1. What is family education for children? Children are the basic stage and the fastest developing period of life intelligence. Proper and correct preschool education plays a great role in children's intelligence and future development. The formation and development of supernormal children are related to proper and correct preschool education, especially preschool education in intelligence. This involves the division of people's age stages and the division of educational objects. Life can be divided into several stages according to age, such as infancy (0 ~ 3 years old), infancy (3 ~ 6 years old), childhood (6 ~ 1 1, 12 years old) and adolescence (1 1,/kloc). Therefore, to suit people of different ages, education must be carried out in stages. Children's family education mainly refers to the education of children aged 0 ~ 6, which is an important and special stage of personal education and development. "Importance" means that it is the foundation period of a person's development, and many important abilities and personality qualities form basic characteristics during this period; "Special" means that this stage is the transition period of children's physical and mental development from the initial amorphous to the basic stereotypes, and then they can start learning and developing according to social needs. Family education for preschool children is an education in which parents and kindergarten teachers use various methods and objects to develop preschool children's intelligence, make them smarter, stimulate their brains systematically, systematically and scientifically, and gradually improve the functions of all parts of their brains. Broadly speaking, all purposeful activities that can affect children's physical growth and cognitive, emotional and personality development, such as watching TV, doing housework and participating in social activities under the guidance of parents, can be said to be early family education for children. 2. The main content of children's family education When it comes to education, people will naturally think of cultivating children's good habits of enjoying life, cultivating children's sound personality, letting children learn to love and be grateful, cultivating children's conduct, and giving children the key to doing things independently. Actually, it's not. This is a misunderstanding of people's ideas. In fact, family education for young children is to let parents master parenting methods, improve their cultural level and literacy, and become experts in this field. Parents should first have the qualities that children should have. If you don't have this quality and accomplishment yourself, how can you teach your children? This is the so-called giving others a glass of water and having a bucket of water yourself. One more thing, what children need to learn is not exactly the same as what parents need to learn. Parents have much more things than children, including a very wide range. For example, parents should have good ideological quality, scientific and cultural knowledge, study hard to master some knowledge of literature, history, language education, health and nutrition, and strengthen their own words and deeds. A child is a blank sheet of paper, a container, waiting for his parents to edify him and the outside world to fill him. They need their parents to water the seeds of various abilities buried in their bodies in the right way, so that such abilities can take root and grow sturdily. For example, the baby's language sensitivity period is 0-8 years old, so parents need to use some correct methods to give them full play in this respect. In addition, 3-5 years old is a sensitive period for children to write, so parents need to develop children's skills of controlling limbs through paper-cutting, painting, mud squeezing and other training, so that children can acquire the ability to write. Children have different sensitive periods at different ages, and different children have different sensitive periods, which requires parents to know what methods to use to explore their potential according to different children at different ages. This can't be done well without a certain level. Family education for young children contains very comprehensive, systematic and meticulous contents, and it is a science with the same status as mathematics, English and other disciplines. For those who master the knowledge of this subject, teachers who teach mathematics and English can "specialize in their skills", while early childhood education requires parents to become parenting experts; From the aspect of cultivating children's ability, teachers mainly teach children professional knowledge, and parents educate their children's character; The status matches that of doctors, who heal people's bodies, while family education for children allows parents to heal their children's hearts. High-rise buildings have sprung up, and any subject is based on basic knowledge. Without basic knowledge, learning professional knowledge is simply nonsense. The textbooks of primary and secondary schools condense the basic human experience, which is the most basic and core content and the most important element in building our spiritual building. Reading textbooks for primary and secondary schools will help us to consolidate our knowledge base and enrich our cultural heritage. It will also help us to better understand our children's existing knowledge base and the content of follow-up study, and help our parents stand on the same starting line with them and compete with Qi Fei. The knowledge of children's family education, like doctors and teachers, also needs strong basic knowledge as the foundation, and this knowledge is not the professional content mastered by doctors and teachers, but the professional knowledge of parenting, which is not directly related to the degree of diploma in society. If you know how to raise children without a high diploma, you can educate excellent children, just as a doctor of medicine doesn't know what astronomers know. For example, some people study the profession of doctors, while others study the profession of teachers. Although they all study, their majors are different. Professions such as doctors and teachers do not start to be specialized as soon as they enter primary school. They all accepted the basic education course of 12 years, and only after taking the college entrance examination did they study their own majors. They must have a foundation of 12 years, and only those with good grades are eligible to study. I don't agree with some people. It doesn't matter that many parents are too busy at work or for other reasons, but at least they should not be negative teaching materials and set a benchmark for their children with bad hobbies. If parents don't study, they won't know what negative teaching materials are, what methods are good for children's physical and mental health, what methods hinder their intellectual development, and they won't understand the theoretical concepts in parenting methods. For example, "limiting children's consciousness" is just dogmatic copying. Although there are many books on early childhood education, such as Parents are Children's Best Teachers edited by Yin Chenxi and Zhu Ping, which is the most classic nine-teacher teaching method in the world, there must be a process of learning and absorption in order to transform the contents into their own knowledge and use it flexibly, which requires parents to make painstaking efforts and make great efforts to study, because educational pursuit and educational wisdom cannot be instilled from the outside, and there is no course. 3. Early family education and people's life did not provide necessary training for parenting. As long as they reach marriageable age, a man and a woman can get married after mutual recognition, and then naturally have children as parents. Legally, they are legal parents; But in terms of quality, they are often not necessarily qualified parents. As we all know, crops need to lay a solid foundation to harvest, tall buildings need to lay a solid foundation to be durable, singers need to practice singing to be beautiful, dancers need to have basic skills to dance to be beautiful, and so on. In other words, we all know that whether we want to achieve something, laying a good foundation is the most important thing. However, it is a pity that to be a successful person, people should have a good early education, which is what people should know most, but many parents don't know much about it. In most cases, parents don't really understand the importance of children's early education to their children's life, or don't understand how to do a good job in their early education. The objective reason for this situation is that the research and popularization of early childhood education are not done enough, which leads to the lack of due understanding of the process of human physiological growth and change, the basic scientific knowledge of children's brain development in stages, and the importance and methods of family education in early childhood. No matter what job you do, you need pre-job training. The most important thing is to be a parent without necessary training. As long as they reach marriageable age, a man and a woman can get married after mutual recognition, and then naturally have children as parents. Legally, they are legal parents; But in terms of quality, they are often not necessarily qualified parents. General parents have several misunderstandings about their children in infancy: first, they think their babies are cute, treat them as toys, only care about feeding them well and dressing up beautifully, and then hold them everywhere with satisfaction; Second, I think children are so young that they don't know anything. Just raise him well and educate him when he grows up. Third, I mistakenly think that the responsibility of parents is to raise their children well, and teachers should teach them well in the future; Other parents really want to educate their children well from an early age, but they use the wrong method of family exam-oriented education. From an early age, they forced their children to learn by rote, trained excellent students everywhere, and even reprimanded and stuck together, making them miserable and gradually tired of learning, and then did the opposite. The ancients said, "If the son doesn't teach, the father has made a mistake." Everyone is familiar with this sentence, but what is this "country"? What's wrong with parents? How to change this "Guo"? However, it is a headache for many parents. Especially now, families with many children are not allowed in China. Facing the only child, parents care, love and expect everything. But the result is often contrary to the subjective desire, as if the more you pay, the less you get in return. Children love to death when they are young, and hate to death when they grow up. Parents have lamented that they "bought the wrong money". So far, they don't know why this happened, and they don't know how to solve this problem that they want to solve most. Therefore, it has become an urgent task for society to popularize scientific early childhood education law and how to do a good job in parents' family education. To do this well, we must first master the growth law of children and understand the scientific knowledge of infant brain development, so as to guide children to grow up healthily. With the help of modern high-tech means, scientists have made many new achievements in infant brain research through years of observation, perspective and practical analysis, breaking the old stereotypes in the past and uncovering little-known human physiological secrets. They found that after the long-term survival of the fittest in nature, human beings have the characteristics of adapting to the external environment and learning from the environment, including most brain cells. However, during the growth of the baby after birth, these brain cells must be gradually connected to communicate with each other. Then, the children's living environment and family guidance play a decisive role. Studies have long proved that the hippocampus in the brain is responsible for people's memory function. Although the "hippocampus" in the brain was not perfect before the child was five or six years old, in fact, the "hippocampus" began to play a certain role shortly after the child was born. This is why children can't talk, but they can remember their parents' voices and smiles and "know" life. Because the cortex responsible for vision and hearing in the cerebellum is also one of the earliest developing areas, it can reach the highest level when the baby is three months old. Within six to eight months after birth, the number of "synapses" in the brain responsible for language areas can gradually reach a peak, and basic sounds can be detected from multiple languages. During this period, if children grow up in a single environment, they may lose this skill at about one year old. Through EEG scanning, it is found that the temperament difference of infants has been shown in brain activities since the ninth month. Whether the child is cheerful or shy in the future can be judged at this time. Although the cortical part involved in emotional control and advanced reasoning is still developing before the child 15 years old. However, when the child is one year old, the development of this part of the cortex has reached its peak. When a child is one and a half years old, he no longer just uses expressions to express emotions, but begins to express emotions with actions. However, many parents who are new parents not only don't understand, but also think that the baby is naive and ridiculous, failing to give timely and correct guidance, and often miss the opportunity of early emotional education at this stage, so that problems emerge one after another. As the saying goes, a good beginning is half the battle. We should also be vigilant to realize that a bad beginning is half the battle. If you don't understand the importance of children's early quality education or master the scientific methods of children's early family education, it will be difficult for parents, as the most important position of mankind, to give their children a good start and delay their life's happiness. This is: "the son does not teach, the father is guilty." In view of this, today's society should carry out extensive parenting education in time to help young couples who are about to become parents learn how to be qualified parents. Parents who are already parents also need to strengthen their studies in time and improve the current family education methods. This so-called "it's not too late to mend." Only by improving their own quality can parents educate their children by example, mainly by guiding them to learn to lead by example. Parents understand the scientific truth of the whole growth process from infants and children to teenagers and adults, and learn the corresponding educational methods, so they can consciously guide their children to grow up healthily step by step. By then, parents in China will no longer just "hope their children will succeed" and "hope their daughters will succeed", but will be able to "teach their children to become talents" and "teach their daughters to become talents" scientifically. The land of China will be "auspicious" and will be a beautiful scenery. 4. Family education has a great responsibility (1), and parents should make "sacrifices" to train their children. Look at many parents who pay attention to their children's education today. In order to let children enter "first-class" universities, they have to enter first-class high schools, junior high schools, primary schools and even kindergartens. However, what they don't notice is that educating children in a "first-class" family is more important than getting them into a first-class school. Masaru Ibuka believes that the key to model education is in the hands of parents. The age of zero is an important period for making people, and there is no greater job in the world than making people. He appealed loudly: "Parents in the world, I hope you are full of pride in raising children, and I hope you can warm your swaddling clothes with love. Many parents have done this kind of thing, and I don't need to say it at all. "Parents' deep love and devoted education can give your baby unlimited development possibilities. Ibuka emphasized the importance of parents in child care. Parents play a very important role in shaping children's character and behavior. Masaru Ibuka put forward many successful cases about parents educating their daughters. Through his own observation and research, he pointed out and emphasized the important role of parents. If a child's tutor starts at the age of zero, he can master it well even if his parents don't punish him. However, instead of starting at the age of zero, it is better to start before the child is born. Parents should set an example and demonstrate good behavior patterns to their children again and again. When a child can imitate, parents should praise him sincerely until he can really master it. Masaru Ibuka believes that when parents preach face to face with their children, the posture they pose is simply the posture of "educator", "authority" or "conductor" with strong educational consciousness, rather than the posture of "person". On the contrary, "back" represents the image of nature and has no educational color. It is neither a power nor a command, but an image of a person, a "real person" who is familiar with the joys and sorrows of life. In other words, the so-called "parents' shadow" reflects all parents' attitudes towards life. Simply put, by watching the "shadow" of parents, children can avoid their parents' direct eyes and observe freely with their own eyes. Therefore, they can grow up with discerning eyes and watch their parents grow up with a true image that is not deliberately whitewashed and domineering. In other words, unconsciously, children are always observing their parents' attitudes towards life. Therefore, even face to face, no matter how well parents disguise themselves, children will not really respect their parents if they show an ugly image without deliberate disguise. Parents who misbehave but require their children to be honest can only be "seeking fish from the edge of the wood." "So, as parents, we should be strict with ourselves on weekdays and let our children see the' back' whenever and wherever. It can be seen that parents, as role models for their children's life, have unlimited influence. Therefore, every parent should reflect on himself before educating his children. Therefore, only when parents give their children a positive influence can they grow up healthily. (2) Being a caring and responsible mother, the hand that pushes the world forward is actually the cradle hand. The quality of a mother determines the quality of a country and a nation. " Mrs Steiner believes that a caring and responsible mother is an ideal mother and necessary for education. Because responsible mothers will care about their children's growth, constantly explore the experience of cultivating their children, learn and educate their children, pay attention to the improvement of their own quality while cultivating their children, and influence their children with their positive attitude. In Mrs Steiner's mind, the ideal mother should always be calm, always be kind to her children, always know how to discipline her children in the best way, always be willing to spend enough time with her children, always be optimistic about her children and always know how to answer their questions. But in fact, when Mrs Steiner became a mother, she deeply realized that it was too difficult to be an ideal mother. No mother can always be as perfect as her ideal. Because even if you are a mother, you still have to grow up in life, face all kinds of tests of life, and still have your own shortcomings, but you should try to do better and get close to a perfect mother. To be a good mother, we must understand that there is never enough time to educate children's knowledge and skills, because new problems are always emerging and new solutions are needed. A good mother should improve her education methods through constant exploration and self-improvement, which will last until her children grow up and leave home. Therefore, it is a blessing for children to have a caring and responsible mother. Only such a mother can play a positive role in the growth of children.