With the announcement of the results of the college entrance examination, the top college entrance examination students from all over the country began to enter people's field of vision, while Xiong Xuanang, the top liberal arts student in Beijing, sparked heated discussions with an interview video.

When the reporter asked, "Do you believe that knowledge can change fate?" Xiong Xuanang replied:

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Xiong Xuanang's words are thought-provoking. He did not attribute his success to his outstanding personal ability, but deepened it into family education and class differences with a "backward compatibility" thinking. His independent, profound, rational and advanced thinking mode is not the fruit of China's education system, but is more influenced by his parents.

Xiong Xuanang's family belongs to the middle class, which not only enables him to enjoy high-quality living conditions, but also enjoys unique advantages in the utilization of educational resources. His parents are diplomats, and they have traveled to many countries with them since childhood, which makes him have a breadth, breadth and depth unmatched by his peers in vision, experience and knowledge.

These things all come from the family. He was born from a higher starting point than others, took a shortcut to ordinary people, and naturally succeeded more easily than others.

However, was he admitted to Peking University because he was born in a famous family and his parents were diplomats?

No, generous family conditions and convenient educational resources only provide better hardware support than ordinary people on his road to success, while the cultivation of soft power such as deep cognition, freedom of concept, modesty and habit self-discipline comes more from parents' words and deeds.

Parents' financial resources, contacts and resources determine the starting point of children; Parental education, knowledge and pattern are the basis for the formation of children's values.

Of course, the cultivation of outstanding talents does not necessarily have a good family background. Poor families can also have expensive children. The real difference lies in the way children are raised. Xiong Xuanang is not a special case.

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Wang 20 17, the champion of Zhejiang college entrance examination, is from Jiangcun, Datang. His ancestors made a living by weaving, and he stayed in the countryside for six years. Speaking of life at that time, he wrote: fall asleep at night and wake up in the morning.

He was born in a well-off family, but his mother is a thoughtful person and loves reading. Whenever the school teacher asks him to read books, his mother will buy them for him, and he will read them and communicate with his mother occasionally.

Compared with Xiong Xuanang, he has no prominent family background, rich resources and convenient shortcuts. The only similarity is that they all have a mother who respects knowledge and children.

Xiong Xuanang can go to Wan Li Road to broaden his horizons, and Wang can also read thousands of books to increase his knowledge. Different families and similar education methods depend on whether parents' requirements for their children are consistent with their own behaviors and whether parents' education really plays an upward role.

The influence of parents on children is far greater than imagination. It didn't happen overnight, but it penetrated into bones and blood for many years.

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Coincidentally, 20 14 Dong Jiyang, the top science scholar in Anhui Province, was born in an intellectual family. His father is a professor at Hefei University of Technology and his mother is an engineer.

Because parents attach great importance to the cultivation of children's interests, Dong Jiyang began to learn chess in kindergarten and became a national second-class athlete. I began to learn violin at the age of 4 and was admitted to the eighth grade in junior high school. She won the 12 gold medal in the Chinese women's mathematics Olympics.

When talking about this matter, Dong Jiyang said on more than one occasion that "my parents have a great influence on me" and thanked my parents for "having reasons to keep her going every time". In the interview, she said:

Occasionally, I get tired of learning and don't want to study. My parents noticed and didn't say anything, so I turned off the TV and sat down to read. Seeing them reading, I am embarrassed not to read.

Therefore, real family education has never been a parent's incessant preaching, never a "dutiful son under a stick", never a parent who plays with a mobile phone but orders his children to study, never a parent who uses money and material rewards as an excuse to replace their children's company.

Instead, with a gentle but not sharp, tolerant but not indulgent, free and not laissez-faire power, let children distinguish right from wrong, know how to choose, treat others according to their own needs, and become themselves firmly and confidently.

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Children are the continuation of parents' blood, but they are not the achievers whose parents have not realized their ideals. Don't turn your regret that you can't get in into the pain that children have to do. We are all independent people, and children have free souls. Only by respecting children can we establish intimate, stable and harmonious parent-child relationship with children.

Parents are the best teachers for children. Parents' words and deeds are projected into children's eyes, which is no less than the golden rule. Children will imitate, think it is right, and refute you if it is wrong. That's what you have to do. If you are speechless, you will encourage his arrogance; If you are flustered, it will make him resentful; But if you put down your posture, sincerely admit your mistakes and correct them, your children will follow your example, be sensible, know the honor and disgrace, and distinguish between right and wrong.

Good parents are not judged by the amount of money, power or status. The rich also have black sheep, and the poor can also have expensive children. The key lies in family education. Maybe you were born in poverty; Maybe you can't read; Maybe you are busy. However, as a parent, you should have an enterprising heart and let your children understand that a good life depends on hard work; You must learn to learn to communicate and interact with your children better; Be sure to give your child proper companionship and deepen your feelings. Good parents can have good children.

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In ancient times, Meng Mu moved three times, making a generation of Confucian saints; Another mother-in-law got a tattoo and became a loyal national general. Today, there is an ancient writer Qian Jibo's son named Qian Zhongshu; There is also the daughter of the famous writer Shang Ailan, named Jiang. Children live like their parents. The cultivation of most elites depends on parents' attitude towards life and way of doing things. Children can't teach well, first of all, look at themselves.

At that time, a primary school student's composition called "My Mom" burst into a circle of friends, and the article wrote:

From this article, I feel that children are full of complaints. What he complains about is not the gap between the rich and the poor, the class difference, or the lack of resources, but that he has a degenerate and incompetent mother.

Shocking.

Many women will shift their focus to their families after marriage, and will give up their jobs to raise children, take care of their in-laws and undertake housework. The previous skills will gradually degenerate, and then adapt, naturally using family responsibilities as an excuse to escape the invasion of new things. Wandering between home, vegetable market and school all day, afraid of change, content with the status quo.

Children naturally have reason to choose not to make progress, because he has such a mother. He will refute his mother's point of view and be dissatisfied with her beating, because her mother has never been punished for the same behavior, and he will feel unfair, resist and become another mother.

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Therefore, for the sake of children, parents should learn to change. Good parents do not unconditionally meet all the needs of their children, nor do they protect their children from wind and rain like flowers in a greenhouse, nor do they demand their children by their own strict standards. Good parents make their children happy because of such parents.

In the large-scale female variety show Mamma Mia of Oriental TV, the 32-year-old mother, Shi, conducted a one-year closed super memory training in order to prove to her 1 1 year-old daughter that she was not stupid, and won the third place in the memory poker competition.

Rao Zhao Xia, 42, has been taking care of her children at home for seven or eight years after her marriage. Because he was questioned when helping 10-year-old son with his homework, he began to learn pole dancing at the age of 40 and became a professional teacher in a dance school two years later.

You see, change is not difficult, the key is whether you are willing to pay for it. You have changed not only yourself, but also the future of your children.

Parents play a vital role in children's growth. Their influence on children is not overnight, but subtle and goes deep into children's minds. Therefore, once the influence is formed, it is not easy to change, and what parents have to do is to be the best themselves first and then raise their children.

After all, if you want to turn women into phoenixes and children into dragons, you must first turn yourself into phoenixes and dragons.