China has implemented the family planning policy for more than 30 years, during which many one-child families have emerged. This policy has a great influence on the growth of the country and children. At present, the country has introduced the second child opening policy, which will bring about earth-shaking changes to the original family and society. Starting with the influence of the second child on the original only child, this paper analyzes the significance of the birth of the second child to the family and society, and finally puts forward several methods to guide children's education.
Keywords: second child; Only child; Influence; Meaning; Education;
On the premise of the quality of the national population and the needs of national development, the state has made a major decision to open the second child policy to the population of China. Because of this policy, the population structure of China will change, and the family and social environment of the original only child will change greatly. In the face of children spoiled by four old people, what kind of education can ensure their mental health, live in peace with the second child and love each other, which will be the focus of our discussion. The only child's personality is not born, but gradually developed in the process of growing up, so both family and society play an important role in the process of educating children. Communicate with children more, organize various parent-child activities, and take care of the original only child while taking care of the second child. These are all methods of education debugging. Correctly face the influence of the birth of the second child on the original only child, try not to deviate from the education method, cultivate the idea of mutual care and help between the two children, let the children adapt to the reality of their changing identity as soon as possible, and let the children develop better physically and mentally. How to treat the second child policy; What kind of influence will the second child bring to the original only child? How to solve the education problem of the original only child? The solution of these problems is an important link to improve the quality of China population and maintain the stable development of society.
The influence of the opening of the second child policy on the only child
Only China has implemented the basic national policy of family planning to reduce the population, resulting in a large number of only children, so few people in the world have studied the influence of the birth of a second child on the only child, and even fewer people know the psychology of the only child. Therefore, this effect is only for most people.
1. 1. Negative effects: After the second child is born, parents will spend a lot of time and money on the second child. China's parents often say that you should let him go and take good care of him. Such a simple sentence will hurt the original only child. They will think that the second child shared what originally belonged to him, and now they want him to make concessions. At present, there are often reports on the domestic internet that the only child threatens to stop the birth of a second child with death. In addition, some parents blindly want to have a second child without making a complete plan for their children's future, and some people still have the idea of son preference, which leads to a double blow to their children's material life and spiritual life, and the original material conditions have disappeared, and education has been affected to some extent; The spiritual construction has not been completed, and parents ignore their children's feelings and think it is normal to have a second child, but ignore the influence of the current social environment on the only child, which makes them take things too hard and go to extremes. Many families in our country didn't catch up with the second child policy until their first child was in his teens. Children in this period are still in an immature period of thought, but they already have their own ideas about some things. Therefore, they understand what a second child means to their original life. The correct guidance of parents will make them easy to accept, and the wrong guidance will lead them astray and lead to extreme thoughts. This is the negative impact of the second child.
1.2, positive influence: In fact, one more brother or sister will not affect the growth of children, and one more person will accompany and share in later life. In the process of growing up, after they have the experience of competing with their compatriots, they can reduce their overconfidence, lack of sympathy and inconsideration in social life. In the process of growing up with their younger brothers or sisters, they can feel the joy and warmth of sharing. One more member in the family will undoubtedly make family life more interesting. Looking at the growth process of the second child, the child will understand how much effort their parents have put into themselves, so they will be more grateful. Sometimes taking care of a younger brother or sister is the fastest way for children to grow up. They can get rid of the habit of reaching for food with their clothes stretched out, and can cultivate their independent behavior and thoughts in many cases. With the aging of society becoming more and more serious, a child will be very happy if he can help himself when he is faced with the problem of providing for the elderly. In terms of social development, in the face of short-term labor or war, more young people will bring hope to the development of the motherland. In the face of the arrival of the second child, the main problem lies in parents' adequate preparation. With the second child, we can't ignore the love for the first child. We should always accompany them, tell them about our younger brother or sister, and let them try to contact the second child and take care of them. Let children know that their parents' original love is still there, but their lives are more fulfilling. There is another person who likes himself in this world. He can play with himself, grow up together, share together, share together, and never be lonely again. Facing the second child, parents' different education methods can bring different influences to children, and children who grow up in a loving environment are more sunny. The arrival of the second child is beneficial to the original only child in many ways, and it can also cultivate the child's ability to adapt to society. As long as parents' education methods are proper and they don't take some detours in education, the second child will still have many positive effects on the growth and future life of the original only child.
The significance of the second child policy
2. 1. Why should China implement the second child policy?
After a period of normal family planning in China, it has brought a lot of influence to social development. First, the problem of population aging has intensified. Many years ago, the problem of aging began to be raised, but when it was not really faced, the seriousness of the problem was not found. Social security institutions are under great pressure. Children are on the verge of collapse when the elderly are ill or lose their ability to take care of themselves. Secondly, the problem of losing independence. This is a brand-new vocabulary in the era of only child. The only child had an accident and the old man had a nervous breakdown. The old man pinned his life's efforts and hopes on his children. If anything happens to this child, the old man's life will not last. Finally, the social labor force is decreasing. In the face of war or other external forces, there will be no one available for China's future development, and China's future will lose hope. Based on the above factors, China will formulate a second child policy to meet the needs of national development.
2.2. The significance of having a second child to the country and family.
After the birth of the second child, the family will have more hope and the chances of parents losing their independence will be reduced. On the issue of supporting the elderly, one more child will make them less hard, and at least one person can help themselves. This is a solution to the problem of population aging in China, which can adjust the population structure of China, increase more social labor force, contribute to the stability of social structure and better meet the needs of the country's future development. As far as children themselves are concerned, living with one more person can reduce their chances of suffering from princess disease or young master disease. In the competition of compatriots, they know how precious everything they have is and need to work harder to get it. There is too much pampering in the world of only children, and this generation of children has too many problems. Having a second child can help the only child grow up faster, and the competition and emotion between brothers and sisters can make our society enter a virtuous circle stage.
Education for the original only child after the birth of the second child.
Children's education is the key factor to give full play to the advantages of the second child policy and avoid the adverse impact of the second child on the original only child. In the process of education, parents should pay attention to their own ways and emotions. Children are naive and fragile, and it is easy to accept new things in their world, and it is also easy to misunderstand some problems. Therefore, the method of education is very important.
3. 1. Emotionally, we should keep the old habits, love the original only child, let him know that he is still the only one, and the status of the family will not change because of the appearance of the second child. Before the arrival of the second child, parents should communicate with their children more. After the arrival of a younger brother or sister, some changes may take place at home. Mom and dad may have to take care of one more child, but this child is your relative. In the absence of parents, he will accompany you to continue. When you were growing up. Mom and dad love you equally, and their love for you will not decrease. Don't worry, you are you, and no one can replace you.
3.2. In the process of pregnancy, parents can prepare things with their children, show them the clothes and supplies of the second child, and tell them that when you were not born, parents also prepared things for you in the same mood and looked forward to your arrival. In this process, children can feel their parents' love and hardship, and they can understand their parents' feelings and hardships better. After the second child is born, they can participate in nursing. In the process of taking care of your younger brother or sister, you can cultivate a sense of responsibility and feel the value and significance of your existence. I am very powerful and can effectively eliminate their worries and anxieties. In the process of taking care of them, the feelings of the two children have improved, and they really understand the meaning that blood is thicker than water.
3.3. Pay attention to the methods and language of education. In the process of educating children, we should establish a tall image of children and tell them, do you think that younger brothers and sisters are much younger than you? They need your help and guidance in many ways. You should be patient, just as mom and dad taught you. This process is better than directly saying that you are so big, and you should let the small ones go. This sentence will make children feel that they have been treated unfairly. In the long run, children not only don't understand why they should give up, but will hate the existence of a second child, and the educational effect will be counterproductive. Language is very skillful to use, and the same thing will get different results in different ways. Children are psychologically sensitive and fragile, and once they are hurt, it is difficult to make up for it. Therefore, parents should pay attention to their children's language training when choosing to have a second child.
3.4. Seek children's understanding when facing things, instead of blaming the boss blindly. Many times, parents will think that children are too young to communicate and respect. Actually, this is not right. They are sometimes wiser than we think. Therefore, when taking care of the second child, tell the boss that he is your relative and we are a family. Take more care of him not because we like him better, but because he is too young, not as powerful as you, and can take care of himself. This expression will make children understand the significance of parents taking care of the second child. Spend more time with my boss and let them know that love is still there. It's just that my parents are a little busy and need to take care of someone who needs care more than me. That person is my relative. When two children have conflicts because of something, parents can't just blame the boss. They need to find out the ins and outs of the matter and treat the two children fairly. Size is not the criterion for judging right or wrong, but fairness is the best way to solve problems. In fact, it is not difficult for the only child to eliminate misunderstandings and accept a second child. As long as parents are good at teaching, the arrival of the second child will add fun to the family and help the growth of the original only child.
Conclusion: As far as I am concerned, it is beneficial to have a second child if the family economy and raising conditions permit. The only child in our country enjoys the superior environment brought by this family when growing up. This environment is very conducive to the cultivation of their knowledge and ability, but it also affects their thinking. They don't know how to share and cooperate, how precious happiness is, and how people around them need the same care. In this way, the future of the country will be handed over to selfish, cold-blooded and high-energy people. This is not what we want. An extra brother or sister can give them more responsibility and care, support each other and make progress together on the road of future growth, and pass on China's spiritual civilization for thousands of years. In this process of identity transformation, we need the help of family and society, and the future development of China still depends on children.
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