Appreciation education is the premise of building children's self-confidence and encouraging their success. My family has always used the method of appreciation and encouragement to educate and guide children, so that she can correctly understand her achievements and shortcomings, build up self-confidence, overcome difficulties and finally reach the other side of success. Our family has specially set up a "success box" for children to record their success stories, collect their medals and certificates, and encourage children to establish self-confidence and dare to succeed.
Second, cultivate children's good study habits.
Habit is a relatively fixed behavior and tendency formed by people engaging in certain activities for a long time. Once this kind of behavior and tendency is formed, people will naturally do it, otherwise they will feel uncomfortable. Therefore, it is very important to help children develop good study habits. In the process of educating children, we should first pay attention to learning attitude and style, and often check whether children concentrate on reading, finish homework on time, write neatly, and persist in learning despite difficulties; Second, grasp the homework to see if the children consciously do their homework when they come home from school, whether to review before doing their homework, whether to check after finishing their homework, whether the mistakes and typos pointed out by the teacher are corrected, and whether the homework book is neat; Third, grasp the ability to see if children have the ability to review, preview, remember, think, write and calculate; Fourth, grasp the skills and skills to see if the child's homework format is correct, whether it is written well and quickly, whether the learning method is correct, and how the learning effect is.
Of course, to cultivate good study habits, we should also pay attention to the following problems: starting with "compulsion", being strict, patiently explaining, carefully observing and correcting at any time; Specific guidance, correct bad habits in learning bit by bit, and give full play to the advantages of imitation; Take advantage of the situation and encourage children to study consciously when they find out, so as to consolidate and gradually form habits; Constantly put forward new requirements, and timely check, urge, encourage and put forward requirements; Create learning conditions, let children study at their desks and create a quiet learning environment for children.
Third, do a good job of cooperation with teachers.
I feel that there is nothing more selfless than a teacher in the world! They always want to teach their students all their knowledge and never consider asking for anything in return. Sometimes, students whisper in class and don't listen carefully. As teachers, starting from the premise of being responsible for students, they severely criticized this. At this time, parents can't take an indifferent attitude. They should seize the opportunity to cooperate with the teacher to educate their children, sit down and talk to them calmly, communicate with them, find out the facts, and understand what mistakes the children have made and what their attitude is. They couldn't say one thing at school, but when they got home, their parents said another. If they criticize the teacher, the children will be puzzled for a while. Parents should not "push them to drink water", they can put it off again and again.
Fourth, cultivate children's sense of responsibility.
The sense of responsibility is the emotional experience that people produce after self-judging the social value brought by their words and deeds. When a person has a certain ability, he should be responsible for the corresponding things. Children tend to pay more attention to the process of behavior and less attention to the results of behavior. Therefore, to cultivate children's sense of responsibility, it is necessary to develop the habit of being responsible for the results of their actions. Conclude a responsibility contract, so that children can understand what to do and how to do it, otherwise they will be punished. Let children be proud of their sense of responsibility. Learn to be responsible for your own affairs. When children are asked to remember to do something, instead of being often reminded by adults, it is better for them to write down what they want to do and let them gradually learn to be responsible for their actions. Only when children learn to be responsible for their own affairs can they gradually become responsible for their families, others, the collective and society. Let children try to remedy the bad consequences caused by some of their actions. If children damage other people's toys, they must buy them back and return them to others. Perhaps the other party will think that the damaged toys are not much money, or that it is common for children to damage toys, or they are embarrassed to accept compensation from children. But parents should insist that their children compensate each other, so as to know who is responsible for the bad consequences. Of course, parents should set a good example for their children at home, "what they say must be done, and what they do must be done", so that they can have the prestige to ask their children to be responsible and let them have imitators.
Fifth, praise children artistically.
It is true that a good boy is praised. If you really want to praise your children, you can get the art of children-oriented and boasting. Praise children with a positive attitude. Praising children is not to meet some psychological needs of adults, but to cultivate children's good thoughts and behaviors. Some parents are busy with work during the day and housework after work. When they are busy and tired, they show impatience when communicating with their children. They feel that they are wordy, just to get rid of entanglement and respond to what their children like. In this way, it is easy to affirm the wrong words and deeds and cause misleading; It may also be indifferent to good behaviors that should be fully affirmed, which affects the enthusiasm of children. Therefore, to praise children, we should carefully observe their performance, patiently listen to their stories, understand their thoughts and activities under any circumstances, and then fully praise what should be affirmed. At the same time, we should also give positive guidance and education to incorrect words and deeds.
Praise children in time and in advance, so that children can develop the good habit of putting forward their own goals and self-motivation before doing anything, and improve their ability to act independently; Exaggerate things, cultivate children's perseverance and the spirit of hard study; Praise afterwards, cultivate children's correct self-evaluation ability and improve their psychological quality of self-education.
Praise children moderately, so that the language is gentle and sincere. Pay attention to praise children of different ages and personalities with different language tones. Moderate voice, praise children for their enthusiasm. Especially for young children, while verbally praising, you can use thumbs-up, touching your head, patting your shoulders, clapping your hands and hugging.