When I was in junior high school, an old man often came to pick up garbage in our class, which is the waste paper we usually throw away.
He looks about seventy years old, especially thin and dressed in rags. Especially in winter, he wears very little and his shoes look like autumn shoes.
Besides, he rides a tricycle to pick up garbage. It's so cold in winter, but he doesn't even have the simplest gloves, which makes people feel sorry for him.
I remember that several of our classmates also organized the whole class to throw the discarded waste paper into a specific bag so that grandpa could take it away when he came to pick up the garbage.
Every time we see Grandpa picking up garbage alone, we will criticize his children for being unfilial (we didn't know if he had any children at that time, but we thought there should be, only to know later). When my father was old, he was called out to pick up garbage.
For a long time, people who know grandpa say that he got here by himself.
It turns out that this grandfather was a prodigal son when he was young.
When he was young, he ignored his parents and always wanted to be violent to his wife. He didn't care about his three daughters at all.
His parents, both his little sisters, have been taking care of them.
He never liked that his wife only gave him daughters, but could not give him sons. He is rude to his wife.
When he was young, he was lazy and greedy, and everyone else was trying to make money to support his family. He spent three days fishing and two days drying nets, and when he had money, he used it to drink. Others advised him to earn more money to support his family instead of eating and drinking by himself, but he said that only three goods lost money, and this family had nothing to support.
He ignored his three daughters because he always beat his mother. They were afraid of him and hated him. Now that they are married, my mother went back to buy some delicious food when she was alive. Now he is alone, and his three daughters seldom care about him.
Everyone will get old one day, and now the bitter fruit of unfilial children is not the career he planted when he was young.
Everything has its consequences, just like this situation, it can only be said that it is self-inflicted, and the bitter fruit that I planted is what I endured.
Anyway, this is what goes around comes around, and God is fair.
But I still hope you can help such an old man when you meet him. Great love is on earth! All virtues and filial piety come first!
There is a man in my hometown. Let's call him Zhang Bao. Zhang Bao is the youngest son of his parents. They love him like the apple of their eye.
When Zhang Bao was in his thirties, his mother was nearly seventy years old. But he is not filial to his mother at all, and he always adds his fists to his fists. Once, he picked up his mother and claimed to throw it under a cliff, scaring her into begging for mercy: Zhang Bao, my son spared his mother! Another time, when my mother came back from my sister's house and just got off the bus, Zhang Bao grabbed her mother and said, Who told you to come back? Stay at your aunt's house and don't come back! After flying, with the scream of "mother", the poor old man was kicked by Zhang Bao, and his calf bone was broken and he was disabled for life.
Because Zhang Bao often beats and scolds his mother, the whole village knows that he is an unfilial son. When educating children, Zhang Bao is famous for taking Zhang Bao as an example.
If the unfilial old man is famous, what Zhang Bao did later was even more gnashing his teeth and irritating.
When the little girl/kloc-was 0/4 years old, Zhang Bao replaced the little girl with the wife of her eldest son. Pity that little girl, she became someone else's daughter-in-law at an early age. Both Zhang Bao's sons are working outside the home. Without knowing her eldest son, Zhang Bao secretly married her eldest son 15-year-old girl with a bride price of 65,438+10,000 yuan. This caused the father and son to turn against each other and not communicate with each other.
Now, the young Zhang Bao is old. In his seventies, he and his wife were helpless, and the evening scene was very miserable. The eldest son died of an incurable disease, and the daughter-in-law married someone else with her youngest son. Zhang Bao's eldest grandson was arrested for drug trafficking and is still in prison. Zhang Bao's youngest son died in a car accident last year, leaving a young daughter-in-law and three young children. ...
Two sons have passed away, and Zhang Bao's white-haired man sent a black-haired man, which was extremely painful and completely lost his dependence. Nowadays, while suffering from the loss of children in old age, it also bears heavy pressure of life. People who don't know feel sorry for Zhang Bao, while those who know the details stay away from him. Many people say: deserved it. ...
A situation like this can only be said to be of its own making.
As a parent, you don't know how to honor your parents, you don't know how to quote Mr. and Mrs. Qi Mei, and you don't know how to take care of your children when the whole family needs you. You earn your own money outside, and you eat, drink, gamble and gamble alone outside, only caring about your own chic.
Never care about parents' health, wife's contribution to the family, and where you are when children need parents' care.
When you are old and miserable at night, you can't support yourself. You really want your children to repay you.
You were handsome when you were young. Are you afraid that no one will take care of you when you are old and your wife and children will take care of you when you are young?
If you don't want to be responsible for your wife and children, you don't want to harm others at all, but why do you want to get married and harm others and yourself?
We three sisters, my father took my grandfather's class and went to work in the railway bureau. At that time, railway workers could handle the "rural to non-agricultural", and he found various reasons not to handle it. For years, mother and daughter have had to live hard at home. After working for more than a year, I came back clamoring for a divorce. Every time I quarrel with my mother, I always say, "I don't want any of the three children." And threatened my mother "divorced, I can marry a girl of 18". I don't want to pay the living expenses. I have to go to court to give some. The three sisters give it to 20 yuan every month. My sister is ill, but she doesn't care. He is making money outside, gambling and whoring.
When I was a child, I lived in a village, and no one looked up to us. My mother, a rural woman, has a hard time supporting three children and is very tired when she is sick. Mom divorced him long ago, and she didn't even get married at the age of 8 1 after the divorce. He lives alone now, and it's really hard for me to go back and talk to him. His present state of life makes me feel neither happy nor pitiful, neither gloating nor angry. That's a mood that has nothing to do with me. Do not love or hate, such as passers-by, calm and plain, has nothing to do with me. In the future, when he is older, if he is born, ill and dead. I will also give him a hand, just like helping a passerby.
Perhaps I am the most qualified to answer this question. When my father was young, he did nothing serious. He gets drunk every day, beats me and scolds me, and dislikes me as a girl. In my childhood memory, I dragged him home from the wine table with a tricycle. Because of his weight, he often lifts me up like a seesaw and hangs me on the front of the car. Passers-by helped me lift him from the ground to the car. Because my mother gave birth to a younger brother, who is still very young. My mother had to stay at home and take care of him. I have to do such a thing. Dad doesn't earn a penny, and buying wine outside is on credit. If you have money, you also go whoring, and the police station has arrested them. When grandpa was alive, he would say a few fair words for my mother and me and occasionally make up for our stormy home. But after grandpa died, grandma and uncles and aunts cleaned the door by themselves, wishing to stay away from us. To put it bluntly, my mother is raising a son for my grandmother! I can confidently say that when I was 35 years old, I never spent a penny on my father. For 35 years, he never bought me a dress and paid the tuition once. Later, my mother's uncle passed away. On the night of the family sacrifice, my mother couldn't come back, leaving me and my father at home. He took one of his drinking buddies home, and his drinking buddy got him drunk and almost raped me. Fortunately, my neighbors heard my cry for help and saved me. I was 13 years old that year. The next day, my mother came back to know about it, decisively divorced her father and took me and my brother out of the house. When I left with my mother and my brother, I never took a needle or thread from home. For more than 20 years, no one knows how hard we live. Grandma's family never helped us, and my damn father beat us and scolded us when he was drunk. We live in panic all day, hiding from each other. Finally, my brother and I grew up, and my father had a nervous breakdown because of long-term drinking. At this time, grandma's family remembered that he had a pair of children and asked my brother and I to take care of him. Hehe ... Is it possible? I only hate him, and I can't wait for him to die. No matter how many people accuse me of being unfilial, whether he is alive or dead has nothing to do with me. I can never forgive him!
Everyone will get old one day, whether it is early or late, but they will get it.
This is an irresistible natural law.
There is such an old man near my home. He is always dressed in rags and his face is always dirty. She picks up garbage on the roadside from morning till night every day, or asks passers-by for some money.
She has three children, but all the children are looking at her mother, and no one wants to help her.
The street once called her three children together and asked them to take turns to take care of their mother, but the children sneered at the suggestion of taking care of their mother and ignored it.
People who don't know the truth are accusing their children of not raising their mothers and violating filial piety. But one day, one of her daughters finally couldn't bear it, crying and saying her mother's fault in front of everyone.
It turned out that the mother did something that made the children feel ashamed when she was young. Mother doesn't know who her father is. The child doesn't know. When children grow up, they often envy other children who have parents who love them, thinking, if only they had parents who love them!
However, this is just an extravagant hope for children.
They were brought up by their grandmother, and the children's lives were embarrassing because their grandmother's life was not very good. Sometimes you don't have enough to eat.
But my mother eats, drinks and plays every day, and she doesn't go home for ten and a half months to be with a man casually. Don't ask questions about children. Sometimes, the child is sick and needs the care of his mother, but this mother never takes this to heart. Either don't go home, or go home and beat and scold the children and leave home.
In the eyes of children, there is no mother! Even if there is, it's a bad mother!
That year, grandma, who lived alone with her children, told her children before she died that if your mother came to see you in the future, you should not recognize her. She doesn't deserve to be your mother.
And their mother didn't come back to mourn when grandma died. It was the neighbors in the village where they used to live who helped with grandma's funeral.
Children hate their mother from the moment they are careful.
When the children grow up and have jobs through their own efforts, the sisters will move their families to this small city together.
However, when their mother Hua Rong was getting old, she came to the city where the children lived and found her three children, hoping that the children could support themselves.
The children thought that after all, she gave birth, so they divided the money and rented a bungalow for their mother to live in this street.
But no one wants to raise her.
The children remember what their mother did when she was young and don't forgive her.
Filial piety aside, everything has a cause and effect.
A master of good deeds once said: The winner who is good at heart-to-heart will never abandon cause and effect. ...
The mother of the child has such a dilemma today, which is the result of her own planting when she was young.
In order to avoid this causal relationship, men and women as parents should pay attention to the following issues:
1, there is an ancient saying in China that parents must be role models for their children. The power of example is infinite.
2, let children know how to be a person from an early age, but also know that filial piety is the first. Let the children know that today is unfilial and tomorrow is unfilial.
3, to give children an inclusive attitude from an early age, as long as there is a performance of admitting mistakes, it is necessary to be tolerant and tolerant. Don't hate people who have done wrong all their lives.
In any case, people should know that filial piety comes first and everything is harmonious. I don't know how ridiculous what I did when I was young until I was old.
When I returned to my grandfather's house, I knew that an old man was seriously ill and paralyzed in bed. In the hottest summer, my son and daughter-in-law all blow air conditioners in the house, leaving the old man alone at the gate. Many people say it's so hot that they can't even drool. My son is still a doctor in the village, and he is unwilling to take medicine, so that his father can endure the pain. But no one blames his son, because the old man was also a village doctor when he was young, and he lived well in the village, but not well. When his parents were ill, he was reluctant to take medicine, leaving it to his younger brother to take care of. The other brothers had to pay for a pill for fear of losing money. This old man, the story repeats itself, he becomes a patient, and his son treats his father like a grandfather.
When I was young, I didn't honor my parents, regardless of my wife and children. This is normal. This is what goes around comes around. What kind of career you plant will bear what kind of fruit. Therefore, filial piety and kindness will be good for you in the future.
Hello, this is a bit like what we said before. One generation is unfilial and the other is unfilial. In fact, it also reveals a very simple phenomenon called "upward behavior, downward effect". From the perspective of family pedagogy, a person's behavior pattern often carries many family social values. And this kind of values is derived from parents' words and deeds.
When we were young, we were taught by our parents, whether it was good or bad, and we didn't have the ability to distinguish when we were young, so we had to accept them all. No pains, no gains. This kind of unfilial is like a seed sown in a child's heart. If you grow up in this unfilial atmosphere for a long time, this seed will grow up with him.
In fact, this way of doing things will also make others feel that this person is ruthless and doesn't even care about his family. It is difficult for others to cooperate with him with peace of mind, which will leave a stereotype on others. As the saying goes, those who are enlightened help those who have lost their way, and others are worried that their help will eventually raise a white-toothed wolf. At this time, you will find that society is a mirror, in which your own shadow is reflected. Conversely, how you treat people around you will be correct.
In fact, we can often see this situation, which is also very common. In fact, this is just a choice in their life, but they may not have considered so many consequences when making this choice. If they consider this relationship, they may make different choices, but the result of this interest-driven choice is likely to be embarrassing. Only when our hearts really contain care for others can we feel care from others.
We may use this case to educate our children, but I hope you need to pay attention to the fact that you don't need to be filial to your parents because you want to live a good life in your later years, but why you should be filial to your parents because we love them. When we need our parents, we are with them. It is because of this love that we instinctively want to help them when they need it.
It is immoral to disobey your parents first, and unfortunately you are in business when you are old.
But his children, such as those who don't obey their grandparents, ignore their father when they are old. Isn't that an unfilial son handed down from generation to generation? Everyone will be old, and the misery of old age can be imagined. Are you willing to go back and forth like this?
So I advise my children that they are your parents and you have an obligation to take care of them. No matter what unforgivable mistakes they made before. Children should not punish them. His mistake has attracted the attention of the whole world. It is your duty to honor your parents. Filial piety is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. I hope young people can take good care of themselves and carry forward the traditional culture of honoring the elderly!