First, promote the development of children's personality.
From the birth of the child, the mother and the child will enter the symbiotic period of mother-child attachment, which is a highly integrated "binary relationship" with strong "exclusiveness"
Father's intervention means the emergence of "ternary relationship" in children's world, which can help children to smoothly transition to the second stage of children's psychological development-Oedipus stage, and further promote the development of children's personality.
PS: A healthy family relationship is an isosceles triangle between parents and children.
In reality, children in many families have problems, the core of which lies in the imbalance of family relations, the marginalization of fathers, and the inability of fathers to play their roles and functions.
Second, set an example of gender roles for children.
The father is the first male image in a child's life. The way a father treats his mother and the mode of interaction between father and son are all examples for children to learn.
And it will affect children's views on marriage and mate selection.
Many women will use their father as a template when choosing a partner, either copying it completely or the opposite.
For example, if the father is weak and timid, then men with independent ideas are very attractive to themselves;
For another example, I have been used to my father's control over my mother since I was a child, and I am eager to find a man who can set me free when I grow up.
Third, it is conducive to children's "mental" development and leads them to a bigger world.
The mother-child relationship is more used to gain inner spiritual comfort and inner security, while the father-son relationship is more used to lead children out of the family and into the society and the bigger world.
According to research, children who have at least 2 hours of contact with their fathers every day are not only smarter, but also more harmonious in dealing with interpersonal relationships than children who have less than 6 hours of contact with their fathers every week.
Therefore, it is an unshirkable responsibility for children to educate their fathers.
Fourth, ease the tension between mother and child.
Compared with the mother who revolves around the children, the busy father also has its advantages, that is, he doesn't have to face the children who challenge him at any time, so he has more time to think, and the "beauty of distance" with the children also makes their mentality more peaceful.
Therefore, dad might as well take the opportunity to play the role of "balancer" in family education and give his wife a breathing space to adjust her state.
Fifth, let children experience the power from men.
In children's eyes, the mother is generally warm, delicate and stable, while the father's physiological structure and role commitment make him a symbol of strength, courage, responsibility and responsibility.
A competent father will pass on these qualities to his children and let them experience different love.
Sixth, the economic pillar of the family.
During the mother's whole-hearted parenting, the father is the economic pillar and material provider of the family.
Many men's understanding of the role of "father" is insufficient and one-sided. They think that they are only responsible for making money to support their families, but they don't realize their role and importance as fathers in the whole family.
Gerdi, a famous psychologist, once said: "Father is a unique existence with a special power to cultivate children.
Children are the product of environment, and family environment is the most important parenting environment. As a family member, dad has an unshirkable responsibility to create a family education atmosphere.
Therefore, it is also one of the behaviors that dad can cooperate with mom to create an educational family atmosphere.