There is a good saying: all roads lead to Rome, and some people were born in Rome. This sentence reflects the helplessness of real life. Rich second generation is everywhere, and it is difficult for people from ordinary backgrounds or even poor backgrounds to spend their whole lives trying to surpass them. Although he is the creator of wealth, he can't have all the wealth.
Throughout the ages, the rich and the poor are not static, but can be broken. The small number of people who can start from scratch and become rich from poor people not only have perseverance and courage, but also have a way of thinking that most poor people do not have.
This transcendence and breakthrough can not be separated from parents' educational methods. If the educational methods are used properly, children can avoid many detours. Many people say that the children of rich families are born with golden keys, which is unfair. However, is the difference between children educated by the poor and those educated by the rich only in money? The differences can be roughly divided into the following five points. Parents can learn from the thinking mode of the rich and help their children grow up.
How can we transcend the rich and the poor and create a world for our future? 1, learn to look at problems from a long-term perspective.
When looking for a job, children from poor families mostly consider salary rather than their own interests, because they urgently need money to support themselves and even their families.
When the children of the rich are looking for a job, most of them will follow their own hearts and reduce their wage demand. This allows them to learn to look at their immediate work from a long-term perspective: whether they are interested, whether they are developing, and whether they can accumulate experience and contacts.
Through continuous learning and promotion at work, you can start your own business by accumulating certain experience and contacts. There may be many problems in the process of starting a business, but it is this sharpening that slowly grinds them into the most dazzling diamonds.
Therefore, parents should cultivate their children from an early age, don't let them entangle their immediate interests, look at problems from a long-term perspective and develop good habits. Although the early stage may be hard, the harvested fruits are rich. Not satisfied with the immediate small interests, I lost the watermelon and picked up the sesame seeds.
2. Learn to take risks and pressures.
Children from poor families can't afford to lose, because they are forced by their livelihood every day and worry that their changes will bring disaster. Most parents of poor families have to rush to the workplace, work hard and earn more money. Therefore, they seldom take the time to get to know their children well and educate them, resulting in their children not receiving a good systematic education, which is irreversible.
They also have no resources to broaden the development path for their children. Even if children have the opportunity, it is difficult to have the courage to do great things, because they are afraid that once they fail, they will have nothing.
Children of rich families have received good education and training since childhood, and they dare to take risks when they meet opportunities, because they have the confidence and courage to know that even if they fail, their families have enough money to support them to continue their lives.
Therefore, parents should pay attention to educating their children and teach them how to invest in contacts and identify opportunities from an early age.
Educate children to save a sum of money at the beginning of work, as Liu Yuling, a famous woman in China, said: I learned one thing from my father that everything can be counted as business.
So I have been trying to save money after work. What's the name of this money? Fuck your money? . In this way, when your boss wants to fire you or ask you to do something you don't want to do, you can justly refuse. ?
The money doesn't need much, as long as it can support you through the difficulties.
Under the education of parents, children, whether rich or poor, will understand and leave a sum for themselves? Fuck your money? Makes your choice more valuable, doesn't it? Is it worth it? . In the face of risks and pressures, it is not enough to have strength, so we must prepare the economic foundation in advance.
3. Learn to cultivate broad horizons.
Children from poor families are unable to travel around the world and experience different lives. They are confined to their own small world, and even many people have never been abroad. Parents have a fixed monthly income, so we should find ways to keep their wages longer. Here? Save money? In the way of thinking, bind yourself to the established life.
Children of rich families have broadened their horizons since childhood. They can not only use money to see the outside world, but also increase their knowledge and learn skills that they can't learn at school through their parents' resources and contacts.
Their parents are creative and adventurous because they have been doing business all the year round. This spirit will subtly affect their children to some extent, thus making them love exploration and struggle.
Therefore, parents should learn to change from themselves. Can't they cultivate children with vision without money? Otherwise.
There must be a soul and a body on the road. If we don't have the time and money to go out and see the world, then we should learn to let our children form the good habit of reading from childhood and draw nutrition from books.
Parents should not give up on themselves, but should face life positively and optimistically, dare to change themselves for their children, follow the rules of inherent thinking, and strive for and create more opportunities and possibilities for their children.
4. Learn to face life with gratitude instead of complaining.
China once had a famous men's soccer coach, Milu. His motto in life was: Attitude is everything.
It is easy for the poor to complain about everything around them. Complain that you were not born in a rich family, complain that the unit leaders are targeting yourself, complain that good promotion opportunities are always denied to you, and complain that you have no connections. In their lives, it seems that failure is the fault of others, the fault of the environment and the fault of society, but it is not their own fault.
On the other hand, the thinking of the rich, with a grateful heart, appreciates the opportunities and challenges they get. Even if they fail, they can face and accept them calmly and quickly adjust their mentality to make a comeback.
They don't have the time and energy to complain. Only by silently searching for their own reasons and finding the crux of the problem can they win the next battle more surely.
So, parents should understand? Thought decides everything? .
We should cultivate children from an early age to face life with a positive and optimistic attitude, and spend time and energy on improving themselves and accumulating experience, instead of complaining about what has been lost and what does not exist. Let the children understand that it is meaningless to blame others. Only by finding your own problems can you win the next battle.
5. Learn to use companionship instead of preaching
Sometimes we have to face a realistic problem. The time spent with parents determines whether children can get better education and support.
Parents of poor families don't have much time to spend with their children, so most of the ways to educate their children are simple, direct and rude. Forced by life, they do not have enough patience to raise a child. I can only tell my children right and wrong hastily, that's all.
Wealthy families generally have the ability to let their mothers take care of their children full-time, which determines that children's education is comprehensive, colorful and devoted. This kind of education makes children feel caring from an early age and allows them to accept more hobbies.
Therefore, parents should make it clear that no matter how busy they are at work, they can't perfunctorily educate their children. Couples can discuss how to make full use of their time to educate and accompany their children instead of simply preaching. It takes a long time to train a child. Don't let the triviality of life kill the will to cultivate a child.
In fact, the poverty of life is not terrible. The terrible thing is that poverty makes people lose confidence in life and ossify themselves with poor thinking. As the saying goes, 30 years in the east and 30 years in the west, as long as we have a good attitude and educate our children with heart, I believe our future will be rich in spirit and wealth.