The method of educating children to be human 1 simple and specific, such as? Make the bed. There is no rubbish on the ground? All the clothes are in the closet? Wait, not the general? Tidy up the room? .
When talking to a child, don't ask questions, but tell him directly what to do in a respectful and firm tone, such as? Please put away your toys at once? Instead of. Can you put away your toys? Otherwise, the child will interpret the literal as? Toys can be collected.
Do not accept? And use one? No? Reject every word you say.
In front of children, you should pay attention to controlling your emotions: the calmer you are, the more obedient your child will be and the more willing to obey the rules. Your patience will infect your child, learn to be patient.
4 Talk face to face, face to face with your child, remind the child to look at you, let the child focus on your face, it is best to call the child's name and make eye contact with the child, so that you will have a sense of identity and speak more convincingly.
Given appropriate consequences, when parents' preaching is ineffective, they often start to scare children. I'm going to throw all your toys out? 、? I'll never buy you a toy again? Maybe my mother has said this before, and the children know that her mother is just talking and won't implement it, so they don't take it seriously. Give your child a practical consequence and make him realize that you are not just talking.
6 decline corporal punishment. After intimidation is ineffective, many angry parents choose corporal punishment. Corporal punishment is actually a kind of physical intimidation, which makes children feel a sense of fear. Obedience obtained through intimidation is only temporary, or waiting for a rebound in the future, or it is already weak. We hope that children obey the rules because they know the truth, not because they are intimidated.
The rules that children need to know 1, no vulgar and barbaric behavior.
As the saying goes? See the old at seven? Therefore, to cultivate children's good habits, we must start from an early age and start from daily behavior norms. In daily life, children should not have vulgar and barbaric behavior, and parents should regulate their good behavior.
For example, parents should educate their children not to litter or make a scene on any occasion.
Don't take other people's things at will.
Because children are still young, many behaviors are unconscious and will not predict the consequences of things. Therefore, if parents find that their children like to take other people's things, they should pay attention to educating their children and let them know that they can't take other people's things at will and have autonomy over their own things.
When others complain that their children have taken other people's things, if the children are too scared to admit that they have taken them themselves, parents should tell them in a relaxed tone. I know you took something from others, and you have to return it if you take something from others! ?
Parents should let their children know that they are unhappy when they do something wrong, but others are equally unhappy when they take their own things.
What you took should be returned to the original owner.
Children see what they like and want to keep it for themselves. If you find that your child likes to take other people's things and is unwilling to return them, you must remind your child.
If children don't return other people's things for a long time, they will subconsciously feel that as long as they like things, there is no need to return them to others, so grown-up children are prone to theft.
Where did you get the things you used, and where did you send them back after you used them?
Many parents will encounter the same situation. Children throw their things everywhere, but when they find something, they can only ask their parents for help, but they can't find it at all. Even if parents go to find it, it will take a lot of effort. If you grow up like this, I'm afraid the children can't take care of themselves.
In fact, it's not just putting things, but also doing things. Doing every little thing in order and classifying things will cultivate children's habit of doing things in order.
What parents should do is to teach their children to put things in several categories and fix them in a certain area of the room. Other things can't be put in this area.
5, follow the first come, first served, can not jump the queue at will.
Many parents may encounter this situation. When they see a bus coming into the station on their way to and from work, everyone will flock to it. There should have been a good queue, but at this time, no one obeyed the discipline. Many people think that in China, the concept of first come, first served and not jumping in line at will is very weak.
Therefore, in order for everyone to develop good habits in the future, parents should train their children on a first-come-first-served basis from an early age, and don't jump the queue at will.
Children should be trained to be orderly, polite and not casual from an early age. In this way, when children grow up, they will have a deep-rooted concept and know that they should know how to be a person.
6. Knock before entering the door, and don't disturb others at will.
In daily work, leaders hate people who rush into the office without knocking, because maybe some confidential documents of the leaders can't be leaked at this time, just because of yours? A surprise attack? The leader is very unhappy.
Therefore, it is polite and respectful to knock when entering other people's rooms. Therefore, if children want to be polite and likable when they grow up, they should be taught to knock before entering the door and not to disturb others at will.
Parents should set a good example if they want their children to be polite. For example, when you go to a friend's house, knock at the door first, or wait for the host to say come in, or wait for the host to open the door before entering. Let the children listen, and get into the habit of knocking at the door before entering the door.
7. apologize for doing something wrong
Everyone makes mistakes, let alone children. Some parents feel that they have no face because of their children's mistakes, so they beat and scold their children in front of everyone, and their self-esteem is frustrated. It may also lead children to recognize your educational methods on the surface, but their hearts are full of hatred and psychological distortion.
The practical method of cultivating good habits should start with cultivating children's sense of responsibility. Let the children pack their own bags, dress themselves and learn to take care of themselves. In addition, children should be allowed to undertake some housework from an early age, such as taking out the garbage and sweeping the floor. After children have a sense of responsibility for life, they will naturally have a sense of responsibility for learning and know how to take care of others. They will be welcomed by their classmates and their leadership skills will naturally be cultivated.
Second, we should concentrate on listening in class to improve classroom efficiency. Encourage children to solve problems at school and try not to go home to review. At the same time, parents should not compare their children with others. The younger the child, the greater the developmental difference.
Third, let children develop the habit of concentrating on homework. Parents should try their best to create a quiet environment for their children when they do their homework to avoid distraction. Children in the first and second grades of primary school are not easy to concentrate. Parents can prepare an alarm clock and stipulate that children should play for 20 minutes after learning 10, and don't engage in fatigue tactics.
Fourth, cultivate children's curiosity. Discuss all kinds of problems in life with children, let them form the habit of observation and thinking, and guide them to treat social phenomena correctly.
Fifth, insist on exercising with children. Exercise is good for children's growth and development.