In order to make the newly married life happier, both parties should learn some basic sexual knowledge before marriage and understand the structure and physiological characteristics of male and female reproductive organs.

It would be more helpful if you could get the guidance of a doctor. Be sure to have a physical examination before marriage to understand the health status of both parties.

If one party is sick, especially infectious diseases (such as active tuberculosis and acute hepatitis) and acute inflammation of urinary tract (or reproductive organs), it should be cured before marriage. If you have heart and kidney diseases, you should ask a doctor to judge your heart and kidney functions so that you can take corresponding measures after marriage.

If there is phimosis, circumcision should be done before marriage. The man should estimate his sexual function according to whether he can get an erection.

If you have any questions, please consult a doctor to avoid embarrassment. The choice of wedding date should avoid the woman's menstrual period.

If it can't be avoided, ask the doctor to delay the menstrual period with drugs. The most commonly used medicine is the contraceptive pill. On the wedding night, both parties may feel shy, especially the woman. The man should be considerate and concerned about her, and the woman should actively cooperate.

For the first time, the first thing I encountered was hymen rupture. The size, shape and thickness of hymen vary from person to person, including ring, sieve and sickle.

Most of the hymen openings are very small, and generally only one fingertip can be accommodated. Therefore, the first time * * * often leads to hymen rupture, and may be accompanied by pain and a small amount of bleeding.

* * * before, the man should try to be gentle with the woman and provoke her desire to hand it over. * * *, the man should control his impulse, move slowly and be considerate of the woman everywhere. If he fails once, he can try several times.

The woman should overcome her nervousness and fear and give it to the man happily. The calmer and more relaxed you are, the better.

When the membrane is broken, the woman's legs are bent upward and separated, held by her hands, and at the same time forced to hold her breath downward, which can relieve the pain. The sensitivity to the pain of hymen rupture varies from person to person.

Some people are very sensitive, while others are not. If the pain is severe, it is best to stop for a few days to let the wound heal.

Hymen rupture will cause a small amount of bleeding, which will stop on its own. Never mind. If there is a lot of bleeding, seek medical attention in time to avoid accidents, and don't delay treatment for fear of being laughed at.

There are a few women, the hymen is very tough and firm, and it does not break after * * * *, even after childbirth. Some hymen openings are already very wide, and it is not difficult for the first time. Some hymen vessels are relatively few, especially when the opening is large, it may not bleed for the first time.

Some hymens are inherently fragile, and violent exercise such as playing ball, running, jumping and riding before marriage may break them. Therefore, it is unscientific to distinguish between girls who are not born by bleeding or pain after * * * *; You can't judge a virgin just by whether the hymen is broken or not.

If the woman doesn't bleed when she gets married, or finds that her hymen has been broken, the man shouldn't dream, which will make her feel wronged and affect her feelings. In the wedding, the recklessness and rudeness of the man will not only cause physical pain to the woman, but also bring mental trauma.

Physical trauma is easier to heal and recover quickly, while mental trauma is more difficult to handle, which will seriously affect the feelings of both sides. Some women suffer from apathy, pain or illness, which is often caused by the rudeness of the man when he is newly married.

Therefore, the man should pay special attention to this aspect. If you fail repeatedly, consult a doctor, find out the reason and deal with it.

In fact, some of them are purely psychological. This phenomenon will disappear as long as the tension is eliminated. After the newlyweds have sex, the genitals of men and women have close contact and frequent friction, which can damage the mucosa of urethral orifice and open the door for the invasion of bacteria. Men can also bring bacteria into female urethral orifice, thus causing acute urethritis.

The female urethra is very short, and bacteria can easily invade the bladder, leading to honeymoon cystitis. If they enter the ureter again, it will lead to nephrotic nephritis. When the urinary tract is inflamed, symptoms such as aversion to cold, fever, low back pain, urgency of urination, frequent urination and dysuria may occur.

At this time, please consult a doctor immediately. * * * Should be avoided before recovery.

In order to prevent the occurrence of such diseases, both men and women should take a bath frequently and wash their external genitals every day (the woman should gargle at the same time). * * *, the woman has to pee once to flush out the bacteria in the urethra.

Drinking more boiled water and urinating more are also good for the prevention and treatment of cystitis. Taking some baking soda will make urine alkaline, which is not conducive to bacterial reproduction.

If it coincides with menstrual cramps during the wedding period, it is advisable to wait until after the menstrual period, otherwise the possibility of urinary tract infection is greater.

If you have sex during menstruation, or if you have the possibility of infection due to hymen rupture, you should take nitrofurazone and other antibacterial drugs orally to prevent it. Besides, don't drink too much wine during the wedding.

Smoking will also affect the health of the next generation. Try to quit smoking and drinking before marriage.

2. How can the first time be less painful?

Generally speaking, when a woman ruptures her hymen for the first time, she will have slight pain and a little bleeding.

But in real life, about one-third of people will have early hymen rupture due to various reasons (such as strenuous exercise, trauma and * * *). ), but it's not the first time they've seen red. On the other hand, women's first pain mostly comes from nervousness rather than hymen rupture.

Physiologically speaking, when the woman's nervousness is not eliminated and her sexual excitement is not aroused, her mouth is closed and dry due to insufficient secretion. If forcibly inserted at this time, it will only cause the woman's pain and even * * * can't proceed. Only when the tension is eliminated and sexual excitement is fully aroused, women will be congested by large and small * * * *, the mouth of * * will be exposed, and the lubricating fluid secreted by * * and vestibular gland (also called * * *) will lubricate * *, so that * * * can "slide in" smoothly.

If you can relax, work closely with him and let yourself fully enter the role, then the slight pain of hymen rupture may be completely submerged and covered up by high sexual excitement and pleasure. It won't hurt at all.

Specifically, the two sides started with a kiss and gentle caress. You not only accept his gentle caress, but also need to take the initiative to caress his body and his little brother to relax your mood, eliminate tension and fear (fear of pain), and make yourself as excited as possible to achieve the above-mentioned state of full sexual excitement; You can also guide it to the mouth of * * * with his little brother in hand, aim at your * * *, and he just needs to slide into * * * with a slight bump. The shorter the process, the less pain, just like a nurse giving an injection. When the fire comes, men should be firm and decisive when they enter the market. It is better to have a long pain than a short one.

Secondly, after inserting it into the bottom, hold it tight for a while. First, it can realize compression and hemostasis; Second, it can make * * * slightly adapt to * * * to enrich the feeling of * * *, further alleviate the tension of * * *, thus reducing the feeling of pain.

You can also use a body lubricant (available in adult products stores) and apply it to the woman's mouth and the man's mouth before * * * to replace normal physiological secretions and avoid friction and pain caused by * * *. If the woman is in pain, don't continue to fight, end the fight as soon as possible, and let you have enough sex once after the pain is eliminated.

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