have poor organizational skills, lack self-esteem and self-motivation, and are not easy to persuade education, which is completely different from those children who are eager to learn, curious and have brains. Letting children learn and take the initiative does not mean making children naughty and disobedient. Don't think that being naughty is children's nature. When they grow up, they will be fine. Let them go with the flow and protect their weaknesses.
The correct way for families to educate their children: money cannot replace education.
Replacing education with money and educating children with economic incentives can only make children gradually develop the bad habit of being greedy for money, loving leisure and working hard for nothing, and lose the most precious spiritual qualities such as self-reliance and self-improvement. Parents give their children money at will, and the children are obedient. They love their children on the surface, but actually hurt them, injecting the bad habits of "money is everything" and "only money is obedient" into their young hearts.
The correct way for families to educate their children: "Bribing" children is harmful.
It is harmful to use money and material to stimulate and lure children to do what they should do. Take out the garbage, do housework, study hard and so on. It should be what children usually do. Let children engage in these jobs, cultivate good living habits and study habits, and know that these are sacred tasks that they must complete perfectly. But taking money as bait not only deepens children's greed for money and money, but also weakens children's learning motivation, deviates from children's normal personality and has a great impact on children's life.
The correct way for families to educate their children is to treat exaggerated praise correctly.
Parents like to listen to others' praise for their children best, and don't want to listen to criticism. Children, too, greatly show what others have praised or repeat what others have praised. But improper exaggeration and praise will lead to the opposite effect. Compliments are mostly out of politeness and communication needs, so a large part of them are false diplomatic rhetoric. Don't just enter the vanity circle of narcissism, self-comfort and self-appreciation, which is extremely unfavorable for children's growth and development. Because of this, parents and children think that this is very good, and relaxing the struggle will hinder the correction of mistakes and delay the growth of children.
The correct way for families to educate their children: it is harmful to dress up children deliberately.
Everyone has a love of beauty, and makeup is beyond reproach. As a young child, it is really inappropriate to go to kindergarten or school to wear heavy makeup, even without superb light makeup. First, any high-grade cosmetics and makeup technology are harmful to the immature skin and body of children and adolescents; Second, everything about children is innocent and beautiful in essence, and makeup is a kind of pollution to innocent hearts. Not dressing up is by no means not paying attention to children's clothes, nor is it letting children wear rags and dirty clothes. Children's clothes should be neat, generous, concise, elegant, beautiful and comfortable, strive for convenience and simplicity, do not pursue fashion, and are not interested in pursuing winning numbers.
The correct way to educate children at home: don't make promises to children easily.
Everything in the child's heart is serious, and the promise to the child is carefully remembered. It is harmful for the child to wait for the promise to be fulfilled for whatever reason. Over time, children will lose trust in their parents, be careless, dishonest, disobedient and learn to lie. "A promise of a thousand dollars" is really an experience. Children's young hearts need the enrichment of truth, goodness and beauty, and can't stand the slightest falsehood and deception. Whether a promise is fulfilled or not is likely to affect the formation of children's ideological and moral character throughout their lives. Don't make promises easily. Once you make a promise, you must keep it.
The correct way to educate children at home is not to lose "moral education" from "intellectual education".
Nowadays, there is a very wrong idea. Many schools and parents regard "intellectual education first", "score-only theory" and "entering an ideal university" as their only educational purpose. So all the activities carried out by the school revolve around this core; When parents are relatively rich, they have already designed what kind of university their children will go to in the future when they are still fetuses, that is, they don't consider what kind of outlook on life and morality to cultivate their children. When children learn to be obedient, what they hear most is to study hard and get the first place in the exam, so that they can go to a good university in the future. The evaluation of children is almost always based on the level of scores. As a result, children's psychological distortion and development are bound, and the advantages and disadvantages of themselves and the country can be imagined.
The correct way for family to educate children: don't let children be "little sheep".
Parents are too modest, strict with their children and don't "provoke" others. Whether they are right or wrong, they first punish their children and are not allowed to argue with others for justice. Children have always been suppressed by the weak philosophy of "humble to avoid disasters" and "seeking perfection through grievances", and control will undoubtedly become a little sheep without courage to fight and ability to bear setbacks. Strengthening the education of children's perseverance, determination and fortitude, resistance, adaptation and frustration is one of the educational problems that developed countries attach great importance to today. We should follow the example of educating our children to be brave soldiers, and never become weak "little sheep".
The correct way for families to educate their children: foster children should not be "bullies"
The weak little sheep can't do it, and neither can the arrogant little bully. Parents are afraid that their children will be bullied, blindly encouraging them to fight and call names, being competitive and bullying, preferring "others fail me" rather than "I fail others". In this way, children will become bullies who beat the streets and scold the school, and no one can control them. Bullies are often the beginning of bullies, and bullies often take risks, and then only use criminal law. It is necessary to strengthen etiquette education for children, learn to respect others, and at the same time learn to strive for self. We should set up "brave", friendly and compassionate teenagers.
The correct way for families to educate their children: big trees may not be natural and straight.
Today, many "little emperors" have developed into stubborn teenagers who dominate one side, abuse their parents at will and disobey the law. Most of them are caused by parents' concept of "letting nature take its course", blindly indulging and accommodating children and letting them do whatever they want. Almost all surveys show that parents always think that it is better for their children to grow up and relax their childhood education; Sometimes I feel that I should be disciplined, but I can't bear to be harsh; Some parents are cowardly, afraid to discipline, and even send their children to grandparents to raise them, which makes this kind of doting grow and develop, and makes the abnormal behavior of children get deeper and deeper, reaching today's hopeless.