But for children, love is full of derogatory elements. For them, it is not happiness, but harm.
I don't know when it started, but there is a trend of puppy love on campus. Children who should be angry and study hard hold hands with each other, and the drawers are full of love letters, and they don't go home after school on Valentine's Day.
So why can children choose to jump into the "quagmire" of love while knowing that "puppy love is harmful"?
In the final analysis, it is all these three reasons: adolescent rebellion. When the child's body and mind develop to a certain extent, it will usher in adolescence. At this time, children began to have their own ideas and felt that they should not listen to their parents' opinions.
So they will do the right thing with teachers and parents again and again. The more parents tell them not to fall in love, the more they want to limit their freedom of love, the more they have to face difficulties. They don't need a reason to fall in love, they just don't want to listen to adults.
Lack of sex education for parents. Sex education has always been a serious topic. Although parents know this is very important to their children, they often find it difficult to talk about it or avoid talking about it.
Therefore, children will develop a kind of cognition from carefulness. There is no need for distance between men and women, and men and women should get along closely. Slowly, in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, they will be together because of normal desires and choices, and they don't know in their hearts that this is wrong.
Campus atmosphere. There is no road in the world. If there are many people walking, it becomes a road.
As Lu Xun said, it is a truth. Because puppy love happened to the first couple on campus, because it was not stopped in time, children would yearn for each other and even compare with each other.
They also want to imitate others' so-called sweetness and keep up with the trend of puppy love in the "army", so they begin to puppy love one after another and are proud of it.
These three reasons are realistic. To a great extent, parents can't avoid puppy love, but they never advocate puppy love.
Puppy love will bring a lot of harm: it will affect learning. Learning is the most important thing for children. The academic competition is very fierce now. As long as you don't pay attention, you may fall behind a lot.
However, puppy love children will waste a lot of time on dating and making phone calls, and will always worry about each other, leading to inattention and easy desertion. Because of trivial matters, their mood will be affected and they will spend little time on their studies.
Distort the concept of love. Children see things too simply, and their cognition of things begins at an early age.
They are too blind in puppy love and think that this is love in life, but they don't know the complexity of love, the economic foundation, the comparative charm between people, the sense of responsibility, etc., which will distort the concept of love and think that love is simple and natural.
Can't accept the blow of lovelorn. The total score of lovers is on and off, and so are the children who fall in love with each other, but they are unable to fight in adulthood, so they can't bear the blow when the relationship breaks down.
The lighter may be academic decline and withdrawn personality. Serious may hunger strike, and even thought about suicide.
Seeing the disadvantages of puppy love, many parents must have gasped. No parents want to see their children get hurt, but the children refuse to listen and change.
So what should parents do? Encourage children to yearn for love. Children choose to run counter to their parents because they feel that their parents can't understand them and love them, and their parents knew it before, but they just expressed it in the wrong way.
Love is really beautiful. Parents should tell their children the importance of love, encourage them to yearn for love and let them face up to their love for the opposite sex. However, parents should tell their children the disadvantages of puppy love. Although they support it, they should wait for their children to grow up and fight for it.
Don't run to school to make noise. Many parents, after discovering their children's puppy love, choose to go to school to hold a "tripartite meeting" with their teachers and parents.
On the surface, it seems that parents and teachers attach great importance to it, but in fact, this practice has a huge blow to children. Young lovers who love each other will be laughed at by others and their self-esteem will be frustrated, so they hate their parents even more and choose more excessive ways to anger their parents.
Comfort and enlighten in time. Some children like to have an "underground romance", but when they are lovelorn, they will fall into sadness. At this time, parents must not ignore it or be cynical, which will only increase the harm to their children.
Parents should always accompany their children to observe, comfort and enlighten them, tell them that there are many fish in the sea, and let them be full of hope for the future, and don't be overly immersed in the current sadness.
Puppy love is a common but serious topic, which is not only the product of children's growth, but also harmful to their physical and mental health. Therefore, parents must face up to the disadvantages and reality of puppy love and know how to educate their children in the right way.