Be obedient, teach them to study hard and persuade them not to be too headstrong. I hope they will take less detours they have experienced, and I will give them good advice if I know. In this way, my brothers and sisters seem to be learning to discipline their brothers and sisters in the way of mom and dad, even though they know they don't like that way.
In fact, brothers and sisters wish they were brothers or sisters. In this way, when they are helpless, they will be relied on, when they are proud, they will show off, when they want to lose their temper, they will be willful, and when they want gifts, they will be spoiled.
Brothers and sisters must learn to solve problems properly first, but what they have been trying to achieve is a matter of course, and they will always refrain from losing their temper, because adults will say that they are not sensible, and even if they want gifts, they always want to let their brothers and sisters.
Brothers and sisters were raised by their parents in this way, so they learned to look like their parents. They haven't learned how to be good brothers and sisters, but they don't need to learn how to be good brothers and sisters, because who cares about a little careless words and a few angry words?
They also want to talk easily with their brothers and sisters as friends, and they are also willing to know their own thoughts. After all, the age gap is not very big, but it always backfires. Brothers and sisters always regard their brothers and sisters as spies sent by their parents, remain vigilant, and dare not tell their truth at all, for fear that their secrets will be revealed, thus attracting punishment from adults.
No matter what I think, I can't change the way my brothers and sisters set them free, and I can't change their willingness to bow their heads. The only way I can think of is to make my brothers and sisters respect their choices and give them some advice they think they need, while my brothers and sisters understand their brothers and sisters' goodness and then make them proud.