My child is 9 years old, a boy, in the third grade. I have been looking for money since the second grade, but I have taken it frequently recently. Looking at the children, I thought of myself. When I was a child, I also got money because my pocket money was too small. Seeing others eating snacks, I want to eat by myself. So how should children be educated when they get the money?
It is not a serious matter for children to steal money. If adults are frank enough and have a good memory, you will find that most people have had the experience of stealing money when they were children. But in adulthood, only a few people keep this bad behavior, and most people still grow up to be good people in the traditional concept. When children steal money, don't think it is an accident, but don't take it seriously.
First of all, don't use violence, because a beating may not work at all.
Secondly, don't label children as "thieves", and don't reprimand them in public, which will hurt their self-esteem. In this way, he may not be able to fundamentally realize his mistakes, and the fragile child will feel that he can't lift his head and get hurt inside. These will affect the child's future growth.
Then learn to apologize and learn to empathize. Empathy is also a way of education, guiding children to imagine that when children make mistakes, it is a good time to learn. We must always remember when educating our children. I have always believed that there must be a group of bear parents behind Xiong Haizi. If parents can be upright, children will not grow crooked!
Finally, understand the intention of children to use money: if you want to eat snacks, you can go to the supermarket with your family; If it's just a comparison, you can talk about what the child is worried about first, and what impact it will have on her if she doesn't have pocket money or not much money, and then think about the next steps according to her situation.
In fact, the child's heart is not like this, and she doesn't want to steal. Give some pocket money appropriately, or exchange work and grades. At the same time, determine the amount of pocket money according to the child's situation. These need to be discussed carefully with children. If you see a child make a mistake, you will hit him or punish him, then the situation of lying will become more and more serious.
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