Modern society has high requirements for women.

For women who are mothers, it is even more excessive.

Just like when Ma Yili answered a reporter's question "How do women balance family and career", she said:

Yes, life is stressful and fast-paced, calling for women to be independent in their careers and share the economic burden of their families. This is reality.

However, in the traditional cognitive concept, the inherent cognition that women should be husbands and godchildren has not been eliminated. This is the status quo.

When reality meets the status quo, moms, it can't be too difficult! ! !

There are three kinds of mothers in my eyes:

Giving birth and raising children are all done by stay-at-home mothers. She gives her children the most companionship. With her, I have the most intimate care, growth and learning, and the best enlightenment.

But this kind of life often brings her something: her personal career is stranded and the original social circle can no longer be integrated.

When I was young, my ambitious dream turned into self-sacrifice, living almost like a nanny around pots and tables.

Every day, I can only watch the sunset rise and fall, repeating the life of sending my husband to work, eating and drinking Lazar with my children at home, and then waiting for my husband to come home from work.

Coupled with pregnancy, after giving birth to a baby, women are prone to postpartum depression.

At the same time, it is also troublesome to bring children by yourself. Why100000 people can ask about vomiting blood? These have become the tears of many stay-at-home mothers.

It is a comfort to watch your children grow up day by day, grow taller, eat stronger, walk, run, sing, jump, laugh happily and make trouble wantonly. This may be the only comfort for all stay-at-home mothers.

Even though the credit is so great, in the eyes of the public, the career of stay-at-home mother is often misunderstood as unlike a career.

The reason is that all contributions to the family and children are free, and there is no wage income.

Therefore, husbands only have various needs, children need money to eat and drink in Lazar, and family daily expenses also need money. In short, women's needs have come.

Too passive.

If you are lucky enough to meet a good husband and see the sacrifices you make for your family as a full-time mother, you will appreciate your selfless dedication every day, care for you, and help you share the family burden.

But there are too few such men in reality, and it is also a blessing to meet one in my life.

In a society where the pressure of work and life is so great, men themselves are hard, and often bring workplace emotions to yellow-faced women who only want them, but can't seem to share his little economic pressure.

Most stay-at-home mothers may fall into this unfortunate category.

Even if a stay-at-home mother gives everything for her children and family, what she gets is often her husband's impatience, disgust, accusation and even fearless deception.

In addition, if you stay away from the workplace for a long time, the original professional skills will gradually fade, the society will develop rapidly, and the iteration of updating new things and new knowledge will be very fast. The thoughts of stay-at-home mothers can't keep up with the trend, which makes it difficult for stay-at-home mothers who have been away from the workplace for a long time to return to the workplace.

Being a full-time mother blindly has become a passive "no return" of self-sacrifice and countless unknown risks.

This is the hardest part of being a stay-at-home mom.

Such a mother, who pursues her career wholeheartedly, is as independent and equal as men, and is a workaholic and promising woman.

You can't take care of your family, your children and grow up with you.

The brilliance of motherhood will inevitably make a mother unable to calm down all the time, or even deny herself countless times. The subconscious often reminds itself that she is an incompetent mother.

Of course, I will continue to work hard to convince myself that this effort is for this family and for giving children a better future.

There will also be countless times when children are not around, so that children are wronged, crying, sick, injured, secretly wiping tears, and countless times blaming themselves.

I think every mother who is a full-time woman has had this experience.

There are gains and losses, and there are always people who will make irresponsible remarks.

In this society, if you are too busy in your career, unhappy in your family and neglect your children, there will always be someone behind your back who will educate you: "It is a woman's business to take good care of children."

If the husband doesn't say it, he will say that the other person is a bad mother: "It's really not like a woman to take care of children."

At the same time, without children's companionship and love, education is easy to be missing, growth is a problem, and the relationship between mother and child will become a problem in the future.

Therefore, this series can only hope that children will grow up and be sensible, because they work blindly and ignore the problems brought by their families. It's not easy and hard to understand. It's also for this family to work so hard outside.

The child doesn't understand and can't help it. After all, time will not go back. I grew up with my children for more than ten years, and I will miss them after that.

Who let a mother only care about her career and ignore her family?

What is really needed in this era is such a mother, who can not only play the role of an independent woman with a career, but also be a good wife and mother!

Career, individual independence and value realization are the basis of a person's survival.

It is a woman's responsibility and obligation as a mother to raise children and accompany them to grow up.

Of course, children are the crystallization of husband and wife, which is also the responsibility and obligation of the role of father.

How to balance family and career has always been a controversial topic on the Internet.

Personally, I prefer Iola's answer:

Yes, family and career are very important. We should have them. There is really no way to sort, and there is no need to sort.

This is the problem. Is it difficult to make such a slash, mom?

It's too difficult for one person to bear.

Because there are only 1 mothers, and there are no superhuman powers.

In fact, in life, in our life, every time we have one more role, our time and energy will be invisibly divided.

Woman, wife, mother, yes, these are the roles of a mother woman.

Therefore, it is not easy for anyone, male or female, to take care of family and career.

Therefore, if you want to be a slash mom easily, besides being strong enough, you need a slash dad who understands you and knows how to share your burden.

Yes, a husband like you can do a good job and take care of the family and children.

Because times have changed, it is no longer the time when men can work hard outside and firmly support the whole family.

Since women all go to work and share the economic pressure, it is time to change people's traditional perception that only men support their families. Husbands naturally need to share the burden of taking care of the family.

This is fair!

After all, life is lived by two people, and the economic pressure of the family is borne by two people. The child is born to two people and needs to be raised by two people together.

It should be!

Therefore, it is very important to find a good husband.

Women are afraid of marrying the wrong person, but the ancients did not deceive others.

With such a good husband, parents can accompany their children and feel the happiness brought by their parents; But also in the workplace or personal entrepreneurship, experience the happiness of personal pursuit and value realization.

Of course, when a child encounters such a diagonal line, he must listen to his mother and don't let her get hurt.

Because she's really not easy.

Finally, May 10 is a special day: Mother's Day.

As children, we thank her, the superman who raised me, gave me love and warmth, and took you and me to grow and fly together.

Now, we have grown up.

You can take the responsibility alone, and it's time to share the burden of your mother and honor your parents.

Happy Mother's Day to all mothers in the world.

Children don't have to worry too much.

Besides being a mother, you are still yourself. Think more about yourself and be kind to yourself, whether it is Mother's Day or not.

Your children will love you forever!