Educational methods for children aged 3 to 4
1, love children reasonably, don't be too strict and don't spoil them.
When educating their children, parents should educate their children in the right way, and don't set high demands on their children, or beat and scold them if they do well; Don't like and indulge children's behavior too much. These two extreme ways are not conducive to the growth of children.
When educating children, we should point out their mistakes in time and let them correct them. Don't mislead them, such as children hitting people, parents can't say? My children are so energetic! ? This is a sign of doting on children. People who have grandparents at home will do this. If the child is wrong, he is wrong, so he can't get used to it.
2. Formulate rules and determine the consequences of violation.
For children aged 3-4, we can make a list of rules for their most troublesome behaviors, such as fighting with children and being rude. Experts suggest that no more than five rules can be made for children aged 4-8. Parents should clearly explain what will happen if they violate the rules, such as not enjoying something for a short time. Benefits? . (What is your child's favorite activity? Benefits? , such as going out to play. Once the child violates the rules, immediately implement the behavioral consequences.
3. Parents should have a good attitude and encourage their children to be concrete.
Parents should keep a good attitude when educating their children. The most important thing is to be satisfied with their children. High standards, low requirements. ? After all, it is a child. It is good if children make even a little progress. For example, it is very difficult for children to tidy their rooms. If the child can fold several clothes, parents should encourage the child, but be specific, such as? The clothes you folded are really nice. Keep trying. Don't say it in general? Aren't you great? .
4. Guide children to behave well by playing games.
Children like role-playing. If children don't eat well, parents can guide them to eat by playing games. For example, take the children's bowls and chopsticks, let the children put them neatly, and then the parents put the tableware in turn, let the children arrange the performance, and the children will cooperate very much. But it's time to eat, and the children can't play endlessly. Parents can talk it over with their children and play games after dinner.
5. The time to punish children should be short.
When a child makes a mistake, the punishment time for the child at this stage should not be too long, otherwise it will lead to some negative effects. For example, the child always throws peels and scraps of paper on the floor. In order to punish the child, parents should let him sweep the floor and pay attention to cleaning for a few minutes. Don't take too long, otherwise children will feel insecure and lack understanding of their parents.
6. Treat children's lies and deception calmly.
It is normal for children aged 3 or 4 to lie. Parents should deal with it calmly, don't lose their temper, or feel incredible. Parents might as well tell their children some stories, such as the classic story of the wolf coming, to let them know the disadvantages of lying. Through story education, children are greatly touched. When telling a story, be emotional and make it easy for children to understand.
7. Parents should pay attention to the crying problem of children of this age.
3, 4-year-old baby's crying is often purposeful, such as missing mom, wanting to eat a snack and so on. Parents should pay attention not to pay too much attention when their children are crying, and don't have obvious different reactions from usual. Otherwise, children will cry more and more, and they will never stop until they reach their goals. On the contrary, if parents pretend to be okay and go about their own business, children will get bored when they cry for a while, then stop crying slowly, and then rarely pretend to cry to meet their own needs.
Trees should be watered early, and people should be taught less. We should understand and pay attention to children and treat them equally; Communicate with children more and listen to their voices; Give children the power to choose for themselves; Parents should try to control their temper. In short, we should respect the growth characteristics of children and let them grow up healthily and happily.
Correct education methods for 5-year-old children
Features: They can understand the specific requirements and rules of their parents. The challenge and important task they face is to act according to their ignorant moral consciousness.
Typical behavior: begin to learn to think about how the other person will feel from the standpoint of others; I have been able to obey the rules and do some simple housework. However, he will cross the line to test you and see how you react; Although it is far from the ideal goal, compared with before, children can better control their impulses when they are 5 years old. If their desires are not satisfied, they seldom slam the door, hit people or cry.
What about parents:
1. Broaden children's horizons. You can ask your child: Do you like being treated like this? Then tell the child what the consequences of his behavior are for others and explain to the child why he should abide by the code of conduct.
2. Develop and try a behavior management system. For example, put three smiling faces on the wall every morning. If the child has bad behavior, turn a smiling face into a bitter face and point out what is a foul. Once all three smiling faces become bitter faces, he will be punished a little. If there is even a smiling face at the end of the day, give your child some encouragement.
3. When the child does something, give him some restrictions and let him understand the importance of self-control. For example, tell him: You have three minutes to stop crying, or you will have to stay in your room alone and don't play with toys. ?
Features: The social skills of children in this age group are constantly developing. What they need to learn most is how to cooperate and balance the needs of themselves and others.
On the education of six-year-old children
Here are some suggestions that I hope will help you:
First, the first thing to do is to reflect on your behavior. Children's direct resistance to parents' over-control or over-protection of children.
Second, if the child is argumentative, there may be someone around him as his sparring partner. If this person is you, try to be the last speaker in the argument (this is more difficult than you think, but please challenge)
Third, try to walk into the inner world of children and guess the reasons behind their provocation. For example, ask a child: Are you angry because I care too much about you? Do you feel hurt because your mother is busy at work? Usually you can guess what makes children rebel. If your guess is correct, the child will feel recognized and understood; If you guess wrong, try again.
Fourth, give children some choices whenever possible. For example, ask a child: Do you think you can cross the street, or do you want me to hold your hand? Do you want to set the table, or take the dishes to the table for me to set?
Some children have been confronting him until he is beaten, so that he is trained to be a child who needs to be beaten to be quiet. Don't hit him, put the rebellious child on his lap. No matter how hard he struggles, don't let him go until he is quiet. Say to the older children:? I won't hit you, nor will I physically punish you in any way. I'm sorry for the way I used to be, and I hope it will change our relationship. What you did upset mom, but I love you. I want to ask you to help stop the dispute between us and let us solve the problem together. ?
6. Try to ask your child what he wants to do instead of telling him what to do. For example, what are you going to do before crossing the street? This often encourages children to think and solve problems with their own strength, instead of provoking the orders you give him.
Let the child know that you need his help and tell him: I will appreciate any help you can give me. ? This can stimulate cooperation rather than provocation.
Eight, the honest attitude of parents will also play a role. Remember to use it? I think ... because ... I hope ...? This sentence pattern.
Nine, pay attention? Just say? No? Monster? . Every time a child asks you a question or makes a request, do you say it without thinking? No? And then what? Do you shout when you see a toddler touching something that is not allowed? No? And then what? When children are young, we should tell them what they can do by distracting them, instead of teaching them how to say it. No? . When they grow up, they should try to talk to their children? what's up .