Psychologists believe that when educating children, "tolerance" cannot be irrational and unlimited. For example, if a child makes a mistake, parents always take an inclusive attitude. Over time, children will not realize that their actions are wrong. In this way, parents will lose their lasting prestige in front of their children, and children will gradually become willful, selfish and even confused. Therefore, when parents adopt a tolerant education method for their children, they must grasp a degree.
Another kind of parents who are the opposite of tolerance are too strict. Such parents always like to draw many rules and regulations for their children in the process of educating them. This one won't work, and neither will that one. It is necessary for parents to take care of their children out of love for them, whether they are dereliction of duty or not. However, some parents take care of their children too much and mismanage them, which will be counterproductive. Too much parental discipline will stifle the child's nature, suffocate the child and even have serious consequences.
Needless to say, some parents really don't have a good sense of tempering justice with mercy in educating their children. There is a couple who always think that "strict father is a dutiful son" and "Yan Shi is a noble disciple". They are very strict with their children and obey their parents in everything. If children don't listen to their parents' teaching, they will always show their parents' majesty, either scolding, criticizing or beating them with sticks, which will make them worry all day, feel the joy of childhood, and seriously distort their young minds, not only studying. It is also difficult to achieve the goal of educating children if they are too strict.
Children are the future of the motherland. If we want to cultivate them into useful people, we must use scientific educational methods to educate children with leniency and severity. Because children don't know what is right and wrong, only under the guidance of teachers and parents can they distinguish right from wrong, distinguish good from bad, and learn knowledge and the truth of being a man. Therefore, it is necessary to educate and train children with scientific education methods that are emotional and rational, to prevent children from being too strict with simple and rude education methods, to restrain their talents and personality, to correct their shortcomings in time with reasonable methods, to fulfill their duties of educating children, and not to tolerate them. Only in this way can we educate our children and let them thrive.
Parents are too strict with their children, which may force them to form good habits, but it will also make them feel uneasy, dependent and timid, afraid to speak out, unwilling to work hard and unwilling to participate in creative activities. Compared with the beginning, this kind of education is not worth the loss. In the process of family education, parents do not need to deliberately restrain their children. The tighter they control their children, the greater the pressure on them. Educate children to combine leniency with severity. Only in this way can parents perform well in educating their children and achieve good educational results.