Abstract: Children's comparison psychology is a common unhealthy psychology in children's growth stage. It is mainly caused by the influence of social environment, parents' overindulgence, comparison between parents and teachers' unfair attitude towards children. The performance of children's comparison psychology includes improper pursuit of toys, clothes and other substances and following the trend. Guide parents to love and spoil their children. ...
Abstract: Children's comparison psychology is a common unhealthy psychology in children's growth stage. It is mainly caused by the influence of social environment, parents' overindulgence, comparison between parents and teachers' unfair attitude towards children. The performance of children's comparison psychology includes improper pursuit of toys, clothes and other substances and following the trend. Guiding parents to grasp the degree of love and doting on their children, parents' own good behavior habits, teachers' equal care for each child, and appropriate guidance and education for children are the main methods to eliminate children's comparison psychology. At the same time, a correct view of the difference between competitive consciousness and unhealthy comparison psychology accompanied by children's awakening of independent consciousness, and reasonable guidance of children's competitive consciousness can promote children to develop good living and learning habits.
Second, Keywords: children's psychological behavior to eliminate the countermeasures of comparison
In recent years, with the development of China's economy, while people's material living standards are constantly improving, the gap between the rich and the poor in China is also increasingly wide. Some people begin to show off and compare with others, and gain superiority and self-satisfaction from this comparison. And these comparisons have a subtle influence on children in daily life, so that they gradually develop the psychology of comparison. Children's comparison psychology refers to a kind of psychology that children and young children compare their own things (clothing, food, shelter, toys, family background, etc.). ) and get self-satisfaction from comparison. It is mainly manifested in four aspects: material living standards, family conditions, looks and children's status in the eyes of peer teachers. The existence of this kind of psychology has brought great negative effects to children and families. This paper discusses the causes, manifestations, negative effects and countermeasures of children's comparison psychology.
First, the causes of children's psychological comparison
social environment
Nowadays, it is a society where the atmosphere of comparison prevails, and this environment provides fertile soil for the formation of children's comparison psychology. "Man struggles upwards, water flows downwards" and "Seeing Si Qi" are a social trend of thought, and there is nothing ugly in themselves to blame. However, with the continuous development of economy, this social trend of thought began to change, becoming a kind of comparison, an act of expressing superiority and self-satisfaction.
(A) family economic level
The family economic level is the prerequisite for children to keep up with their peers. A good family economic level is the economic basis for children to participate in comparison. With the development of social economy, people's economic level and consumption level have also improved. Parents no longer need to consider solving the problem of food and clothing. Under this premise, higher material satisfaction and spiritual satisfaction have emerged. Under the premise of economic conditions, which parent will not love their children and don't want their children to be more beautiful and fashionable than others? Some parents themselves don't want to fall behind others. Children are satisfied with what they want as much as possible, which will naturally provide a good foundation for their comparison psychology.
(2) Parents' doting
Parents mistake spoiling their children for love. Parents' doting on their children is an important condition for children to keep up with the joneses. Some parents can't correctly distinguish between love and doting, thinking that what children want to pay is love. Today's families are mostly only children, and children have become "little emperors" in the family. Parents spoil their children too much, especially the only child, don't let them take part in labor, don't create conditions for their children to take part in beneficial activities, and don't take heavy medicine for their children's wrong behavior, thus forming the bad habits of children's idleness, arrogance, reaching for clothes, gluttony and fun, and trying to have fun, because they don't think that "a cup of tea and a meal are hard to come by" and don't cherish the fruits of their parents' labor.
(3) Unreasonable reward behavior
Reward is a kind of psychological and material satisfaction for children. Reward refers to an educational way to influence children's behavior in a positive and intensive way, which means affirmation or high evaluation of children's correct understanding and behavior. Satisfying children's reasonable rewards can stimulate their enthusiasm, but satisfying unreasonable rewards will lead children into a misunderstanding and make them think their demands are reasonable. It laid the foundation for children to put forward more material requirements.
(4) Parents' comparison psychology and inferiority complex.
The comparison psychology of parents is the main reason for children's comparison psychology. Many parents have their own comparison psychology, and the appearance of children's comparison behavior is the performance of parents' comparison psychology. What other people's children have, their own children should have, and they should be better than others'. What other children learn, their own children also want him to learn, for fear that their own children will fall behind other children. Children's sense of superiority among peers is parents' satisfaction.