? What if the child is disobedient? ? 1. Learn to let go
Many parents don't notice that their children have grown up, not only physically, ideologically and self-consciously. Therefore, parents should learn to let go correctly and encourage their children to continue to explore within a safe range. Keep learning new skills and let children experience this feeling of self-control.
? 2. Respect children's feelings and needs
When children encounter problems and need help, it is best to ask their opinions first. Children will have their own judgments. Only with the consent of the child can it be called help. Therefore, parents should not do anything for their children, but should respect and understand them.
? Children's privacy should not be touched.
Children's privacy is a red line that no one can touch, including parents and family. One of the manifestations of respect is respect for privacy. Everyone has their own little secrets, especially children. If parents want to understand their children, they must first learn to respect them. Don't ask sharp questions that children don't want to say. Only after respect can children open their hearts to their parents.
? 4. Don't be direct, learn to guide.
When children make mistakes, parents' excessive accusations and criticisms will not only make children understand why they are wrong, but will lead to their rebellious psychology. But if parents can inspire their children with questions and metaphors, the results will be more obvious. So direct is not necessarily effective, not necessarily appropriate. Correct guidance can give children the greatest inspiration.
? Don't judge easily, but listen more.
Sometimes children don't listen because they think their parents don't understand them. Why don't you understand? Because parents don't listen to their children carefully, and then draw conclusions based on subjective judgment. Of course, such a conclusion is not in line with the wishes of children.
In family education, special emphasis is placed on listening, asking and listening to what children say. If you don't listen, you can't understand, and you can't correctly enforce discipline.
? 6. Establish a cooperation model with children
The best way is to establish a cooperation model with children. Why do parents want their children to obey? Because parents are worried that their children will be hurt, but their children have made mistakes, what parents need to do is not to make their children obey, but to tell their children what they think and let them understand that they will naturally accept it.