# 65438+1 October 12 [Rose] Section1Learn the answer.
First, reading notes (record what impressed you)
1. "Not teaching" does not mean giving up, nor does it mean doing less or doing nothing, but emphasizing parents' "active inaction" in education. What is positive inaction? It is on the basis of fully understanding the general law of physical and mental development that parents let their children experience the process of life with care and love.
2. If a society doesn't agree with people's characteristics and uses an accepted standard to create elites, it will produce machines, not real talents.
3. Rational parents, knowing the characteristics of children, identifying with their personality and letting their talents and disposition guide their development, rather than forcing education and distortion, are the best way. Apples are as valuable as watermelons. Whether they are valued or not depends on their tasters and demanders.
4. Love needs a reason, but it doesn't need any conditions! The so-called "respect" means affirmation, attention and appreciation.
5. Excellent parents will patiently and tactfully provide multiple-choice questions when communicating with their children, including foreseeing the consequences of the incident, analyzing the existing conditions, weighing the pros and cons, etc. And guide children to think with others, and then draw reasonable conclusions.
6. If a child is respected by his parents, his understanding of love and care is more direct, and it is easier for him to become a positive person who can spread love and care when he grows up.
7. No matter how disturbing and sad your child has done, please remember that he is a child and all the mistakes in his behavior can be forgiven.
8. Every child's personality is different, and parents' upbringing can be different, but the attitude of respect is the same.
9. When a child is wrong or does something wrong, please don't rush to stand up and lash out. Instead, parents need to pay more attention to help children reflect on problems, explore how to correct them, how to establish compensation mechanisms and reduce consequences, how to respect the rights and feelings of others, and cultivate children's ability to understand love and accept happy emotional experiences, which is very beneficial for children to gradually form a positive and healthy attitude towards life.
10. Children are not carrying their parents' current machines. Not in the past, not now and not in the future.
1 1. Knowledge itself is not important. What is important is that we have exercised our thinking, accumulated wisdom and cultivated our ability in the process of learning knowledge.
12. Sincere and objective praise is a good word for children to benefit for life.
13. When our children are at a disadvantage, that is, temporarily not excellent, parents should not rush to do anything to make up for the project, but should calm down, encourage and maintain their precious self-esteem and pay attention to maintaining and cultivating their interest in learning.
Second, feel the action.
? 1. I have read this book before, but I just swallowed it. I only know that when I studied it carefully today, I suddenly solved some problems that have been bothering me recently. No matter in life or at work, I have benefited a lot.
2. Every child is a unique individual. As parents, we should respect children's personality development, master the laws of children's physical and mental development, guide children, encourage children and achieve children.
3. Restrain yourself from blaming children easily in the future.