There is a difference between love and marriage in life with a correct view of marriage and family. Entering marriage, there is only a trivial life. Faced with this problem, there are often only two choices, and no one can interfere in marriage. Let's look at the correct view of marriage and family.
A correct view of marriage and family 1 To have a correct view of marriage, we must first have a correct view of love. The correct view of love is:
1. Only when you are single-minded, serious and honest about love can you be happy. Don't chop and change, be single-minded and honest about love.
2. Understand that love is a part of life, and love is two of a kind, which cannot be forced. When you are lovelorn, you should learn to change your direction and focus on work and friendship, so that your life can be on the right track and you can find your true love later.
3. It is important to know the correct love motivation. Love is to find like-minded lifelong partners, not to comfort and satisfy sexual needs. Only with a correct view of love can we find true love and happiness.
The correct view of marriage is:
1. Marriage is a kind of responsibility, mutual dedication, understanding and care. Only in this way can marriage be happy, no matter how much anyone pays, otherwise it is not love, but an exchange of interests.
2. Family life should learn to coordinate with each other, understand each other, and distribute money in a business-like manner, which is conducive to family stability and harmony.
3. Marriage requires two people to constantly run in and communicate with their partners, so that marriage can be better.
4. Learn to solve the problems in marriage actively and bravely, so that marriage will be happy. Life always goes through hardships. When you encounter difficulties and setbacks, you should actively solve your own mentality and don't complain.
The correct view of marriage should put love first. Marriage is not to achieve some goals, such as money, a house, or to make yourself struggle less and live a good life. First of all, the motivation should be reasonable.
Marriage is a relationship of mutual growth and mutual benefit. In marriage, two people should not only think about getting it, but also pay for each other and be willing to pay their love.
Marriage and family will involve many relationships, such as husband-wife relationship, parent-child relationship, in-laws relationship and so on. These relationships should be properly debugged. If the relationship is out of order, it is easy to go wrong. For example, marriage and family, the core is the relationship between husband and wife, and there are many families. After the child is born, the parent-child relationship overrides the relationship between husband and wife, which will affect the feelings of husband and wife on the one hand, and is not conducive to the establishment of a healthy personality of the child on the other. So the relationship needs to be adjusted.
Finally, if a marriage and family want to be happy, they need to manage with care. This doesn't mean that their marriage is over. They grow up and get to know each other better, so as to work out a family interaction model suitable for each other, communicate well and meet each other's psychological needs. In this way, marriage will be stable.
The correct view of marriage and family 2 I think there has never been an absolute standard answer to the question of the correct view of marriage. Many times it varies from person to person, and it will also be greatly influenced by your own family.
Most people's parents, as the older generation, believe that the correct marriage values are to find a suitable person with the same family, economic and cultural level. The man can shoulder the responsibility of the family, and the woman is better to be a good wife and mother. However, as women occupy more and more social status, more people think that I will choose to get married only if marriage can give me real happiness. Being single is fine, but if life is a mess because of marriage, I'd rather choose not to. Many young women I met made me find their views on marriage values more independent. This is especially obvious in the post-90s and post-00s. I think it is better to please others than myself. Don't think that just saying "I raise you" can make girls in the Z era become the hot cakes at home. Girls after 00 are braver and more open-minded in marriage and love. They generally believe that "if there is no love in marriage, then I am willing to choose to be single all my life"
Therefore, we can say that we have entered a modern era of losing consensus, or that the old consensus has collapsed and the new consensus has not yet been reached. Girls after 00 are still relatively young, and there are many opportunities to try to fall in love. Maybe your parents will teach you that "marriage is not for two people, but for two families" to make you think deeply, or to hinder you in every way. My suggestion is not to oppose and protest parents' opinions in a hurry, but for reference, no parents want to hurt their children; Secondly, marriage is a matter of two families and two people. After all, you have to stay with each other for a lifetime.
Marriage should always be based on love, but also sublimated into the common values of two people. So when you consider whether to enter the marriage hall with each other, I think you should first determine your feelings for each other, or be grateful? Compassion? Or love? Being clear about this is especially important for your marriage. Be clear about what you need in your marriage and whether you can keep pace with each other. Whether it's bread or love, the game of "three feet for two" can be stable if the two keep pace.
If you encounter emotional problems and need to repair a relationship, you can look at the marriage quality evaluation of Oak, University of Minnesota. He analyzed marriage from eleven aspects, such as "marriage expectation, sexual life, personality compatibility, sharing and communication, conflict resolution, financial management, leisure activities, relationship between relatives and friends, role equality, religious belief and children's education". He believes that these eleven factors are closely related and influence each other.
Correct view of marriage and family 3 How to establish a correct view of marriage and family
1. Establish a correct view of marriage and a good attitude, limit the influence of marriage disputes on one's mental state within a controllable range, and pay special attention to avoiding the intensification of family conflicts.
2, objectively and rationally judge your feelings for your spouse, but also analyze the realistic state of your spouse's feelings for yourself, and correctly draw the conclusion whether the feelings have really broken. There are two points to note:
First, one party's confusion and doing something wrong may not necessarily lead to emotional breakdown. If the emotional foundation of both parties still exists, the other party can give it a chance to change; The second is to draw a clear line between the contradictions and emotional breakdown between the two sides, and not to easily lose the feelings that can be redeemed.
If the relationship between the two sides is not completely broken, the two sides should take various ways to repair the relationship and gradually restore the normal family life order, instead of irresponsibly aggravating family conflicts.
4. For the family disputes that the relationship between the two parties has indeed irretrievably broken down and the marriage relationship exists in name only, we should take a "cut the gordian knot" approach, properly solve them on the basis of fully considering the interests of children, and reduce the mental burden as soon as possible.
5. After the divorce is decided, the issues of child support and property division should be handled fairly and reasonably based on the principle of mutual understanding and mutual accommodation.
A correct view of marriage and family. economic independence
A good marriage requires both men and women to be sensible. "You are responsible for beauty, and I work hard to earn money to support my family." Many girls are elated when they hear boys say this to themselves, and they fantasize about various happy married life scenes in their minds. Their boyfriend's image in their hearts is so tall, they just need to wait for happiness at their fingertips, thinking that he loves me, and I don't need to consider everything after marriage. In fact, girls should immediately listen to these sugar-coated promises and have fun for a while. Don't place too much hope on them. They must have their own financial resources.
Buy a big house and get a puppy. With the development of economy, the enhancement of women's independent consciousness, the increase of job opportunities and the improvement of their ability, women of marriageable age also have their own different views on marriage. They are not in a hurry to get married, but want to live a free life for three to five years, and some even enjoy their personal lives in their thirties and forties. Economic independence can satisfy people in many ways, and the needs of marriage are replaced step by step.
"I can spend my own money at will." Many married women, even with their children at home, do various jobs such as WeChat business, Taobao and manual work. They are not yellow-faced women who only do laundry and cook with their babies in traditional marriages, but new housewives who will take care of their children and work hard. People often complain that their circle of friends and space are dominated by friends and relatives of young mothers. They feel helpless, disgusted and admired. These women don't want to rely directly on their husbands, and they are trapped in the cage of marriage like canaries. A certain degree of economic independence can make them live a more dignified life. Those days when my husband worked for a living were not a long-term solution. After all, married life is shared by two people, and there are not so many natural reasons.
Second, independence and equal exchange.
Everyone belongs to himself in the end, and no one is destined to obey and compromise others. Even in marriage, we should adhere to our own personality and dignity and grasp the discretion. An independent view of marriage requires individuals to have their own judgments and choices. Don't listen to other people's suggestions. Other people's opinions are for reference only, otherwise they will be particularly tired. You can't imagine a girl accepting a blind date arranged by her parents since her junior year. Today, five years later, this girl is still getting farther and farther on the road of blind date, opening a circle of friends, which is full of all kinds of complaints and self-sadness.
Why do you abuse yourself so much? Self-confidence and connotation, independent choice of partners, unlike duckweed, has its own foundation, how can it be so miserable. Even if you enter the marriage and family, you still pay attention to your inner self, stick to what you should insist on and maintain your autonomy. The dialogue between husband and wife is unremarkable, not just who expects whom.
Third, take part in more social activities.
People are most afraid of closing their minds. The new era is an era in which science and technology network information is developed, and it is an era in which generate is the spark of thought. It is necessary to establish an open and pluralistic view of marriage and avoid treating marriage as an island, living alone, or besieged and ignorant. Only by participating in social life can we keep a sensitive beating heart and be full of enthusiasm and hope for life. On this premise, if you don't give up work, study and communication, your marriage life will be updated and created from time to time.