Many parents think that children who are encouraged will be better. Just telling them some big truths will make them feel resistant and the effect is not ideal. Others make good use of discipline to restrain their children, and even scold and punish them. Both have their advantages and disadvantages. In fact, with the progress of life, everyone should learn to learn from each other. Parents and children cannot be completely equal friends. Having some authority at the right time can also help, so the combination of soft and hard is the best way, which can not only give children reason, but also have certain principles and bottom lines.
The East pays attention to exam-oriented education, although it has changed in recent years, but the measures are not perfect, and the children trained are generally not very creative, while the West pays attention to children's free innovation and development. In an atmosphere of excessive freedom, there is usually no way to restrain children. Every parent should clearly realize that getting a child into a good university can really save him a lot of effort, but it also needs all-round development, otherwise it will be difficult to adapt to the rhythm of social life in the future. Parents should give their children a sense of boundaries, and at the same time let them do it themselves and think for themselves.
After all, success and failure go hand in hand in life. We should not lose some happiness in pursuit of success. We should have a normal heart and look at all this calmly and tolerably. The most important thing is to educate children to have a good living habit and a positive and optimistic attitude towards life, which is more important than grades, and often such children will not be too bad in the future.