Three years ago, the eldest son was admitted to Tsinghua, and three years later, both younger brothers and sisters were admitted to Tsinghua. An ordinary family can send all three children to the top universities in China. What's so special about this mother's education?
When the reporter interviewed his mother, Ms. Kang, he said that the period from 5 o'clock to 16 o'clock is the most critical and important period for educating children. During this period, parents should firmly grasp these three important principles.
Mother Kang said that 5~ 16 years old is the key to their living habits and quality development. At this time, parents have three principles that must be grasped, unshakable and adhered to.
The first principle is called combining leniency with severity and combining leniency with severity. Kang's mother said: parents think that forcing their children to study will definitely lead to their rebellious mentality and even weariness of learning. Therefore, in the process of educating children, we must be reasonable. Cultivate their initiative and learning motivation under the family education mode of strictness and kindness, looseness and tightness, moderate tightness and strictness and kindness. In psychology, this is also called the concept of balance, and everyone must understand it.
In the process of educating children, you can't always use the old ones anyway. Any way, once taken to extremes, is wrong. If we are too strict with our children, we will easily go to extremes and eventually become severe, and our children's inner world will become depressed, mentally trapped, lacking in self-confidence, and their thinking will shrink and they will not be able to develop better. Serious will cause children to resist, even violence. But if you indulge too much, you will become indulgent and fearless. Irregular consciousness, he will become a kind of doting on children and gradually become indulgent. Therefore, this law reminds us that when educating children, encouragement and punishment need to be combined, and praise and criticism should also have methods. You both have your own roles, and both of you are indispensable. Therefore, only Song Yan is moderate, strict and kind, and can be used in a balanced way, which is the educational wisdom and art of parents. That principle is called the law of work and rest, which is to develop a habitual work and rest time for children from an early age. As long as the initial adaptation period is over, this method is very helpful for children to develop good time habits and pace of life and accompany them into junior high school and high school. Whether for children's physical growth or self-discipline, the formation of human nature has positive significance and role.
From a psychological point of view, develop the first timetable, because no matter what changes take place in the environment where the child lives, he will always have a stable life inertia and determination. Supported by the law of inertia, it will also help children develop the habit of self-management, so it is a simple timetable that many parents ignore. In fact, there are many potential plasticity hidden behind it.
The third principle is to keep reading. Regarding the content of reading, the most important thing is to cultivate children's reading interests and hobbies from an early age. Reading should be cultivated as early as possible, and reading ability is the core of one's lifelong learning ability. There are also children's willpower, thinking ability, imagination, expression ability, application conversion ability, expansion ability and so on. Once you have more reading habits, it will greatly enrich your child's life and accompany him to his old age. Then, when cultivating children's interest in reading, we must pay attention to it. According to children's age, we should start with fun, establish a reading atmosphere, start with interactive reading, regular reading, situational reading and persistent reading, and let children start with pictures and picture books that he is interested in. Reading is not encouraging others to do things. What is the purpose of reading? What is the purpose of reading in advance? The wrong method may kill children's interest in reading in the cradle.
These three points are the main educational experience of mother Kang in sending all three children to Tsinghua and the three principles of educational growth brought to everyone from the psychological point of view. Ok, that's all for today's sharing.