Nowadays, people in the whole society, regardless of sex, age and age, are addicted to mahjong and playing cards, and it is difficult to get ahead. Besides, it is understandable to play with these things after work, relax the tense nerves and comfort the tired body and mind. It can also enhance the communication and close contact between relatives and friends. Just because you are a mother, you have double responsibilities. We should not only work hard to feed our children in Lazar, but also shoulder the responsibility of education. You won't forget the sentence that parents are children's first teachers, will you? Children grew up watching the design of mahjong tiles and listening to the sound of mahjong' flowers'. Strangely, children raised in such an environment are not obsessed with mahjong. Children's childhood needs are many, and no one will ignore the material aspects and be willing to invest in the spirit. I heard that you also bought a lot of books for your daughter, but when you got home, you just rummaged through them and left them in the dust. Your early education is just a waste, a decoration. You should teach your daughter to watch it, watch it with her, be moved by the emotions in the book together, and get spiritual pleasure; Develop intelligence, broaden horizons and cultivate reading habits in the process of repeated reading. What children need most are nursery rhymes and fairy tales, which are not only conducive to the development of language and intelligence, but also to the formation of good behavior habits and ideological and moral qualities, and will also affect children's life. You can write some fairy tales for your daughter's performance, and she will understand what to do and what not to do from the stories, which is much more effective than stipulating a series of' no's'. Although it is an era of equality between men and women, the responsibility of educating children is mostly borne by mothers. Parents' meeting, from primary school to high school, most of the people sitting in the classroom are women. It is also the mother's business to check the homework for the children. Don't share the responsibility with the father. When you play with your daughter, you will experience the infinite fun of childlike innocence, and you will truly feel that children are not a drag on their parents, but a source of happiness. A lively and lovely daughter is more attractive than lifeless mahjong and playing cards. Children's sweet laughter, naive words and clumsy movements can also eliminate fatigue and relieve boredom.
According to my observation, your IQ is quite good. It is very difficult to cultivate such children, because smart children tend to go to two extremes. Generally speaking, children's character and temper have been developed before entering school. Children look similar to their parents, which is genetic. Similar personality and temper are more the role of role models and more the mother's factors. What kind of morality and habits parents want their children to have, what kind of emotional quality and personality characteristics they want, they must have corresponding cultivation and behavior. Don't think that this kind of education is what daughters need to pay attention to when they grow up. Its early influence runs through the whole process of children's development. Therefore, it is often said that children should observe and analyze their mother's personality and understand her behavior. A mother is a mirror of a child. It's true. You must have heard the saying that character determines fate, right? Especially for little girls, being gentle and honest is conducive to making friends, finding a job, getting married and starting a family in the future. Caring children will leave a warm and generous feeling, and will exude affinity from expressions and eyes.
Children are usually relaxed and happy before they go to primary school. I think there are too many restrictions on your children: no cookies; No drinks; Don't drink cold water; Don't take such things; Don't catch things like that; Don't climb high; Don't get your hands dirty ... these countless' no's make the child's mind lose its freedom. To meet these requirements, only lying in bed to sleep. Active is a child's nature, and no one can change it. This one is also afraid of bacteria, and that one is also afraid of viruses, so we have to send the child into a vacuum. People come from nature, so they should be close to nature. The dolls in Miao village run all over the ground, and they are vegetarian and seldom get sick. Even if you get sick occasionally, you can just take some medicine. The dolls in the city are fed scientifically, drinking milk and oral liquid, supplementing iron, calcium and zinc, golden partners, golden egg rolls, chubby dolls are also anaemic and malnourished, and they have to be given intravenous drip day and night when they are sick. How to explain these phenomena?
Your ban on children only takes effect when you are free. The child had a good time. You think it is dangerous for her to hold a stick. If you pull it over, it's a beating. The child doesn't even know why he was beaten. Once, I told her a story and stood up to get something. She cocked her head in fear and said, "I thought you were going to hit me." I felt very strange at that time: "How can I hit you if you don't make mistakes?" When you play cards, children will not foul whatever they do, even if they kick your legs, they will not be scolded. In fact, I have long noticed that your attitude towards your daughter is capricious. When you are happy, you will take care of it in every way. When you are angry, if you can't see lightning, you will thunder. Children are not parents' punching bags or pets. No matter how small, you will have your own emotions and thoughts. When educating children, we must be reasonable and let her know that those practices are right and those practices are wrong. If a child is beaten or scolded, she must know the reason, so as to avoid committing it again and achieve the purpose of education. Educate children to be conscientious people, pay attention to learning from others, and constantly reflect on their own educational methods. Family education should also have a specific goal, which should be implemented in daily life, communicate with elders, and reach a consensus among the whole family so that children can't find loopholes when they make mistakes. A little boy came home from kindergarten, took out 1 cent from his pocket and told his mother that he had found it. His mother told him not to take other people's things, but to give them to the teacher. The child said, "The teacher doesn't know." After asking several times, it was obvious that he took it from the table. The mother beat the child angrily, and the father told his son that it was a bad boy to take other people's things. At that time, he admitted his mistake, and his grandparents went home at night to "seek justice" and cried for a long time. Grandparents also said that children with backbone should fight if they don't want other people's things. As soon as I heard the tone of the whole family was the same, I stopped crying and promised to give it to the teacher the next day.
The education of preschool children is mainly to develop intelligence and cultivate morality. To develop intelligence, it is necessary to adopt an educational method that is entertaining and suitable for children's age characteristics, so that children will not feel that learning is a painful and boring process, will be interested in learning, and will develop happily and lively. Moral cultivation includes legal education, social morality education and good living habits. Your way of educating children as pets deprives them of the opportunity to exercise themselves in a wide range of life. Children lack the ability to act, think independently and judge. Not only do they have no opinions, but they are also at a loss and depressed in the new environment.