? Finally, the girl handed over a blank piece of paper, which made all the teachers dumbfounded: the girl got a good grade in Chinese, and even if she barely managed to cope with the exam, she could get 70 points. Why did she hand in a blank sheet of paper? This is the final exam and the model exam for Grade Three, but all children who want to take the senior high school entrance examination must take it seriously. Who is she angry with? Class teacher? Getting a zero on purpose in the exam dragged down the average score of the class and made the teacher flustered? Or a subject teacher? Deliberately hand in a blank sheet of paper and ask the Chinese teacher about a bad year? After a discussion in the office for a while, the teachers left with doubts.
? Later, the prefect told everyone that the girl was angry with her mother. The reason is that the girl wants to enroll in a vocational school and choose her favorite major, but her mother resolutely refuses to allow it, so the girl is entangled with her parents. The act of handing in a blank sheet of paper can only be regarded as a little witch in a little girl. Not long ago, she let a witch out. The little girl ran away from home while her parents were asleep at night, which frightened her parents, but they still refused to let go. I think that girl was full of resentment and made the best decision.
? Actually, I know this girl and talked with her for a long time. Although the girl told her story in tears, I can only express my heartache and helplessness. Because before I had a long talk with this girl, I had an in-depth talk with her mother (the girl's mother often heard about me from Iman's mother in Moya 10 class, so she specifically asked me for advice).
? When chatting with me, the girl's mother repeatedly expressed regret that she didn't put her daughter in my class, saying that Iman and Chen Yu in my class played with her daughter's primary school, and their grades were comparable, even her daughter was better. However, in junior high school, Iman and Chen Yu are making great strides, while her daughter is going downhill! Why are other people's children so good and their own children so disappointing? In fact, this girl's "disappointing" is far more than running away from home and handing in a blank exam. In order to protect the children's reputation, it will not spread here.
? The girl's mother was particularly unconvinced and thought that she was the initiator of Bright Guo Xue course. Under her influence, many bright mothers also joined the ranks of learning Guo Xue, and her mothers Maniyi and Chen Yu even drove her to learn Guo Xue. But now the rookie's children are excellent, but the old horse's children have lost their hooves, which is really incomprehensible!
? Then the problem comes out. Why does an enterprising mother teach such a disappointing child? The root of the problem is not the cognition of mother and daughter. In fact, their cognitive level is much higher than that of many people. What really makes things out of control is the personality of mother and daughter.
? My mother has a strong personality and a strong desire for control. In addition, she loves face and cares about other people's comments. Girls are aggressive and rebellious, especially like to associate with all kinds of peers. If the girl's personality is dull, weak, curtilage and obedient, then there will be no such magnificent story, but she will attack herself in the dark, constantly reduce her self-identity and grow into a passerby who lacks self-confidence and security and has no sense of existence. It happened that the girl was not a child prodigy, so it was not surprising that a mother-daughter war broke out from time to time.
? Here, I especially want to tell parents: accept the child as it is! Actually, other people's children are not as good as you think! The reason why you always think your children are bad is because you always compare the advantages of other children with the disadvantages of your own children. Don't you compare your child to death?
? Tan Xiao of Moya 10 class was bullied by schoolmasters in the classroom at ordinary times without saying a word. But last month, I took him to visit Zhili School. When he raised his hand and shared his experience on the stage, I suddenly saw a radiant cool and handsome boy: tall, strong, handsome, well-spoken, calmly coping, and the whole person looked confident. I was particularly moved at that time, and specially took a photo and sent it to his father, saying that this is the most authentic Xiao Tan. In fact, he has always been excellent, but adults have always compared his shortcomings with the advantages of other children, which is obviously unfair and a kind of violence.
? For example, it is the teacher's own task to teach students how to improve their grades. If you work hard, you will have a clear conscience, but it is the task of students whether to learn or not. Teachers can encourage students to study hard by telling stories, holding class meetings and doing courses, but they can't force students to study. Even if forced, it's useless. This topic is for students. If teachers insist on coercion, cowardly students will choose to submit to humiliation, but bear a grudge. It is not impossible to wait for revenge for several years. Isn't it often reported on the Internet that students beat their teachers many years after graduation? Students with strong personality choose to resist on the spot, so it is difficult for teachers to ride a tiger and lose their prestige. Students with extreme personality or some mental illness will also go to Korosensei, and such news on the Internet will be exposed many times a year.
? In the family, it is a compulsory course for parents to provide a safe and warm home for children and create a good learning environment for children. However, whether children learn, how to learn and how to learn are all their own topics. Parents can make some reasonable suggestions for their children's reference, but they can't interfere at will. If the child really can't do it, parents can only accept it and can't compare other children with their own children. When my son was a freshman, my personal wish was that he should study science. After all, science has a wider range of enrollment and more jobs, but my son wants to choose liberal arts. As soon as I thought about it, it was my topic to support my son in high school and college. Whether to choose literature or science, and which university to go to is my son's topic, I still don't interfere, but I can't let go. I must help my son choose. So I bought a Gallup advantage recognizer online, and my son did more than 170 questions online with the personal password provided by this book. Finally, I found that my advantage lies in liberal arts, so my son decisively chose liberal arts. Because I work hard on the dominant subjects, my son's grades will improve several places in every exam. In the third year of high school, my son was able to take the first place in the grade. In the end, my son was successfully admitted to his favorite Shenzhen University (his geography teacher predicted that he would miss Shenzhen University when he was a freshman last semester).
? Looking back now, if my son had taken my advice and chosen science, it would have been difficult for him to be admitted to Shenzhen University. Physics and chemistry alone have abused him. What else can he do? It is estimated that it is difficult to get into the deep vocational college.
? Having said that, I think readers and friends have found the reasons for the contradiction between parents and children, and their children are always inferior to others' answers.
? What really causes human tragedy is: confusion of topics! As parents, instead of doing their own projects well, they should impose their own projects on their children! Or squeeze the child's project into nothing! Children like to joke about one sentence: take someone else's road and let others have no way to go! The point is that when others have no choice, they should take risks! Don't think that the girl's behavior in the empty paper is just resistance. There is also an invisible resistance called "non-violence and non-cooperation"! At present, Pang Yi and Xiao Shi in Moya 10 class are listless all day and don't want to study. The teacher caught their eyes and pretended to read a few words. If teachers don't take care of them, they will let themselves go. Why? Because in their view, parents interfere with their own subjects without authorization, but they can't change them, so they are "mourning" for muddling along. The other children in the class are in a strong state of life, and they can't wait to treat 1 minute as 10 minute, or even go to the toilet. Why? Because they are busy with their own projects, in their words, they have to kneel down and take the road of their choice!