When children quarrel with each other and it is difficult for parents to calm their emotions, they may wish to use this method, which is similar to the "pause" mentioned above.
In other words, separate the children first and press the noisy button, but don't blame any one at that time, because if the children are not calm at this time, they will definitely try to tell their parents their own truth.
If the 3-year-old child puts ta in a safe environment and leaves ta alone for 3 or 5 minutes, then the parents will call the child out and ask them why they are fighting. Quiet children will also want to understand who is right and who is wrong at this time, and then sort out right and wrong.
At this time, parents' attitude should not be relaxed, and their expressions should be somewhat firm and serious, otherwise the previous few minutes of shock will be in vain.
Older children can relatively extend the cold time, and children aged 5 to 6 can leave ta alone in the bedroom for 5.6 minutes.
The longer the time, the better, but also according to the child's personality. Timid children have a shorter time, and bold children can have a longer time.
If children are noisy in the house when they are locked up, parents should ignore them and don't talk to them. Just wait until the "confinement" time is over and tell the child that it's time. Others will see their reaction and deal with it randomly.
This method is mainly aimed at impulsive and aggressive children, which can calm them down temporarily. It is a particularly effective emotional management method, but this method can't be used all the time, otherwise children will be immune after a long time.
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When two children quarrel, parents often jump out at the first time, either training this or pulling that, so why not just ignore it and let the children deal with it once.
This can exercise children's ability to solve problems and take responsibility.
In fact, the quarrel between children is also a kind of socialization, but because they are children and don't know how to be calm and flexible, they often solve conflicts in the most direct way at the first time.
If every time parents rush out to solve problems for their children, they lose the opportunity to learn to solve contradictions, and children are used to relying on their parents to distinguish right from wrong for them. If this happens for a long time, they will return to their parents.
I suggest that parents should pretend not to see their children making noise, avoid it and let them solve it themselves. It depends, of course. This method is suitable for those cases that are not serious.
Most children will quarrel, but if their parents are not included, they will make up faster, there will be no barriers, and they will not all feel that their parents are partial to which side.
Just instruct them how to deal with such things afterwards. When playing with brothers and sisters, you can set the rules of the game in advance to reduce conflicts. Secondly, if you make a mistake, you can do it in advance according to the punishment system, so that children can take it orally and not complain about each other.