After losing your predecessor, I know you are very upset and confused, and don't know what to do, so I hope to find a reliable consultant/team to repair your feelings.

I want to get out of the relationship dilemma of lovelorn, and I want to repair the relationship with my ex. I hope my professional experience can help you. According to our experience, the first step is to try to calm yourself down, explore "what am I doing to repair my feelings" and perceive my inner needs.

Because this man is worth it? Because I need to grow up? Is it because I'm falling apart? Do you need any help? Or do you want to escape the pain and find a sense of security in your own control?

You need to see if this relationship is worth repairing. If you think it is necessary, then find an effective relationship repair consulting service in Deception.

Important reminder: don't feel pain because you lost your beloved now, and then go to the consulting agency to ask if this person is worth keeping and if there is any way to repair the relationship with him.

Because if you ask recycling agencies this question, almost all agencies will say: You must repair it! And 90% or even 100% can be recycled.

They don't care about your feelings, they only care about whether they can make money from you.

This indiscriminate opening of the mouth in the screenshot tells you that "every relationship can be repaired", which will mislead the helper to think that "everything can be repaired successfully". There is also the repressive rhetoric of "your idea seems immature", which suppresses the self-esteem of consultants and tries to establish their authoritative image in this way, which may make many help seekers seem to grasp the straws and think that as long as they pay the money, any relationship can be repaired!

Even borrow money to get this kind of "service", and in the end, people and money are empty and sad.

As a love coach who has completed thousands of marriage and love repairs, I want to say to those friends who are in the anxiety and sadness of breaking up:

Let go of the control and persistence of the results, pay more attention to yourself, pay attention to the parts that you can control, and repair your relationship most efficiently.

First, what kind of relationship repair has a high success rate and is worth saving?

Although there are many reasons for breaking up, they can be summarized into the following two categories.

1, what are the practical reasons?

2. Reasons for getting along

1, if we break up for practical reasons.

This means that the relationship between you is not broken, but that you or he are crushed by reality and separated out of weakness and anxiety about reality. This situation is relatively difficult to recover and not worth it.

Give a few examples:

It will be a long time away from home.

Recovery difficulty: ★★★★

Worthy degree: ★★

Most long-distance relationships break up for two reasons:

1, when you are weak, you can't find anyone, and you have nowhere to put it alone; ?

2. Insecurity of one party leads to anxiety of both parties.

Long-distance love is difficult to manage and maintain, because it is difficult for two people to interact, so it is very difficult to repair. Unless you can confirm that after the relationship is repaired, you can meet at a relatively stable frequency, and you can completely trust each other and have the ability to deal with your own insecurity and anxiety. This requires practicing and learning emotional management skills.

Therefore, when I seek help to repair a long-distance relationship, I always ask two questions:

1, "Are you going to end the present off-site state?" ?

2. "Do you have the will to improve your emotional management ability?"

If one of them answers no, I will persuade him to give up.

② Different plans and directions for future life.

Repair difficulty: ★★★★★★★

Worth having: ★★★★★★★

In this case, it is not a question of the difficulty of repair, but a question of whether it is worth it, such as:

My predecessor wants to stay in one city, but he wants to stay in another city. My predecessor wants to graduate and work, and I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination. My predecessor wants to get married and have children, and wants to realize his career ideal. The ex wants dink, and she wants children. My predecessor didn't want to get married, but wanted to get married and have children.

On the issue of life planning, I am both a life coach and a love counselor, so I know very well how important the influence of goals and love is on our future life.

People who ask for help can easily get lost in such problems. On the one hand, they worry that they have taken the wrong path in life, on the other hand, they are suffering from the pain and suffering of lovelorn.

This kind of emotion can easily drive us to make wrong choices for fear of losing, make bad choices that will lead to a mess in our future life, and then take it out on our predecessors, and finally lose love and precious time in our lives, which is three times as unpleasant this time.

Therefore, when encountering such problems, a good life coach will help you see what you want and need most in your life like a mirror. An excellent consulting coach can even help you activate the energy of love, get the best of both worlds, and make love and life harvest.

The power of love can give people confidence.

(3) It's wrong to be in the wrong house because of economic strength or strong opposition from parents.

Repair difficulty: ★★★★

Worthy degree: ★★

It is also difficult to deal with the situation of breaking up because of financial strength or strong opposition from parents.

Sometimes because of these practical problems, two people decide to break up without communication, which is actually not worth repairing.

On the one hand, the lack of communication shows that both sides are unable to solve practical problems and contradictions between them; on the other hand, if their relationship can be easily defeated by external factors, it shows that both sides are not independent enough.

But if you broke up with you, and then you regret it and want to keep each other, you can still try to repair the following, because this is your own consciousness and you want to try your best to save it. It is also that you want to make yourself stronger, and you are eager to improve your conflict resolution ability and independence in your family by repairing this relationship, so that you can become better and more independent.

After all, sometimes we need to experience loss to understand what we really want. We should allow ourselves and give ourselves a chance to choose again. If this is your case, maybe the following case I repaired can give you some inspiration.

(4) Make mistakes in principle

Repair difficulty: ★★★★★★★

Worthy degree: ★★

If the other party makes a mistake in principle, which leads to the breakdown of your relationship, whether to repair it or not depends on whether it is worth it.

If the family, feelings, children, property and other fetters of both sides are deeper and wider. This is valuable for repair. Generally speaking, it can be repaired well.

But if you make a principled mistake and want to repair it, the most important thing at this time is to repair the damage first, and then repair the relationship.

There are also many principled mistakes that will bring extremely serious harm to families and relationships, such as: serious domestic violence, gambling, poisoning, deliberately causing various serious psychological and physical trauma to children/the elderly, and so on.

If your partner has done this, I advise you not to have illusions and not to be a virgin, thinking that you can save each other, so as to save your relationship with each other.

Let the other person learn to bear the consequences of his actions, which is the best way for you to love him at this time.

As the saying goes, to err is human.

We rarely become individuals and "sages" because we make an oath or a promise, otherwise the whole world will be sages, and there will be no domestic violence and family tragedy all over the world.

Sometimes, by allowing others to make mistakes, we can better accept ourselves and our imperfections.

If you are unfortunate enough to encounter this situation, the following cases I have done may give you some inspiration:

2. if you break up because you get along.

Disagreement leads to breakup, often because of the influence of family background, such as living habits, eating habits, subconscious sense of security, etc., resulting in quarrels, conflicts and misunderstandings between the two sides. Most people will focus on the conflict and quarrel itself, thinking that an apology is enough, but the essential root problem is communication.

Communication ability involves what we usually call immature emotional intelligence, which leads to discomfort, fatigue, cold violence and even "power struggle" when the two sides are together. For example, should the toilet seat at home be opened or closed? ...

Don't know how to communicate feelings, don't know how to express your feelings in the right way, and don't know how to go into your heart and love each other. This is the root of emotional breakdown!

For example:

The communication between two people always discusses things, and even suppresses each other because of their different views?

② After the conflict, the two sides were not good at communication, adopted a state of avoidance, and accumulated a lot of resentment?

3 I feel that I have been giving, but the other person doesn't feel it, making the other person feel that you don't love him?

Often complain to each other, lose your temper and ask them to change. Two people often confess that they are tired?

When it comes to emotional topics, the other person is often silent, always anxious and insecure?

Both sides feel wronged when they say or do something that hurts each other?

⑦ Misunderstanding and negative impression caused by poor communication?

8 Always intentionally or unintentionally trying to force him to get married.

If we are separated from each other because we don't know how to love, it is really the biggest tragedy in life.

Fortunately, in my opinion, this kind of problem is the least difficult to repair, and it is also the most worth repairing.

Often once the repair is completed, the relationship between two people can often embark on a sweet road.

Repair difficulty: ★

Worth having: ★★★★★★★

Why is it most worth repairing?

Because if you don't learn how to love each other this time, then when you meet your next boyfriend or girlfriend, you will immediately realize?

If we can't swim, we can't even change the swimming pool at 100.

Now the divorce rate is so high, do you have enough ability and confidence to make sure that the person you want to marry, raise children and spend the rest of your life with loves you and is the one you love?

This breakup just wants to remind you that the way you used to get along with each other and love him is not the way they want, otherwise they will not be separated from you.

So you need to learn to make each other feel true love.

So it's worth repairing, which means you can seize this opportunity to remedy it and let yourself learn to really love.

Why is it so difficult to repair?

Because the most important core factor to prevent the other person from feeling love is related to ourselves, that is, controllability.

As long as you learn to really love each other, express it in a way that makes everyone comfortable, and let the other person feel your love, you can make the other person change their mind.

More importantly, if you learn, you won't suffer.

When everyone around you can grow under your influence, you must be a heartthrob. Your ex may be more nervous than you and start thinking about how to get back together with you every day.

Learning true love and mastering the ability of love can not only heal yourself and make you full of strength, but also let the other person approach you and keep you.

I have followed up and consulted thousands of repair cases, among which hundreds of relationships need long-term follow-up, almost all of which were actively retained by their predecessors, and 98% of couples never quarreled again within six months after they got back together.

Second, if you are struggling with the relationship repair with your ex, I will send you a relationship repair test worth 100 yuan now!

I am now helping you to enter a four-dimensional thinking mode, that is, looking at you now from the future can help you better decide whether to repair your relationship with each other and ensure simplicity and efficiency!

1. Are you just missing him now, or are you missing his presence in your life? ?

2. If this relationship is saved successfully? Will there be any changes after you get together? ?

3. What did you feel or learn when you were apart? Does this answer make you want to be close to him more, or does it make you a little scared? ?

Can you imagine life without him?

The first feeling is always right!

You can write down your answer with your first feeling, and I will help you analyze it.

Third, how to distinguish between real and effective emotional repair services/institutions?

Does the relevant team organization or individual have a practicing certificate? "Training experience" corresponding to the major? For institutions, I won't say whether there is a business license within the business scope, because this is the basic skill.

If you don't even have these basic things, let alone the ability and consulting ethics, minutes is a scam!

On the identification of fraud: what do you think of the arrest of 69 emotional recovery masters by Shanghai police? Can the emotional recovery master really save the lovelorn?

Next, I will focus on four details that are easily overlooked or even cheated. These details are closely related to the information you care about most, such as whether the service is professional or not!

1. Is there a refundable agreement in the contract?

Reliability: ★★★★★★★

No matter how boastful the other party is, I tell you that 90%, 100% can be recovered, even in a week, and so on. If it's not written on paper, it only means that you trust him very much, but he doesn't trust you that much.

A fair and reasonable refund agreement is based on the welfare of the consultant.

Although the emotional industry is newer than the psychological industry, I think consultation should abide by the corresponding consulting ethics, and the first rule of consulting ethics is: put the well-being of consultants first.

Even for psychological counseling, if the counselor has not improved for a period of time, he should think that he is not competent enough to help the counselor consider referral or suggest the counselor to find a second home himself.

On the other hand, a fair and reasonable refund agreement not only helps our consultants' professional ability and attitude, but also helps to improve the level and reputation of the consulting industry.

2. Is there a confidentiality agreement in the contract?

Reliability: ★★★★★

Confidentiality agreement is one of the criteria for testing whether a consultant is professional, because it is also the performance of the consultant's well-being first.

Once, some help seekers who consulted other consulting institutions complained to me. He said he was cheated, but he was afraid to complain and refund because he was afraid that those institutions would go to his ex-girlfriend for information.

If there is no confidentiality agreement! That's not a qualified consultant and consulting agency! ! !

3. Is there any telephone consultation and professional and clear analysis report?

This is the standard to test whether the consultant's business process is professional!

In the formal initial consultation evaluation, we should find out the core reasons according to the current situation of the counselor and the reasons for breaking up, and make long-term plans and short-term goals for the counselor to save or repair the relationship.

I think many people like to consult in words, but in fact, it is of little effect.

Because the perspective of the parties is limited, you think the reason for breaking up may not be the real reason. I found this easily when I was doing telephone consultation. Many consultants came with reasons that were important at first, but after seeing the whole relationship, they suddenly became enlightened and found that the truth was completely different from the original reasons.

Many colleagues do emotional counseling, but they don't have the ability of life coach dialogue or psychological counseling. They only work on the basis of written information, only on the surface of the iceberg with only 4% information, and it is impossible to create any possibility.

Therefore, telephone consultation is a better way, and the expression and acceptance of both parties are relatively smooth, so as to help the consultant truly feel your communication style, and thus tap into the emotional model behind you.

Many times, I can understand the feelings of ta's predecessor after talking to the consultant on the phone. So as to give a very targeted core counseling strategy.

Many times, the reasons you think of for breaking up, even the reasons put forward by the other party, are not necessarily true. The real reasons are all in your feelings. Therefore, the way of consultation should at least be by telephone.

If a counselor/rehabilitation institution can't talk to you by phone or face to face, it is unprofessional.

4. Is the price and service in the contract transparent?

Reliability: ★★★★★

The most feedback from help seekers is maliciously increased among "sales-oriented" emotional organizations. Halfway through the service, the service needs to be increased, or it is too difficult and needs to be upgraded.

This kind of organization induces you to pay at a very low price from the beginning. When you think it's a bargain, you don't know it's a sales routine, and there are more expenses waiting for you to pay.

The most common one is to recommend you to pay a third party to intervene (two-way service), that is, to convince your predecessor through another person. This kind of service is expensive (more than five digits), and the effect is not proportional to the charge. I once had a client who spent more than 50,000 yuan to upgrade the two-way service in other institutions before coming to me. As a result, all contact information was hacked.

Think about it: suddenly a stranger calls you and advises you to get back together with your ex, not saying whether you will answer the phone. Even if you do, can you still talk to him?

Using a third party to exert pressure will only be detrimental to recovery!

Why is it useless?

You can look at this answer: Is it reliable for emotional institutions to save love through two-way docking? Will the other party notice that it is more exclusive?

5. Is there a complete recovery case?

Reliability: ★★★★★★★

There are many redemption theories in Zhihu, and I believe you have read many, starting with tens of thousands of words. Anyone can talk about this theory. If you read it for a day or two and change the nouns, you can also assemble your own theories and write an eloquent theoretical article of several thousand words.

How did you actually do it?

Customers pay for you, no matter what kind of customers, they are all setting their own theories.

If not, it's the customer's problem.

If it succeeds, it's your own cow.

A great man once said, whether it is a mule or a horse, just slip out and you will know.

So! ! ! Practice makes true knowledge!

Is there a complete counseling case to share?

A complete case (hiding the consultant's information) is not only to prove whether your theory is useful, but also to test whether a consultant's consultation process/ethics is formal and effective, and whether the consultant's feedback has a positive effect on the helper. These can be seen in the sun.

If there is no complete case counseling, only the screenshot of the consultant's favorable feedback can basically judge that this is a marketing consultant.

If you want emotional help?

Then I must introduce Jin Mei's feelings!

In 20 19, I wrote a book, The Way of True Love: Intimacy to the Heart, which helped many people enter a comfortable and heartfelt relationship.

In 2020, I put forward a brand-new concept of "saving with love", saving my predecessor with love. This is also different from the stereotyped skill routines of recovery institutions, such as breaking links, reading materials, making friends and delaying recovery.

We activate the helper's love ability step by step through coaching, and individualize the limitations of the coachee's emotional ability and love ability. Just like playing games, every step of growth helps the coachee to master the ability to love and be loved more effectively. Work together to create the most suitable recovery plan for you, so that the other party can get back together step by step because of love.

This requires a lot of counselors, and counselors must know how to love others in order to activate their love.

It is my life mission to make China's love education a milestone. The vision of Jinmei Emotion is to be a grand slam emotional brand with user identification, industry identification and national identification from the very beginning.

I have been cheated in the contract before, so I know I can't let everyone who believes in me down.

Therefore, when I was helping others to recover compensation, I violated the rules of the consulting industry and clearly wrote a "refundable agreement" in the contract.

When there is a "refund principle", our service will be under pressure, because when the service is not good, customers will choose to refund. This will further promote the promotion of consulting services.

I always believe that after making a word of mouth, customers will automatically come to you. Some of my clients are recommended by former clients, and there are no benefits such as recommendation fees or friends' preferential prices.

On the other hand, I found that many people don't want to recover when they give up halfway, or they choose to recover on impulse. And when you don't want to recover, you want to give up, but the recovery institutions and tutors on the market basically don't retreat. As long as you pay it, you can't return it.

The gentleman succeeded in recovering the fee and then renewed it. Later, after the relationship was stable and our service was no longer needed, I chose to end the service early, and I also returned some money to him according to the contract.

Therefore, I confidently recommend you to Jinmeiai Education Center, which is safe, effective and reassuring.