First, we should consciously adjust our tone-adjust the tone of "command" to that of "negotiation". It is necessary to realize that children are slowly becoming "adults" and need the attention and respect of others.
Second, if children have their own classmates and friends, they should be treated with respect. You should save face for your child in front of your classmates, and hurting your child's friends is hurting your child. If you still follow the way of absolute obedience as a child, it is easy to hurt your child's self-esteem. Children's lying and cheating are often by-products of power, leading to confrontation (for example, parents know their children's homework or exam results).
Third, let children participate in major events at home and share their worries and responsibilities.
Children are growing up, parents should consciously treat him as an adult, especially to cultivate children to feel that they are an indispensable member of the family. Parents should tell their children about the setbacks and difficulties in their children's lives, talk to them appropriately, and let them know that adults and children have the same problems. More importantly, let them know how their parents treat them.
Fourth, we should be good at discovering the problems of our own educational methods from children's attitudes.
If your child is being unreasonable to you, you should first consider whether your past and present are reasonable to your child and whether you respect your child. If you have the right attitude towards children, children are generally reasonable. Children will treat you the way their parents treat their children.
Fifth, we should pay attention to children's best friends and related family background.
Children need the help of their peers at this stage, which will easily lead to the situation that "those who are pro-Zhu Zhechi are pro-Mexico". But you may not know who your child is in contact with, so don't directly blame why. Instead, we should know the children's peers and their family background, especially his best or closest friends, in an appropriate way, so as to make correct judgments and take appropriate measures. Sixth, pay attention to children's interests.
Many adolescent children are unwilling to communicate with their parents. They don't answer your questions or perfunctory them, which often makes some parents feel unable to communicate. Therefore, it is necessary to understand his interests. If children have good interests and parents consciously cultivate and develop them, children will feel that parents understand him and even have a common language. Otherwise, children will find it boring to communicate with you, form an evil consciousness to cultivate and develop, and children will feel that their parents understand him and even have a common language. Otherwise, children will find it boring to communicate with you and form a vicious circle.
Seventh, give children trust.
Children will have problems in the process of growing up, and parents should not overreact, quickly or violently. It is necessary to point out its mistakes, especially to rationally analyze the causes and possible harm of the mistakes, and express confidence in the child's correction.
Eighth, we should be proud of our children's kindness, success and sense of responsibility.
Many parents are willing to show off their children's academic performance, but what do parents of children with poor academic performance have to show off? Children's honesty, integrity, responsibility, helpfulness, diligence and optimism, filial piety and other performances and behaviors should be affirmed in time, so that children can feel their own value, have confidence in themselves and grow up healthily.
Nine, we should always pay attention to students' psychological abnormalities and strengthen the education of adolescent related knowledge.
It is necessary to guide children to have healthy heterosexual contacts and establish positive and healthy heterosexual relationships. To guide children to treat the opposite sex correctly, if they really have a good impression in communication, they should be good at touching children in various ways, educating them to learn to control their feelings with reason and step on the brakes in time at the appropriate time. We should educate them, guide them to sublimate their yearning for the opposite sex into pure emotions, and let them pay attention to helping and promoting each other in their thoughts and studies.