Little frog Figg woke up, and grandma had put his favorite pattern of new clothes, new socks and new shoes by the bed. Figg happily grabbed his socks and put them on his feet.
"Is the baby awake?" Grandma heard the noise and came in.
"Oh, dear, our little baby can dress herself!" Grandma shouted excitedly.
"Baby, that's great!" Grandpa put his head in and said, "let grandma help you put it on." The delicious breakfast is ready! " "
Figg ran to the restaurant in his new clothes. "wow! And my favorite blueberry sauce! "
Figg sat in the chair and spooned a spoonful of jam on the toast.
"Great!" Grandma looked at Figg and clapped her hands excitedly. "Our little baby can eat by herself!" "
After breakfast, Figg and Grandpa went out to play.
"We Gefei jump fast and far, no one can match!" Grandpa deliberately slowed down. "Look, grandpa can't catch up! Wait for grandpa! "
"Haha, I'll go to the pond first!" Figg didn't look back. He jumped three or two times and left grandpa far away. "Grandpa is so slow, I won't wait!" "
Look, "Great!" "Great!" This is what Figg often hears. No matter what he does, his grandparents always praise him. Slowly, Figg became more and more arrogant. One day, the little friends wanted to jump against Figg, and Figg, who was full of confidence, lost! He was so sad that his self-confidence was seriously damaged that he dared not go out to play with his friends. Later, his mother told Figg, "Baby, it is good to know that he is not as good as others. Only by seeing your own shortcomings can you make progress. Now you are slower than them, but as long as you keep exercising, you will surpass them one day. "
There are too many little Figueres around us, too many little Figueres and the same grandparents. Not only grandparents, but also some parents hold their children high. There is an old saying that "the higher you lift them, the harder you fall." Now there is a new term called "appreciation".
appreciate
"Appreciation" comes from "Xu Chuan in the Later Han Dynasty": "Less solemn and famous festivals, better human relations, more appreciation."
What is "appreciation", that is, recognizing the talent of others or the value of their works, and giving them attention or praise.
As the mother of a pair of 6-year-old twins, like many parents, I dream of training my children to be self-reliant, self-reliant, confident and useful to society.
Many parents told me that we should praise our children more and make them confident. So at this stage, a kind of "appreciation education" is popular.
Second, appreciation education.
Today's society is a rapidly developing society. As long as you take a nap, you may be out of step with society and out of touch. Contemporary children basically grow up in honeypots, and more and more parents and teachers advocate "appreciation education", thinking that good children will be more confident if they are praised. But sometimes, parents do it the wrong way. They put on a coat for "appreciation" and over-appreciate it, making children overconfident and conceited. They think everyone is inferior to themselves, and they think they are the greatest.
Then how to do appreciation education well?
In Zhang Chi, the appreciation should be moderate.
Appreciation education is not praise and encouragement, but appreciation of children's behavior results to strengthen children's behavior; It is to appreciate children's behavior process to stimulate children's interest and motivation; Create an environment and point out the development direction of children; Appropriate reminders can enhance children's psychological experience and correct their bad behaviors. If you blindly appreciate it, it will blur children's cognition, make them very conceited, and start blx as soon as they encounter a little setback. Therefore, excessive appreciation is a sugar-coated cannonball on their growth path, and it is also the gentlest killer.
The present society is a society with many different attitudes. It will not stop because you are not ready, nor will it give you preferential treatment because you are confident. It will not wait for you to grow up, spoil you, sympathize with you because you are weak, and treat you well because you are the darling of your parents. It will not lower your standards because of your tears, and it will not give you everything you want because of your fragility. Therefore, only when you are strong will there be surprises. First of all, parents should distinguish between right and wrong, correct their attitude, and praise their children appropriately for doing well; If you don't do well, you should point it out in time and help him make progress, so that the child will truly become confident. Therefore, appropriate encouragement is necessary, but we must master the temperature.
Second, the cultivation of psychological quality.
One kind of education and "appreciation education" complement each other, just like the twins of "appreciation education", that is "frustration education".
The so-called "frustration education" does not mean blindly attacking children's self-esteem. To put it bluntly, it is the cultivation of psychological quality and the enhancement of children's ability to resist setbacks.
Although a person's life is only a few decades, it is really bumpy and tortuous, and there is no smooth sailing. When children encounter unsatisfactory grades and unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, they are prone to negative emotions. At this time, we should care more about him, encourage him, help him, guide him to establish correct values and self-confidence, and turn setbacks into motivation. Learn to grow from setbacks and learn to reflect from criticism. The ancients said, "I will save myself and save myself."
Educating children is a science as well as an art. Education has never been the responsibility of one parent; Growing up is not just a matter for children. Children's inner strength requires not only their own efforts, but also the improvement of parents' educational methods.
I am a little mother. What troubles and setbacks have you encountered in the process of raising children? Welcome to discuss with me.